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Thinking of going to a gay center

Lifeafter30

Lifeafter30

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What do men talk about in discussion and activities groups at gay centers? I know it's a drop in group but what actually goes on once you're there?
 
Harke the Boeotarch said:
^ They talk about all kinds of stuff, but mainly about being gay. Why don't you go see for yourself?
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I'm really horny. I don't really want to talk. I wish I could just walk in and be paired up with a guy in the group - like write down the number of the guy you're interested in and the leader of the group will decide who gets paired with who. Then just go to a part of the room and blow each other.
 
I'm nervous about seeing for myself because I have no idea what to expect. I don't want to be trapped there if I don't like it. Like everyone knowing each other ahead of time and staring me down. I want to walk in and be ravaged by older men grabbing and groping me.
 
I have never been to a gay center...been to an MCC "function" though and I couldn't get out of there fast enough. They actually had a conga line....eek....

I did join a gay bowling league for a couple years though and that was great...lots of teams and everyone seemed friendly and fun to bowl with....maybe check one of those out..or some other sporting teams..something where you aren't stuck in a room.
 
I think I would much prefer people staring me down to getting groped by strange men as I walk in..

How are you nervous about being trapped there and yet want people to grab you?
 
Lifeafter30 said:
I'm really horny. I don't really want to talk. I wish I could just walk in and be paired up with a guy in the group - like write down the number of the guy you're interested in and the leader of the group will decide who gets paired with who. Then just go to a part of the room and blow each other.
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Do you have a gay bathhouse close by? It sounds like it might be what you are looking for....

I mentioned the bowling league in my last post...I did have sex with some of them but I really wasn't expecting or looking for sex..it just happened....
 
vidarr said:
I think I would much prefer people staring me down to getting groped by strange men as I walk in..

How are you nervous about being trapped there and yet want people to grab you?
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I meant staring me down in the sense that they're sizing me up to decide whether to talk to me and include me or ignore me. I just want to be grabbed and felt up. And also I think I'm just sexually perverted from never having sex or jacking off with other guys. It's driven me crazy. I find myself sometimes jacking off next to guys in bathrooms. I jacked off at a urinal right next to a stall a guy was in - I just loved the idea that he either knew I was jacking off right next to him or he had no clue cause he was too busy taking a shit or listening to music. I shot a huge load and then walked out. He never came out of the stall.
 
Yes, you're right. A bathhouse is the type of environment I'm looking for - I'll just have to keep searching craigslist. Makes me laugh the way you said, "I did have sex with some of them".
eastofeden said:
Do you have a gay bathhouse close by? It sounds like it might be what you are looking for....

I mentioned the bowling league in my last post...I did have sex with some of them but I really wasn't expecting or looking for sex..it just happened....
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I'm getting a little tired of the gay thing though. I don't care how many times some of you people attack me when I start to go off the rails. I'm sick of having to search far and wide for potential sexual partners all the time. And I'm considering just looking for women to have sex with - there are plenty of them everywhere and at least I wouldn't feel uncomfortable. I'd be able to talk to them at least.
Lifeafter30 said:
Yes, you're right. A bathhouse is the type of environment I'm looking for - I'll just have to keep searching craigslist. Makes me laugh the way you said, "I did have sex with some of them".
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It's either meetings and/or board games at centers, neither of which you're looking for. You'd probably have better luck with craigslist. How are you failing at cl, anyway? Do you need help with writing or something? Cuz I'll volunteer the internet version o'penmanship and get someone to come to you* if you quit with the repetitive threads.

*i make no promises that they'll stick around or return but I'm decent at finding individuals who travel.
 
Thank you for your offer. I may accept it. Though, I can't tell whether or not you're serious. I guess I have no right to say I'm insulted since I ask for it everytime I do this. I don't host anyone though ever. I travel to him. I won't go to anyone unless they provide me with an address. I have a tentative appointment for tomorrow in North White Plains. Hopefully it'll be an actual married man. He claims to be one. The idea that his wife could find out just tickles me pink. Hopefully he won't chloroform me. But I want to do it. I'm too chicken shit to go to the gay center and try and meet a man normally so right now this is all I've got. I don't want to be rejected in a room with 150 gay men. But going to a married man's house (if it's really true) it just seems like it's more likely he'll let me in even if he doesn't like my face once he sees it. Cause I'm already there. And I'm big (6'2", 235). And maybe he's got no other prospects for the day.
luckynumbah7 said:
It's either meetings and/or board games at centers, neither of which you're looking for. You'd probably have better luck with craigslist. How are you failing at cl, anyway? Do you need help with writing or something? Cuz I'll volunteer the internet version o'penmanship and get someone to come to you* if you quit with the repetitive threads.

*i make no promises that they'll stick around or return but I'm decent at finding individuals who travel.
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I already do. I'm considering now stopping the benzodiazpines I've been taking for years and taking something meant for long term use to help me with my repetitive thoughts. If I could just stop them I would probably have no anxiety about meeting men the right way. I know that what I'm doing now is sketchy especially since I've got so many advantages to being where I am - gay center that some travel from other counties to attend within walking distance and access to services to help me.
luckynumbah7 said:
I was entirely serious. You may also want to talk to a psychiatrist, racing, repetitive thoughts aren't usually good for you.
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By all means, go to the center for services. But it's not for cruising and they tend to frown on that on-premise.
Craigslist is only sketchy if you're naive and/or new. Most of the people are genuine - which is also, funnily enough, why most are flaky and there's lots of copy/paste - because people are also lazy. Might take a couple weeks due to your virginity, though. The people who'd respond to that specifically you don't want. You want attentative and respectful, it's usually at least a 2 week shifting through crap process, plus half the time you meet for coffee first. Possibly a week or two longer, considering your demographic is different than mine (ie; larger, more people to weed through)

I should just do a 'how to use apps In a safer manner' pamphlet.

If you're planning on changing medication, I'd wait for that to stabilize before using a hookup app.
 
luckynumbah7 said:
How are you failing at cl, anyway? Do you need help with writing or something? Cuz I'll volunteer the internet version o'penmanship and get someone to come to you* if you quit with the repetitive threads.

*i make no promises that they'll stick around or return but I'm decent at finding individuals who travel.
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I do need help with craigslist. I'm still failing at it. Btw, where do you live? Can I see a pic of you?
 
I never said I'd be with you myself, just so we're clear. If you message an emaili'll send a headshot.

To be clear, it isn't photos, most of the time,that weed one out of craigslist. Tho having a photo (and not -just- a dick pic) raises your chances considerably. Email me your cl ad and what/who you're looking for and I'll explain how to write it and how to weed out the flakes and the possibly dangerous. How to do that actually changes depending on what activities you're looking for, so be thorough in listing. And try not to let your libido get ahead of you the first few times around.
 
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