Topping

[chrisdobro]

I topped a guy last night. I haven't topped in probably 10 years.

I had a period of tries where I had one good insertion for about 2 minutes, after which I was going soft.

We ended up doing something else.
I would like to try topping again. I think I will enjoy it. But I need more practice and someone to practice with.

Do you think that practicing is the key to topping?

 

[EphGuy]

how old are you? diabetic? high blood pressure? obese? ten years is a long time for mr. happy to be out of action. things change. sounds like you may need some chemical assistance. ask you doctor . . . erections lasting more than 4 hours . . .

 

[ATVRIDER]

how old are you? diabetic? high blood pressure? obese? ten years is a long time for mr. happy to be out of action. things change. sounds like you may need some chemical assistance. ask you doctor . . . erections lasting more than 4 hours . . .

I think he means he hasn't topped in 10 years, not that he hasn't had sex in 10 years! LOL
And I think more practice will do one of two things. 1) Reassure that you don't like topping 2) Make it easier and allow you to top
Either solution is better than not knowing, so give it a shot! It never hurts to try.
~Dustin

 

[Seasoned]

As I just wrote on another thread being über horny will help as it takes the mind out if the equation.

 

[AlmondMilk]

Perhaps practice will help. Perhaps those few times you weren't really into the guy sexually?

 

[Benvolio]

Perhaps practice will help. Perhaps those few times you weren't really into the guy sexually?

Sometimes a condom can make it more difficult to stay erect. If you think that might be part of the problem the dry ones, not lubed inside. Or the jumbo size, not as restrictive.

 

[G-Lexington]

I can only speak for me, but I don't think "practice" is really the key to topping if you're having issues. Well, it is in a sense. To me, the key is being really comfortable with the guy you're with.

It's been my practice to take my inhibitions off with my clothes. So when I go to bed with a guy, I'm determined not to get embarrassed by anything that happens there. I feel if I can fuck the guy, I can talk about fucking the guy with the guy. So if I were having issues staying hard while attempting to top the guy, I'd just pull out and say "I'm going soft. Can we switch things up, and try again in a bit?" Then, on the next go round, I might ask if I could lay on my back while he straddled me. Or ask if he could lie face up with a pillow under his back, so I could lean down and make out with him if I was having trouble keeping it up again. It's been my experience that guys are usually pretty willing to try out simple things like this in bed...especially if you make it up to them later.

Lex