Think im getting dumped!

[bleedlikeme]

The other night we were kinda talking on the phone (he called me) but the conversation wasnt really going anywhere so I told him "im gonna go this conversation isn't going anywhere" then phone cut out so we never said proper goodbyes.
I said him a text saying "goodnight then" and he sent one back saying "it cut out. night".
I saw he was on fb but he didn't start any chats with me

We exchange some texts the next night
ME:"I miss you badly. i wanna come see you"
HIM: "aww your so sweet. im watching a movie with a friend. what you doing".
ME: "Not a lot...just watching tv at home."
HIM: "I would come see you but it'll be too late to get there by the time friend leaves"
ME: "That's ok I understand ill just keep watching tv"
HIM: "AWWW "

Anyway I didn't hear from him on Sunday (the next day).

Do you think judging by his responses that he could be looking at ending it.
It's been a week since we've hung out.
Should i not text him until he texts me again?

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Do you think judging by his responses that he could be looking at ending it.

Um, no. If anything, YOU sound like the one who might want to end it. First you said "This conversation isn't going anywhere" before hanging up, and then you said (in essence) "It's not worth going over there."

Lex

 

[exceeder]

The other night we were kinda talking on the phone (he called me) but the conversation wasnt really going anywhere so I told him "im gonna go this conversation isn't going anywhere" then phone cut out so we never said proper goodbyes.
I said him a text saying "goodnight then" and he sent one back saying "it cut out. night".
I saw he was on fb but he didn't start any chats with me

We exchange some texts the next night
ME:"I miss you badly. i wanna come see you"
HIM: "aww your so sweet. im watching a movie with a friend. what you doing".
ME: "Not a lot...just watching tv at home."
HIM: "I would come see you but it'll be too late to get there by the time friend leaves"
ME: "That's ok I understand ill just keep watching tv"
HIM: "AWWW "

Anyway I didn't hear from him on Sunday (the next day).

Do you think judging by his responses that he could be looking at ending it.
It's been a week since we've hung out.
Should i not text him until he texts me again?

Your sending mixed signals in my honest opinion... I mean, first you said the thing about "this not goin anywhere" and you text him later telling him how you miss him and you want to see him.

Now granted I've never been in a relationship, but I would be rather wary and confused if I were to get that kind of mixed message.

If I were you, I would present the opportunity to meet up and hang out, or whatever it is you do when you guys are together. If he accepts, then clearly you guys are ether still good or will possibly have a talk about whatever is up.

If he is busy or whatever, then 'the ball is in his court' as they say. You've taken the initiative to come forward about seeing him again, if he is legitimately busy, then it would be up to him to make the move back and offer another time or date if he isn't trying to break things up.

But hey, I could be totally wrong and giving you bad advice! This is just where I stand. I would usually follow Lex's advice. Judging from previous posts, he seems to know what he is talking about!

Hope it all works out!

 

[StlKj]

Can we please get a sticky on the front page of this forum that says "DON'T RUN (OR RUIN) YOUR RELATIONSHIP THROUGH TEXT MESSAGES!"

Talk to him. Actually talk to him. Analyzing messages that were spontaneously typed in less than thirty seconds is not a good way to gauge whether or not your relationship has survivor potential.

He didn't start any FB chat with you--why didn't you start one with him? He hasn't texted you--why haven't you texted him? You're playing with him, testing him to see if he's going to respond to you. Have you done that before? Is he wise to you testing him? Are you high maintenance in any way?

Of course, you didn't really ask about how to work on this relationship. All you asked was whether or not it sounds like you're getting dumped. So, I don't have enough information to do anything other than guess, but my guess is that if you don't do some things differently here, the answer is "yes.

 

[bleedlikeme]

I'm giving him some space atm because I don't want to see overly needy or obsessive.

The last thing I texted was how much I missed him so he obviously knows where I stand.

I can't see what more I can do right now other than wait it out and see where he takes it from here.

 

[StlKj]

I'm giving him some space atm because I don't want to see overly needy or obsessive.

The last thing I texted was how much I missed him so he obviously knows where I stand.

I can't see what more I can do right now other than wait it out and see where he takes it from here.

And there you go. Why not call him and just ask him to go to a movie, or to get a bite to eat or something? You're treating your relationship like it's one big text conversation. "Well, I texted him last, so now he has to text me back."

