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Trust - is it necessary

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Can you have a relationship without trust?

I know that you can love someone, but if you don't trust them can the relationship progress?
 
short answer . no, you cannot have a relationship without trust
 
Well, you can have a relationship but not one I'd want to be a part of. Without trust you have nothing and that trust has to be mutual
 
Many of us have been in relationships with people who are untrustworthy. Whether or not we accept that someone is deceitful, or the real ramifications of that character flaw, is another thing.

Fooling ourselves into believing someone is trustworthy when we have every reason to know he's deceitful is, I suspect, not uncommon. We know someone lies and yet we believe he is trustworthy as a friend. That's nuts.


Being in a relationship with someone who's deceitful becomes increasingly uncomfortable and ultimately results in unhappiness. You may live in a fool's paradise for a while but eventually the deceitfulness will bite you hard.

A friend, a partner who is honest and genuine is worth his weight in gold.
 
Thanks for your responses, as you have probably gathered i'm invovled in a relationship that is void of trust - we love each other very much but differences have come between us mainly because of culture and lifestyle. He is from PNG and me from Australia - i guess two different worlds, and this has sparked differences that has led to us not trusting each other. Part of the reason is because i'm white and Australian and he is dark skinned and PNGean. Laws that govern our private activities and how hard it is to have him recongised by my country as my partner don't help matters - he always has the thought that i'm going to leave him and return to australia and i get back at him saying that he is using me to gain a better lifestyle and will move on. Just for your information there is 12 years difference between us and we have been seeing each other for 9 months.... i talk about there being no trust between us and he says that i just don't understand his culture and pressures that he is under........ raving on here but really at a lost as i love him and know that he loves me....... anyway thats it
 
Judging by the things posted in this section...yes, it's very possible to have a relationship without trust. And the relationship can still go on for weeks, months, years. They rarely seem all that happy, though.

If he's scared that you're going to go back home, there's not a lot you can do to alleviate those fears. Buy a house there, maybe. But instead of trying to reassure him, why are you "getting back at him"? Or do you fear that that's really the case?

Lex
 
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