Toying with my feelings

[glasvegas]

Hey guys

I met this guy from Grindr few days ago, we chatted over in the app and we really clicked and we started to hang out for a few times. And the problem is I think he is trying to toy with my feelings.

He told me I remind him of his ex, which is also from Malaysia and we both have personality resemblance. He loves his ex ( I still think he does ) but his ex kinda used him in a terrible way so he said that he kinda afraid of getting in a relationship with a guy. I think he is trying to punish me of what his ex did, he continues to hang out with me but just talk about his ex and bullshit about everything which makes me harder to talk to him. A few times, our eyes locked and he was looking at me and sort of trying to seduce me.

And no, we didn't do anything sexual.

I know I shouldn't say that but, I really like him although I should just cut him off from my life.

Thoughts anyone?

 

[Rolyo85]

You don't give any indication as to why you think he's toying with you?

 

[HunterM]

Are you looking for a long term serious relationship? If you are, he's not right for you. Sounds like you're his rebound guy. He's still not quite getting over his ex yet. There's nothing wrong being the rebound guy either as long as you know what you're getting yourself into. I had been the rebound guy a few times before...and I liked it. We played around and still didn't have to commit to each other (still got to play with others).

However, if you're looking to play around until the "right" person comes along, then play with him and see how it goes. Know that you and he will eventually break up.

That's what dating is all about...hook ups and break ups. If after 6 months, you two end up to be very compatible for each other, then take it to the next level. It's not like if you date him now, you'll have to marry him in 2 months.

 

[glasvegas]

You don't give any indication as to why you think he's toying with you?

He came into my room and lying down on my bed, flirt with me and tickled me telling how cute I am and then a few hours later, he said he has this date he had to attend to.

 

[maxpowr9]

This guy has far too much emotional baggage to be in a stable relationship atm. I'd either keep him as a fuck buddy or dump his ass.

 

[HunterM]

This guy has far too much emotional baggage to be in a stable relationship atm. I'd either keep him as a fuck buddy or dump his ass.

How about keep him as a fuck buddy AND then dump his ass later!?

 

[sixthson]

Hi Vince. I think he is playing with your emotions. One minute he is flirtatious, the next he is indifferent.
You don't need someone like that, either as a friend or a sex partner. You don't want to carry his baggage. You can do better, buddy.

 

[MascutarHero]

Well him telling you he had a date, is kinda rude, I'd say let him go before you get too attached, if not talk to him and tell him how you feel, maybe he's not aware of how much of a dick he sounds

 

[Seasoned]

Cut him out of your life. Continuing to be with him after he behaves the way he does gives him permission to keep up his antics.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Doesn't sound worth it at all. Date the next guy who is genuinely interested in you and doesn't compare you to his ex. Blech.

 

[medic1]

How about keep him as a fuck buddy AND then dump his ass later!?

Dude , i luv it ,

 

[glasvegas]

How about keep him as a fuck buddy AND then dump his ass later!?

He's already hurt, so, I don't want to hurt him any further, plus, I highly doubt he wants to have sex with me.

 

[medic1]

He's already hurt, so, I don't want to hurt him any further, plus, I highly doubt he wants to have sex with me.

That was a lovely thing to see you post , with a heart so full of empathy i doubt
that you will not be single for long .