If you really want to know if he's brushing you off, call him and ask him if he'd like to get together to do something. If he doesn't want to, then just ask him if he's still into this relationship. Take some initiative--relationships don't just happen, and they don't just fix themselves if something is wrong. Of course, they can just end if you're not willing to put the time and energy into really communicating with someone.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I can't see what more I can do right now other than wait it out and see where he takes it from here.

And hope you don't say (or text) something that can be misconstrued next time? And hope he doesn't misunderstand the fact that you not texting him means "I'm giving you space" not "I'm not interested in conversing with you"?

I'd say call him, but I'm over being the Luddite. Apparently, everybody is determined to do everything via text now, even though it means 5000 threads of the "what does THIS mean" variety every week.

Text him. Say "I feel like I've been blowing you off a bit recently, and I miss hanging out with you. I'm free this weekend. Did you want to go see (movie)? Or maybe hit the bars?"

Or if that's too much for your fingers (or texting plan), text "U free Fri?" and hope he gets the message.

Lex

 

[Kirbster66]

>>>Do you think judging by his responses that he could be looking at ending it.

Um, no. If anything, YOU sound like the one who might want to end it. First you said "This conversation isn't going anywhere" before hanging up, and then you said (in essence) "It's not worth going over there."

Lex

You completely misconstrued the second part. In no place did he say or imply that it's not worth going over there. In fact he said the opposite.

 

[G-Lexington]

True, I did. But my advice stands.

Lex

 

[ucfknight12]

I agree with you need to call him. Me and my boyfriend have a strict policy on text messaging to keep from all this misunderstanding. We really only text to ask silly questions like asking for dates of something or what time we're hanging out.We can also text if its too noisy to call, but only for certain reasons like an "I love you" or an "I miss you" or to tell this person I said hi or shit like that. If we have an issue we either call or meet in person, texting can cause such unnecessary drama in a relationship because they can be misunderstood because texts have no syntax.

 

[mac_twck]

If you can not be bothered to actually call or *gasp* go over there and talk in person, the I would say yes your "relationship" is over.

My two cents? I hate texting for anything other than C U in 5. They are too impersonal.

 

[vanvan10081]

Let me tell you, coming from a person that has done one or more variations of exactly what you are doing. I've done it, and my boyfriend have broken up for more than one reason, partly because there wasn't much to talk about. First off, your relationship is not over.

You need to relax. You're putting down the relationship and not really giving him the chance to respond to you properly. You text him that you want to see him badly. ok he gets that. Then this is how you text, and i know you text it on purpose. <<Not a lot...just watching tv at home.>> You are trying to get a reaction aren't you? You are thinking that he isn't really reciprocating what you are feeling, which is longing for him. But take a step back and understand that he's hanging with his friend, watching a movie.

You can tell me you understand, like you told him. But we both know that you are guilting him into hanging out with you. he just said that he cant come over because there wont be enough time.

You tell him <<That's ok I understand ill just keep watching tv>>

I mean cmon, you're using that text as bait, to see if he'd give in, feel bad, and come over. With a guy, or with anyone you are with, you need to tell them what you want. Or tell them what you're really feeling. He's not going to guess it. He's not going to read your mind. I mean really, you even said, <<i understand>>. So what'll he think? He's giving me <<me time>> that's nice of him. But if you read his last text <<AWWW >> You know for a fact that he'd be there if he could. He feels kinda helpless in the situation, being that he's already preoccupied with his friend, and he can't come too see you. Relax. Talk to him. You're using a cell phone to text him right?

You need to take a deep breath. Relax and listen to some of your music, bc you're stressing when you don't need to. And TRUST ME with this, DO NOT test your boyfriend.

I'm 19, and I was in an 8 month long distance relationship that ended officially yesterday. I've cried sure, i'm still coping, but trust me on this. I've done it.

 

[briefboy86]

I've been in a long distance relationship for the last year and a half, I only got to see the BF on the weekends because he lived 128 miles away, and just on easter sunday, i dropped him off at the airport for a 5 month study abroad in Japan, so communication has been slim, once a day if were lucky. The key is to communicate how you are feeling, dont send open ended statements, its important to say how you are feeling and what YOU are needing, and also for you to ask what YOUR BF is needing.

Just talk it out, it will be much better if you do that!