Tops: Do You Really Know How to Lay the Wood?

[sixthson]

Anal Sex 101, Professor?

(Speaking of Professors, where is Peto?)

 

[Piquechampion]

I don't know about you guys, but it's a huge turn on for me when my BF orgasms while I'm inside him. When I feel that he's building toward ejaculation, I like to stand him up from the back. Then I nibble or kiss his neck & very gently teeth his earlobe from behind while I talk dirty to him in almost a whisper. Actually I normally start the dirty talk well before all that (LOL). Once he orgasms, I pull out and cum myself. I've learned alot about "dick control" from being with women. Fifty percent of "dick control" is mental. What I've described is the ideal scenario for screwing, and I'm able to achieve it the majority of the time but not always.

OMG, you must be such a wonderful lover, to bad you´re allready taken.

 

[hermanding]

it's mutual - for you and for your partner - only one or the other will always have problems
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[rocksu]

If it ever ended with my BF maybe I could look you up? BTW, my BF and I have been together for almost 2 years now. Obviously, we've had time to work things out and get in sync in the bedroom. What I forgot to include in my post is that when your partner orgasms while you're inside him, the musculature in his anus and rectum clinches or squeezes your penis which, in turn, helps you reach orgasm at almost the same time.

Your comments are greatly appreciated and are applicable to men and women.

I have never even seen you before but I am attracted to you by the nature of your comments. Funny how that works. Congrats on your two years with your bf and wishing you many more.

 

[Singtoh1]

Personally, I'm a giver in the sack, and I don't like when I orgasm before my partner does. In fact, at first, it was almost like a competition between my BF and I to see who had the greatest staying power. I had to tell him that it was a huge turn on for him to orgasm while I was inside him, and that helped me orgasm. Honestly, it's easier & quicker for him to reach orgasm when he's on top riding my penis. Personally, we like all the sexual positions, but side saddle is my favorite. Anyone else have any thoughts on how to be a hot top?

It must be nice to have you as a partner? My partners extremely selfish....at some points its just work to get him off

 

[AmBi Dex]

Cool post up top [pun intended]. AbsoFuckinLootely. Same thing about transfering experience with women. You cultivate the mental aspect of actually getting off on the noises and shit, the landscape of transition into orgasm. It's like training your responsiveness to that key. With a guy, maybe he shoots both of you in the face before you lose it.

 

[ISpitAndSwallow]

Just thought this would be a good topic for those of us who are tops. Are you really trying to please your bottom, or are you primarily pleasing yourself? Can you do both? Those of us who have been with women as well as men know that there's a big difference in satisfying a woman when we penetrate her vagina versus satisfying a guy when we penetrate his anus. However, regardless of the differences, one thing that remains constant & essential is the ability to read your partner. Most of us normally try to start slow & gently and end faster. I guess everyone's different, and you need to be able to read what turns your partner on more.

Sometimes your partner just may want it faster, harder, & more animal like. Again, you need to be able to read him/her, or just ask them how they want it upfront. Of course, there's also something called "fuck rhythm" in which your partner & you are in sync or in rhythm and both building toward orgasm around the same time. This is ideal, and what I always strive for. However, the trick is getting in rhythm. Personally, I listen to my partner's breathing and am very cognizant of any pain or discomfort I may cause him at any time. That's how I know when I need to vary my rhythm and/or force of penetration. I also try to view his penis as often as possible to ensure that he doesn't lose his erection.

I don't know about you guys, but it's a huge turn on for me when my BF orgasms while I'm inside him. When I feel that he's building toward ejaculation, I like to stand him up from the back. Then I nibble or kiss his neck & very gently teeth his earlobe from behind while I talk dirty to him in almost a whisper. Actually I normally start the dirty talk well before all that (LOL). Once he orgasms, I pull out and cum myself. I've learned alot about "dick control" from being with women. Fifty percent of "dick control" is mental. What I've described is the ideal scenario for screwing, and I'm able to achieve it the majority of the time but not always.

Personally, I'm a giver in the sack, and I don't like when I orgasm before my partner does. In fact, at first, it was almost like a competition between my BF and I to see who had the greatest staying power. I had to tell him that it was a huge turn on for him to orgasm while I was inside him, and that helped me orgasm. Honestly, it's easier & quicker for him to reach orgasm when he's on top riding my penis. Personally, we like all the sexual positions, but side saddle is my favorite. Anyone else have any thoughts on how to be a hot top?

Great post, westwoof blues. You sound like a caring guy. Would love to have a boyfriend like you. You are right about liking your partner to cum while you are still inside him. By the way, you never mentioned it, but do you like to cum inside him?

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I have been a total (insertive) top all of my life. I have been around the block couple of times, too. I have been around the mountains couple of times and trust me, I have been even around the mountain ranges couple of times or even more.

I see sex as a form of communication. The better you communicate the more fun both (or all) the parties involved will have. Fail to communicate truthfully and the whole thing really goes down the drain.

I am neither a giver nor a taker. It takes 2 to tango. If the dude feels that he should mimic a big chunk of wood laying in my bed, he'll get treated accordingly. If he wants to tango, too, he'll get a ride, he won't forget in a very long time.

I am all for NOT drawing parallels between m2f and m2m sex. Women are mostly culturally conditioned to believe that it is the duty of her 'man' to bring her to climax. She has granted him the access to her 'goodies' that are otherwise much in demand and now, he has got to do his part and make her 'happy'.

I do not see my bttm dude as a female in our mating rituals. I see him as an absolutely equal partner, who has brought in his 'goodies' in exchange for the 'goodies' a top dude has brought in. So, no one is really there solely to please the other side. We are going towards our common goal and we are working together towards getting our climax. If you feel that the other guy has nothing else to do but is only there to please you, you'll soon learn that you are so completely wrong...

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[SilverRRCloud]

Oups, just one more remark.

IMHE, bottoming at times, involves a certain degree of pain. No matter, how much you try and no matter how much he tries to keep it all joyfull and painless, the anatomy ever so often (not always) gets in the way, and the bottom dude gets it.

Frankly, I expect men to be men under all the cicrumstances. No one is expecting you to suffer in silence and no one wants you under any serious pain to start with. However, if a tolerable pain or slight discomfort occurs, I hope that you'll have sufficient guts to take it in its stride. It just comes with the territory, rite?

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