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Too much sex to have an ltr?

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Ok, this may seem odd, but as a bigger guy, I get more play than I know what to do with most days and there are many that I simply turn down because I'm not attracted to them. I honestly never thought I would be in the position to turn anyone down, but for some reason, I am. Luckily, guys almost always want to and do come back for more and more sex with me and they seem to love the conversation and cuddling afterwards too. The guys that I really like are so sexy and we have so much fun in and out of the bedroom, but I really want an ltr. One guy, I was absolutely head over heals for and the sex was amazing (he had the perfect three inch dick that I've always loved to find on a guy), but when I asked him to go out on an actual date, he cut all ties with me even though he was calling me non-stop to come over again and again for sex before I asked him on a date. That one hurt.

So what should I do here? An ltr is really my goal, and I tell the guys straight up, that is what I'm honestly looking for, and finding a guy with as high a drive as mine is somewhat important to me (along with many other attributes). My last 4 year relationship, I was lucky to have sex once a month with him. I guess I am really missing something in my search for something greater.
 
Well, most people in gay bars (from my experience though) are looking for a quick fuck. Make some profiles on dating sites (not the ones like grindr, go on actual dating sites) and put what you want in your description. Stick to a plan: nothing more before a couple of dates or coffees (this plural sounds weird, must be the first time I used it). There are a lot of folks out there wanting a relationship over one night stands and many are into bigger guys (myself included :P ). Good luck and come with stories next time :D
 
aaggii said:
Well, most people in gay bars (from my experience though) are looking for a quick fuck. Make some profiles on dating sites (not the ones like grindr, go on actual dating sites) and put what you want in your description. Stick to a plan: nothing more before a couple of dates or coffees (this plural sounds weird, must be the first time I used it). There are a lot of folks out there wanting a relationship over one night stands and many are into bigger guys (myself included :P ). Good luck and come with stories next time :D
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Oh, I have lots of stories...lol. A few from last night as well.

You say to be on actual dating sites. I guess I don't know which those are. Most that I know of have all turned into places to meet for sex. Most of the guys that I have been with lately, I have gone out on dates with them, but the sex comes very soon as I'm a very sensual and sexual (and kinky) guy, and they all like that about me. The dates go great, and when the sex starts, it too goes rather well to great (The sex gets better and better each time I meet the guy again.). My problem seems to be that they only seem to want to come back for the sex after it happens. They often stay and we cuddle and have great conversation after sex though, like the two separate guys last night--sex plus cuddling/talking= usually 3-6 hours per guy, sometimes more, though sex is definitely the larger percentage of that time.
 
It´s a series of bad experiences. Go on a date and don´t have sex immediately after. Jerk off before or/and after the date.

As for the dating sites, see in what category you fit in (chubby, bear, daddy etc) and search some sites for that on google. Even if they turned into something else than an actual dating site, put a good description about what you want. I met my bf of 3 years on bearwww and I was there only looking for sex. It just happened. Make your expectations known but don´t force it. Have fun in the meantime. You like sex so much, enjoy it while it lasts! Don´t actually search for a relationship, let it come to you.

I know it sounds like some soap opera bullshit but there is someone out there for you and you´ll eventually meet him.
 
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