To be bi/Gay in high school!

[awesomedude21]

This will be the only thread I post in as I'm 90% sure I'm never returning(I said that b/c im a Freshmen....in high school), but please help me!! Ok, i realised i was bi in 7th grade. Didnt tell no one, so its very stressful. Especially hearing every1 sex stories(Yea i know surprising.) I truly was miserable b/c i wanted a bf and everyone was homophobic. I moved 8th grade summer(Yay!). I went 4 sign ups for classes and saw open gay guy! I thought maybe i could come out. When school started, i did see a few gays but upperclassmen..... Ugh. But since then ive made new friends(girls are highlight 4 this post), and they talk about there being a lotta closeted guys and even people i don't know talk about them!! That made me happy but sad.

Now heres the big problem. Im VERY shy, and hard for me to know people. I think i may have to tell a few I go both ways. Would it be best to wait to summer?(where i could know them more by then.) Are females really good sources in high school? Thank you/Give advice

 

[awesomedude21]

(typing on ps3. wouldn't want 2 get caught hehe Sorry for double post) Plus how was the introduction process for you if you met another closeted person in high school. Very stressful.

 

[wonderfulwilkinson]

You should try using www.emptyclosets.com. More age appropriate.

I personally think, for one, don't pretend to be straight. Don't lie and be yourself. With that said, you don't need to tell everyone your sexuality. That shouldn't be the most important aspect of who you are. I think that it's okay to tell REAL friends who you trust, but be knowledgeable of who you tell, because HS kids can be fickle and hormonal and someone may try to use your sexuality against you, which is stupid, useless, and pointless.

Be confident and do all of that good stuff in Lady Gaga songs. lol

 

[justwant2know]

Honestly i could feel you plight but to tell you the truth (that is just it the truth will always come out and will set you free at the same time). But only a serious note dont trust some1 with that type of guarded information unless youre sure that either A: they wont run telling the whole school or B: you have accepted the fact your bi and dont care if every1 knows. Basically think be4 you do anything bud.


Oh yeah... if you would like to meet bi guys in you area try Adam4Adam dot com there are plenty of people who are in the closet but would like to explore there feelings on there... Give it a try...

 

[awesomedude21]

Also saying, im no where near feminine so im not pretending. o.o Plus i don't want to tell everyone. Basically wanna use girls for connections. I'd never plan on getting bullied b/c unlike A LOT of gays or what not who are scary, I fight... plus i snitch(but dats my last resort in this situation) oh yea im starting to accept im bi but just don't want every1 to know =P Why yall telling me group names? im in the closet.... oh yea, i live in Lithonia,GA if its possible i could meet sum1 @ my school tell the site then. Yall a gr8 help too. May have to do it 9th grade summer

 

[awesomedude21]

definately bi never will fall in love (yet) Dumb when teens are "in love. Have hard time meeting people so y approach gay folks? i have no choice but to way to come out to a few people(All girls). I pretty much want to fool around(like all male teens) so yea. .. o_o

 

[rysmiley88]

How are you on this site if you are a Freshmen/Sophomore in High School? If your posts are legit, I think you need to find a more age-appropriate forum. But I will give you some advice. I came out in High School, (Junior year), and I had a very positive response from my good friends and acquaintences. The Bullies were typical Bullies, but the support from my group of friends was greater than what the Bullies could dish out. I'm in my 30's now, and I am now good friends with some of those who teased me in school. Those friends (now) who were really rotten to me are now embarrassed by their behavior, and regretful. I know that my experience may not be typical, but some people do grow and mature. Once you're out of High School, you're subjected to many different experiences and opinions. Some will benefit from that, some wont. Rely on those who stick wth you from the start of your "coming out". With time, you will likely find more coming to your corner, if they don't..who needs them..Live your true life. It may be rough at first, but it DOES get better! Good Luck!

 

[awesomedude21]

Theres this thing called google... (o.o) I cant possibly be only teen to know about this site. You do have a point about after high school. More opportunities. Sadly i have to wait. Also not to sound racist but i go to all black school(im black) They seem less gay but these females keep talking bout who else on dl Hmmm

 

[awesomedude21]

Just realised something: why must gay people wear condoms? 4 sucking it/eating it out? please elaborate..

 

[kwhotboi]

One wears condoms to protect yourself from diseases.
While sucking cock is considered safe for HIV it is not safe for other STD's. Google STD's so you know what you are exposing yourself to. The reality is knock up a girl and she could get pregnant - knock up a guy and he could die. Big Difference.
It is better to play safe than be sorry later.

 

[awesomedude21]

Which main Stds? How would he die?

 

[kwhotboi]

There are several different STDs that one can get from either oral or anal sex. Google STD and learn what they are. If you want to be sexually active you have to learn about what STDs are and how to protect yourself.

How would he die? All it takes is one unprotected exposure to the HIV virus and one becomes infected with HIV which eventually can turn into full blown AIDS and kill you as HIV destroys the bodies immune system.

If you want to be sexually active make sure you understand the risks and protect yourself.

Enjoy sex and have fun - just do it safely.

 

[awesomedude21]

Oh every1 knows about Hiv i thought u meant 1st sum1 do it theyll die. Thanks ur a great help!!!!!!!