Trying to get rid of a "friend"

[Swallowmysperm]

Alright, so I've known this kid for a bit more than three years now. We've been there for each other through pretty much everything over that period of time, but I'm growing up and growing away from him. He seems to think that we're still best buds, but I'm tired of his immaturity and his parasitic ways.

he used me for free food, and he used me as a garbage receptacle for his emotions (though he's been doing that last since I met him; he never listens in return, and if I do try to discuss something about my life that's concerning me he listens for about five minutes then goes off on irrelevant tangents).

Basically, a month and a week (or so) ago I told him I didn't want contact with him anymore. This lasted for about two weeks, until I IM'd him on MSN because I was high and bored. I shouldn't have done that, because now he thinks we're best buddies again, and I don't feel any sort of friendship for him anymore.

I don't know what to do. I really didn't want to post this on here, but it's really coming to the point where I have no idea what I need to do to get rid of him. He's very persistent; he can still text me (which he actually hasn't done yet, thank God; I'm going to check and see if there's any way to block a specific number from sending me text messages).


EDIT:

Before anyone even asks, no, I've never had any sort of sexual relations with him.

i know someone just like that. we are seniors in high school, and she still acts like she is in the 6th grade! it is so anoyying!

 

[Maklaar13]

I had a friend like that for over 20 years and because of my own stupidity, and always wanting to be nice and nurturing, it went on for that long. Run far, fun fast! People like that don't usually change, yes there are exceptions to everything, but very few. Don't feel bad, save yourself while you still can.

I agree with bw92116, above.

 

[G-Lexington]

Two quotes.

"...he used me as a source for free weed (though I'm not smoking it anymore, thank God)..."

"I IM'd him on MSN because I was high and bored..."

Presumably you can find the two problems.

Stop contacting him. Full stop.
If he calls, don't answer.
If he texts, don't read it.
If he stops by, don't answer the door.

Lex

 

[backpacker]

All above have good advice. I tend to think you may have some mixed feelings. Those may have been drug induced and left you longing for your old friend. Some people are just user that you are better off not having in your life.

Assuming that you are sure you want to cut him out, then do as others above have suggested. Don't take phone calls, don't return text messages and don't let him at your place. If he comes by, either don't answer or tell him it's a bad time. He will get the point sooner or later. You may have already solved the problem by blocking his IM. Obviously he had others ways to contact you, but hasn't.

If he approaches you about the problem, just tell him what you wrote above.

 

[xzakxrawrx]

i've got 'friends' like that too.

one of them who i only see when i go raves or pub meetings really,lol. but can't get rid of him on msn or on the phone. so i make excuses or say i'm busy to avoid talking to him.
hes a nice enough person, so find it hard to be rude to him.

altho hes obsessed by drugs and he used to and still tries to push drugs onto me, which in the past stupidly i went along with and experimented with....

hes gone too far now as hes doing things like meth,crack etc. and won't shut up about it or talking endless about aliens and ufos on msn and on the phone like a stuck record.

maybe hes gone psychotic or something as he always comes out with weird shit and is 99% of the time off his head on something, if it's not drugs, it's booze.

the trouble is i could just ignore him.... but he hangs out with the group of friends i hang out with when i go out, some of them are drug users as well. so can't ignore most of my friends just cos of him.

if he shut up about drugs to me, stop trying to force me to try or take them and didn't ramble on about weird things all the time, then maybe i'd like talking to him.

altho do need to make more less crazy friends...

 

[Tizinsane]

Yeah, everyone knows people like that. Some are harder to get rid of than others. I don't have much experience with "parasites", but my mom has several friends like that. Unfortunately, she won't confront any of them.

Personally, I would not put up with that shit. I fucking hate users! You seem to be on the right track now.

 

[seven_sins]

I had a female friend who was like that. To keep her from driving me nuts, I had to stop all contact with her. I found out that she had been the same way with others, once forcing a female friend to move to another apartment building to get away from her. People like that are mentally sick.

 

[hhoiffk2004]

i have a friend like that. the only difference is i dont wanna lose this friend. even though hes a bit annoying, its like theres no other choice but to hang out with him coz theres nobody else. we used to be like-minded before, but now i feel like im becoming matured and hes not changing at all.

but hes the only friend i have. although i have other friends but its just not the same without my annoying little friend. lol! does anyone know what i mean??

 

[OTHFan]

I kind of have this problem now. My problem is i'm too nice so there is this guy i see everyday and talk to, i make him laugh but we're complete opposites. I don't think we have one thing in common and now he's thinking we're best friends and is talking about us hanging out together and i don't want wanna be mean, i just know enough about him to know us as best friends just would not work.i don't see him the same way he sees me.I'm not sure what to do besides totally blowing him off and having him hate me. its easier though than telling him that i don't want to hang out with him. he's still a cool guy to talk to but we're just too different for it to go any further than that. I don't know what to do. i'm so confused.

 

[OTHFan]

That actually made alot of sense. thank you.