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Thinking about hooking up with a guy for the first time

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Hey everyone, Ive recently met a guy on craigslist that I think is the right guy for me to try it with. I trust him and think he is a really good guy. We are both the same age, similar stats, and we are both bi and are both just looking for a regular bud to mess with. We have been talking for 2 months or so and I feel like he is the right person to try it with.

Do you think I should meet him for lunch or go do something before actually going farther? Should I still give it a little more time before meeting?

Thank you
 
I've always been of the opinion to let someone know where you'll be and with whom when it comes to these kind of meetings.

Trust your inner voice. If something doesn't feel right, bail.
 
Definitely meet up in person in a public place first. I bought something on craigslist once and it was very very very reassuring after meeting the person at a mall food court before going further with the purchase.

This is obviously MUCH bigger than a simple cell phone purchase, so definitely meet in a public place first. Just to be safe. People aren't always what they seem online.
 
Definately meet and talk in person first. I recently met someone on a gay hook up site. We are about the same age and were looking for the same thing. After several e-mails we agreed to meet for lunch. After many lunch meetings, and a lot of talking, we finally got around to having sex. So far, things are great, so start by talking in person, in public, first.
 
Thanks for your input guys. My only problem is that im not out as bi to anyone except for him so telling people where im going to be would be a little awkward. I can take care of myself if he tried to do something though.


I was thinking of maybe going to lunch or like a batting cage so that its in public and we can talk and get to know each other better.

Also, im very nervous and dont want to give him a bad first impression. Do you guys know what I can do to not feel as nervous? Thanks again
 
You're going on a shady meeting with a stranger you met on a super shady site with the intention to have sex. The only thing you can do not to feel nervous is to have huge confidence, which you can't really do right now.

Also, don't assume you can take care of yourself. One roofie later and you will be taken very good care of. For hours. Closeted guys are exactly the ones that are the easiest to take advantage of. You're all hiding and ashamed, so they can do a LOT to you and get away with it because in order to call them out on it would mean outing yourselves.

Just be careful, that's all.
 
Yes , you must meet and it must be in public. You must get a bit of the guys history, is he married, is he in the middle of a messy breakup, his health status etc., so think it all through.
There are sincere people out there but there are ratbags too.
Good luck.
 
closeted hookups... i remember how exhausting it was.
but ok, im just gonna say one thing: at all times, make decisions with your head and not your dick.
also, im gonna quote this for truth:

Rolyo85 said:
Closeted guys are exactly the ones that are the easiest to take advantage of. You're all hiding and ashamed, so they can do a LOT to you and get away with it because in order to call them out on it would mean outing yourselves.

Just be careful, that's all.
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I've been in this situation more than once unfortunately. The best advice i can give was from another poster also: Use your head, not your dick. Because you tend to think a lot clearer right after you cum and return to reality, and you want to make sure you are okay with that reality. A public place is a MUST, because a vibe over the phone is NOT always the same vibe you get in person. It may be better, or it could be worse. And my personal preferance for hook ups is adam4adam.
 
You guys have been talking for two months and still not have met! I'm surprised he is still around!

Yes, go out on a date with him, dinner and a movie.
 
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