Too young, stop wasteing ur life

[Luka]

Ok so heres how I see it, you should not bother have a commited relationship until you are well into your 20's, like 26 and up.

I feel like people don't get a good quality of life when they are in a relationship young, sure you can have a "Boyfriend" but don't limit yourself, I think you should still go out and live your own life without getting caught up with the whole, where are you? what are you doing? who are you with?

You don't need another parent!!

ok so others thoughts on this?

 

[TrdMrk]

That's ALMOST like saying don't try to initiate steps to do something great until you finish the 12th grade at least in High School...

It's been said numerous times before ("wait until you're older until you..."), but don't understand that people's timelines don't move in the same speed. If people want to be get in a relationship, then they should.

Love may be cliche, redundant, and somewhat predictable...but lessons are learned, not taught all the time.

 

[TrdMrk]

There are actually positive things about being in a relationship.

But with your perspective I can see why you wouldn't bother.

And let us also keep in mind that this is the same guy who was stressing over what to buy his bf for their one-week relationship; talk about jumping the shark.

 

[WYSIWYG]

A relationship can happen at anytime or any age. Some young people are immature until their 20's, and some are mature at 16. Some men that are much older, 30s or more, are mature or immature.

Some people want and need relationships, others can't handle any kind of relationships and can be totally okay with it. Some people are more dependent than independent also.

No 'one formula' works for everyone no matter what age they might be.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Ok so heres how I see it, you should not bother have a commited relationship until you are well into your 20's, like 26 and up.

I feel like people don't get a good quality of life when they are in a relationship young, sure you can have a "Boyfriend" but don't limit yourself, I think you should still go out and live your own life without getting caught up with the whole, where are you? what are you doing? who are you with?

You don't need another parent!!

ok so others thoughts on this?

Don't take out your bitterness on the young. Everyone is capable of achieving the relationships they want in life. Perhaps this is advice best left up to you.

 

[hotatlboi]

The right time to start a relationship is when you meet the right person and are ready for it, and this can happen at any age.

 

[FabFairy]

So what are you saying Luka - You don't have a Boyfriend so no one can have one?? Thats a selfish attitude to have isn't it!!

As is already stated "The right time to start a relationship is when you meet the right person and are ready for it, and this can happen at any age."

And not when they meet with your approval

 

[thewiz]

Everyone is different. I know people who fell in love when they were 18 and were still together when they died at the age of 90; I know others who met after they lost their first spouses and were in their 70's (and are still enjoying each other at 97 and a young 93).

One never knows who and when they will love; the thing I always look at is that I had love to begin with -- either giving or receiving.

I remember one old lady to who I delivered a newspaper and who used to call and bitch at me all the time when I was city manager a few years ago. She was outright nasty -- not just disagreeable. When she died, I sang for the funeral because the organist at the church asked me. There was no one at the ceremony other than a niece and a few people who came from the church (I think to get a peek at the ruby slippers and were they still on her feet!)

I found it so sad that she apparently had never loved and been loved (those with whom I spoke said she had a crush on one guy who did not have one on her and she would almost curse his name throughout her life).

Loving is not wasting; loving is what makes us who we are later in life. I am in a relationship with a beautiful 27 year old guy; I don't consider him wasting his life nor does he think I am wasting mine.

Relationships may last a week, a month, or forever. The biggest problem I see is that too many people want to rush the development of relations and focus only on the sexual part. There is a lot more to a relationship than sex (having been in one for 19 years and having two kids). Relationships also take work -- they don't come easily and don't remain if taken for granted.

Having a son who is 21 and who just got engaged, I guess I hope that they have worked through everything but I wouldn't attempt to tell him not to get married (although I would probably wait). They have gone together for three years and she's wonderful to him. My daughter has been in a relationship for two years and is 19; I suspect at some point they will get married -- and probably soon.

Love happens; one never knows when and who.....