Tonight I told my parents and my brother "I am Gay"

[Payton]

I'm a little late, but I want to wish you a very Happy Birthday! Glad to see you had a good time.

So what cake did your mum end up baking for you?

 

[crowboy]

I'm a little late, but I want to wish you a very Happy Birthday! Glad to see you had a good time.

So what cake did your mum end up baking for you?

Ahh it's Payton. Glad to see you around buddy. Thanks for the bday well wish. As for cake. My mum made a Lemon Cheesecake (that's what I wanted). I woman at work also made a Lemon Cheesecake for me on Friday. She also made a chocolate one too. Being on the new health kick I have only had small pieces, they were all very nice.

 

[hvk1989]

I will simply be me and be truthful to me.

Bravo crowboy! Always be you. It's when we started not being truthful to ourselves that we began locking things away that built up over time. You sound comfortable with yourself on the inside and are moving forward on your "health kick." Just make it a "health lifestyle"

It's just a matter of courage for me. I am a chicken deep down. I'm scared shitless about it all.

Yes, I was quite intimated the first time I went to a local gay pub. I just went and was pleasantly surprised by the friendliness of the guys. I think you too may be surprised. You came out to family and friends. . . a gay bar should be nothing to you

 

[crowboy]

Well it has been a while since I posted here.

I have blogged during this time however so my story never finished.

I thought a lot about continuing this thread or starting a new one. Since my coming out story is about to come to an end I decided to bring this back from the dead and post until it can die an appropriate death.

Today I told one of my mates I was gay. I had been holding off on doing this for sometime out of fear. However I increasingly felt the need to do it so I finally gave in and did it, and I am glad I did. I have blogged about some of the details if you are at all interested.

What did strike me though is he had no clue. None at all. Everyone else guessed and pretty much knew. He did not however. But it is all good between us and I feel we are now closer than before, due to sharing things today.

Just one more mate to go and I am done.

 

[Lube]

This is a beautiful thread and I am really so happy for you!

I went through pretty much the same thing 3 years ago. Like you, I am so happy to finally be me!

I'm living it up and have never been happier. And yet I'm still the same person through it all.

I hope young guys read your story and realize how low-risk it is nowadays to come out. Scary and nerve-wracking, sure!--but still a right of adult passage nowadays that makes you stand up for and really appreciate who you are.

Congrats!

 

[crowboy]

^ Thanks Lube.

I did start my own thread at the time as I was inspired by another thread. I wanted to do the same I suppose.

It has been the start of a new life for me. I guess I do want to show that you can grow to become comfortable with who you are. It is not too late. Most people really won't care if you are gay.

I know I have been lucky in that my coming out has been a positive experience and others may not be so lucky. But what I also wanted to show is that if you are going though something like this YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Look about in this forum. How many others feel just the way you feel or are going through what you are going through? You can get support here if you need it. I know I did a few months back and I am immensely grateful to those who offer that support and advice.

I know from messages I have received that my story has made some people think about their own situation. I don't know if anyone has been inspired like I was, but if so, great. My job would be done.

 

[crowboy]

Congratulations!!!

Thanks mate.

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Congrats!! Of course when you were in your teens, times were different then and it would've been hard to predict what your family's reaction would have been. Good thing it was positive though.

I can see how you mean by wasting so many years. I'm 28 and still haven't come out to my parents yet. To make things worse, I'm still living under their roof and can't afford my own house (working on that though as hard as I can).

 

[crowboy]

Congrats!! Of course when you were in your teens, times were different then and it would've been hard to predict what your family's reaction would have been. Good thing it was positive though.

I can see how you mean by wasting so many years. I'm 28 and still haven't come out to my parents yet. To make things worse, I'm still living under their roof and can't afford my own house (working on that though as hard as I can).

Hey mate,

Yes times were different then, and so was I. I grew up in small country towns, so there was no way of being out there and then.

It must be hard for you. You will know when the right time is. Having some independance first is important I guess.

My situation was I was not being honest with myself, let alone others. I think it is most important to be honest with yourself first. The rest will come when the time is right.

I wish you well in your journey. Shoot me a PM if you would like to talk further. I would be happy to.

Cheers

 

[crowboy]

I guess this is it for me.

Last night "New Years Eve" I decided I wanted to tell my final best mate I was gay.

I did it and he was cool with it. He suspected anyway.
There were three of us at my place last night for dinner. We have been friends since high school. We ended up having a wonderful chat and all shared our thoughts and feelings on a whole host of issues. We have all become closer as a result.

I look back now and I am so glad. My life is so much better now I have accepted I am gay.

I have been lucky in that I have received best wishes and support from family, work colleagues and friends. I realise that not everyone is so lucky, and I am thankful that I have good people in my life.

My coming out story is at a close I guess. I have blogged a little and my stories will always be here. I hope anyone who is wondering about their own situation looks and sees it is not always bad. Sometimes people can surprise you. I now look forward to the future and all the wondrous experiences it will bring.

Thankyou to all who have read my thread and blogs. Thankyou for your comments and PMs. You are all stars to me. JUB saved my life. You saved my life. Thankyou.

 

[Lube]

Woo-hoo!

You're now officially an out gay man!

Your official gay card is in the mail.

Seriously, I am so happy for you! I remember what it was like and it's so liberating.

And it sounds like you have accumulated some really amazing friends in your life.

Congrats! And what a great way to start the new year! You're an inspiration for many guys here.

I did it and he was cool with it. He suspected anyway.

Yeah, we're never as good an actor as we think we are.

 

[crowboy]

Woo-hoo!

You're now officially an out gay man!

Your official gay card is in the mail.

Seriously, I am so happy for you! I remember what it was like and it's so liberating.

And it sounds like you have accumulated some really amazing friends in your life.

Congrats! And what a great way to start the new year! You're an inspiration for many guys here.


Yeah, we're never as good an actor as we think we are.

Thankyou Lube,

You are always here in this forum with a kind word for those going through a tough time. I am glad you are about for our members who need it.

Yay I have my card. Now I just have to use it.

As for acting I thought I had everyone fooled.
Boy was I wrong. Out of everyone, only one mate had no clue. He feels bad now as he thinks he is clueless. haha

 

[Lube]

Yay I have my card. Now I just have to use it.

That's the spirit!