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Two complete tops not willing to compromise?

Lostlover

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Anyone else been in this situation? I prefer "topping" but I am versatile. But this guy that I am talking to (haven't had sex) is a complete top and won't bottom.

Sounds kind of kindergarten-ish, but if he won't bottom I won't either.

I don't think this will work. (Oh and by the way, this guy is STUNNING and he's used to getting his way. I won't cave in so easily with him like his other exes have).
 
If he's going to whine about not getting his way, he can cry more IMO.

Don't do anything you wouldn't otherwise do.
 
Guess what? It ain't gonna work and it's not because he is (or rather won't be) an asshole. Maybe he has tried getting fucked and found he's too tight and therefore it's uncomfortable. Or maybe he just has no interest in being fucked. Either way, that doesn't make him a jerk. If you're interested in him enough to let this go by then pursue him. If you're not interested, then forget about him. I see no reason for you to tell us about this and make the guy seem like a jerk.
 
You two could cruise Craigs List for Tag Team friendy bottoms, then neither of you would have to cave. :)
 
I think your buddy is asking the same question - see the thread - 'Top needs Help - NYC'
 
You're relationship is doomed and it isn't about the fucking; it is about the absence of generosity. If he's so gorgeous and that's all you're looking for, keep letting him fuck you until you both realize how shallow the whole thing is and then move on.
 
Lostlover said:
Anyone else been in this situation? I prefer "topping" but I am versatile. But this guy that I am talking to (haven't had sex) is a complete top and won't bottom.
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What?
I am sorry, WHAT?
NO, I have not been in the situation that I am worried about some guy that I have not gone to bed with being....
 
Just do what they do in the gay porn videos: rock, paper, and scissors.
 
If you're both willing, you might try manual sex only. Kissing and manual stimulation only. There's no real "top" there. If you both enjoy that, one of you might decide you're willing to bend on your "top only" rule. Or you might decide to call the whole thing off.

Lex
 
I'd say, this is a typical power play situation.

That's why you are so right in using that 'kindergartnerish' ...

This is neither about love nor is it about sex. It is about one guy submitting and saying, 'I'll bend over to please you unconditionally, coz I want you' and it is about the other guy saying 'I am so cool and I am so sexy that I can have it my way or no way'...

Just my 2 cents...

SC
 
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