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Well, It's odd for me to come out and say this, but recently I topped for the first time and have done it a few times since then. It was great and all, but I ran into a bit of a problem - I can't stay hard when I penetrate him. I can stay hard as a rock when I jack off, but when it comes to me penetrating, I only stay hard for a short period of time and have to stop.

I don't know if maybe it's just a new feeling and it will take time to get used to, or if maybe it's all in my head? Who knows, I'm just curious if anyone else has ever had the same problem.

Anyone care to help? :(
 
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Hey all!

I have a question. I have been with my boyfriend since December and he is my first. Every time I top him I can't stay hard but for a few minutes. If he jacks me off or does a bj I'm fine and stay rock hard. Any advise on how I can work to change this? I do j/o by myself about 3-4 times a week. Do any of you think that could be the problem?

Thanks!
 
I've merged a couple of related threads since they're very similiar in their question.

In the All About Penises sticky in this forum, there's a section called "The Hard and Soft of It".

The thing that we look at is whether you can stay hard when you're jacking off and in the morning, etc. It sounds like, from your descriptions, that both of you have normal erections when you're by yourself or with other sexual activity. So, the problem is not physiological- it's psychological. And it's quite common.

There's several things that can cause it-
  1. Habituation - where you're used to having sex in a particular position or in a particular way. Topping is a different position and some guys have problems staying hard when they're kneeling or when they're on top in missionary type positions. Sometimes a different position like cowboy or reverse cowboy is better for maintaining an erection.
  2. Pressure - with inexperienced bottoms, sometimes the backpressure when the penis encounters too much resistance can cause guys to lose their erections.

If it continues to be an issue, this is one circumstance where ED drugs like Cialis and Viagra can help since these drugs prolong erection. However, you should try other solutions before resorting to medications.
 
KaraBulut said:
I've merged a couple of related threads since they're very similiar in their question.

In the All About Penises sticky in this forum, there's a section called "The Hard and Soft of It".

The thing that we look at is whether you can stay hard when you're jacking off and in the morning, etc. It sounds like, from your descriptions, that both of you have normal erections when you're by yourself or with other sexual activity. So, the problem is not physiological- it's psychological. And it's quite common.

There's several things that can cause it-
  1. Habituation - where you're used to having sex in a particular position or in a particular way. Topping is a different position and some guys have problems staying hard when they're kneeling or when they're on top in missionary type positions. Sometimes a different position like cowboy or reverse cowboy is better for maintaining an erection.
  2. Pressure - with inexperienced bottoms, sometimes the backpressure when the penis encounters too much resistance can cause guys to lose their erections.

If it continues to be an issue, this is one circumstance where ED drugs like Cialis and Viagra can help since these drugs prolong erection. However, you should try other solutions before resorting to medications.
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Thanks. I was kneeling everytime that I went soft, so it could possibly be the position.
 
Give it a shot with him getting you hard while you're on your back (or whatever position you usually jack off in). Then have him straddle you in that same position. That usually does the trick.
 
KaraBulut said:
Give it a shot with him getting you hard while you're on your back (or whatever position you usually jack off in). Then have him straddle you in that same position. That usually does the trick.
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I'll go ahead and give it a try next time we play.

I'll keep you posted.. can only hope it's the position or maybe just the fact it's really new to me. :)
 
I agree with some of the other posters here in that certain positions are just better for certain people. If I'm on my back with the guy straddling me and facing me, I can't always stay fully hard and it doesn't always feel that pleasureable. But if I'm standing up with him on his back at the edge of the bed, or doggy style I have no problems.

I would just experiment with different positions until you find one or more that really works for you :D
 
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