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Too early to meet parents?

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I have a dilemma here guys:

I met a guy who lives in a different state (NJ) a little over a month ago. I currently live in Atlanta, GA. We hit it off really well and we are considering a relationship together. We know eventually we will need to make plans to be together in the same state.

I am also in the process of buying my first home. Well, my guy is planning on flying down this weekend and go with me as I go house-shopping. But it gets better; I talked to my mother last night and she wants to go with me as I look at homes. I do want her to be there because of the experience she has when it comes to looking at homes. I know she wants to let me know the important things to look for and make sure I'm not taken advantage of.

My guy was informed of this and, even though he said he is a little nervous, he is willing to still go with me and my mother. He already made plans to come down here this weekend. I also want him to be involved in this process as well. Is it too early for him to meet my mother? I really want him to come because it's been a few weeks since I last saw him. I'm kinda at a crossroads. Any advice would really help? :help:
 
Of course it's not too early. Meeting the parents is always a big step. But if he's willing, sure. Why not.
 
I would ask myself more if it is not too early to go house-shopping together ;)
 
Of course. As long as your mother isn't some kind of over-protective jealous harpy, the day should go just swimmingly.
 
Well, he's not asking for your hand in marriage. He's just a friend joining you and your mom for some home shopping.

Relax. It's probably a good way to introduce everyone without having an artificial stressful event like dinner at a restaurant.

Just try to keep your hands off each other and don't talk about how "sore you are from last night" in front of mom. That might be a little much. :)
 
Have him meet her, but don't reveal to her that he may be the one moving in with you. Keep that aspect quiet until you're sure. As you are aware, there's not a very good track record in gay relationships, particularly since it doesn't sound like you've spent a lot of time with him. While you may be in lust and giddy about the possibilities, just take a deep breath and take it slow.
 
You seem very entangled, if only symbolically, after only a month. I would be a little leery, but I don't know the situation.

The problem seems to be with the BF, not mom. If he feels uncomfortable perhaps you should postpone the house hunting for a week? Spend a romantic weekend with the BF and enjoy yourself.

By the way, whose idea was it to go house hunting together? That exercise seems more fraught than meeting a parent.
 
theplayerking said:
You seem very entangled, if only symbolically, after only a month. I would be a little leery, but I don't know the situation.

The problem seems to be with the BF, not mom. If he feels uncomfortable perhaps you should postpone the house hunting for a week? Spend a romantic weekend with the BF and enjoy yourself.

By the way, whose idea was it to go house hunting together? That exercise seems more fraught than meeting a parent.
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It was my idea. He already planned to visit me this weekend, so I figured it would be better to bring him along. I don't know him well enough to say whether or not I will let him move in with me, but it will be a possibility if we do decide to establish a LTR with each other.
 
Meeting the mom isn't the problem.

The problem is: what if they disagree on something about the houses you look at?

Buying a house is a big deal, and you don't want to get stuck with a house that has some feature that a future ex-bf liked. ;)
 
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