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That's good Jake! I'm glad you feel better. 
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Hey Jake.
I don't have the religious issues you do, but I am from a small and very anti-homosexual town. My Dad hates gays and openly makes fun of them. I mean not all the time, but I've heard him do it and I know his stance. If he knew about me he'd never treat me the same I bet.
I remember being your age and being really upset, sad, pissed off, confused, etc. And I remember thinking the samr thing you are - WHY? Like why me? Why do I feel this way? What's wrong with me? I just hid my feelings and went about my life as best I could without a girl or boyfriend.
Now that I'm a little older (29) and moved away from where I grew up, things have changed for the better. I'm bi so I don't feel the overwhelming urge to "come out" to anyone, but I am much more comfortable with myself. I pursue relationships with both sexes (though not at the same time), and I have met some really great people of both genders. And if one of my friends here finds out, then so be it. Be my friend or don't, I give a shit.
The point is that things suck now but they'll get better. The most important part is knowing who you are and accepting yourself for that. I'm comfortable with myself now and I don't feel like a victim anymore. I am who I am, and I think I kick ass. You'll figure it out man, this place is a great resource and you can always come here for advice or just to vent. I know I do.
So hang in there brother. Many of us have been there too, and we're doing just fine. You'll be fine too.
Oh, and if I was in Georgia, I'd totally cuddle with you. lol.
I don't have the religious issues you do, but I am from a small and very anti-homosexual town. My Dad hates gays and openly makes fun of them. I mean not all the time, but I've heard him do it and I know his stance. If he knew about me he'd never treat me the same I bet.
I remember being your age and being really upset, sad, pissed off, confused, etc. And I remember thinking the samr thing you are - WHY? Like why me? Why do I feel this way? What's wrong with me? I just hid my feelings and went about my life as best I could without a girl or boyfriend.
Now that I'm a little older (29) and moved away from where I grew up, things have changed for the better. I'm bi so I don't feel the overwhelming urge to "come out" to anyone, but I am much more comfortable with myself. I pursue relationships with both sexes (though not at the same time), and I have met some really great people of both genders. And if one of my friends here finds out, then so be it. Be my friend or don't, I give a shit.
The point is that things suck now but they'll get better. The most important part is knowing who you are and accepting yourself for that. I'm comfortable with myself now and I don't feel like a victim anymore. I am who I am, and I think I kick ass. You'll figure it out man, this place is a great resource and you can always come here for advice or just to vent. I know I do.
So hang in there brother. Many of us have been there too, and we're doing just fine. You'll be fine too.
Oh, and if I was in Georgia, I'd totally cuddle with you. lol.
backpacker
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Given your situation, I would say that you are best off remaining in the closet until you finish high school. If you have a trusted friend or two that you can confide in, that would be great. You just need to be sure they are the type who can keep secrets.
The Atlanta area is very accepting of gays. If you are anywhere near Atlanta, you should check out Youth Pride http://www.youthpride.org/. They can offer you a lot of support and provide a place for you to make gay friends.
Once you graduate high school and either go off to college or enter the work force, you will be in a better position to start the coming out process. Your family may be far more supportive than you think or they could kick you out. Let's hope it's the former, but you should have a plan to support yourself in case it's the later. Keep in mind that people often say all kinds of anti-gay things until they actually know somebody that's gay. Feel free to PM me if have questions about gay life in Atlanta or need someone to talk to.
The Atlanta area is very accepting of gays. If you are anywhere near Atlanta, you should check out Youth Pride http://www.youthpride.org/. They can offer you a lot of support and provide a place for you to make gay friends.
Once you graduate high school and either go off to college or enter the work force, you will be in a better position to start the coming out process. Your family may be far more supportive than you think or they could kick you out. Let's hope it's the former, but you should have a plan to support yourself in case it's the later. Keep in mind that people often say all kinds of anti-gay things until they actually know somebody that's gay. Feel free to PM me if have questions about gay life in Atlanta or need someone to talk to.
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Welcome to the Brotherhood. You'll be mostly safe here and it is good to vent. In many of the profiles you will read, "only my friends know." That's okay for you, too. We'll be here for you and you can always pm a member if you don't want to publish your statements. Jesus judged no one and he preached love and peace. I wish you love and peace. Thank God for the passion He's given you. We are here...welcome.
I'm kind-of in the same shoes. I'm not out to anyone.
However, today, my friend told me that his parents thought I was gay. His parents don't know me at all and I've only been around them only a few times. I felt offended that he brought this up, even though it is true (that I am gay), but I'm not out yet and nobody is aware that I like guys.
I don't really know why I was super pissed off. First off, this is really the first time that someone told me that they thought I was gay. I'm pretty sure that when people see me they might think that I am gay, but this was the first time that I was made aware of it... the mere fact that he brought it up had the effect of reminding me that... wow, so I do come off as a gay guy, even though I'm trying to hide it! After my friend said that, I became super conscious of myself and tried to act super-macho that day. Ugh, why? Why can't just be the inner gay person I wanna be?
But why am I pissed off if it's true? Mostly it's because nobody knows, and if I do get angry about his parents thinking I'm gay, then my friend will definitely say something like "if you're so mad it's probably true."
Well, it is true, but I don't want anyone to know! Yet. I'm not ready. And if I come out, I'll probably be abandoned by my friends and family.
So yeah, that was my frustration today. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels frustrated that he just can't simply come out.
However, today, my friend told me that his parents thought I was gay. His parents don't know me at all and I've only been around them only a few times. I felt offended that he brought this up, even though it is true (that I am gay), but I'm not out yet and nobody is aware that I like guys.
I don't really know why I was super pissed off. First off, this is really the first time that someone told me that they thought I was gay. I'm pretty sure that when people see me they might think that I am gay, but this was the first time that I was made aware of it... the mere fact that he brought it up had the effect of reminding me that... wow, so I do come off as a gay guy, even though I'm trying to hide it! After my friend said that, I became super conscious of myself and tried to act super-macho that day. Ugh, why? Why can't just be the inner gay person I wanna be?
But why am I pissed off if it's true? Mostly it's because nobody knows, and if I do get angry about his parents thinking I'm gay, then my friend will definitely say something like "if you're so mad it's probably true."
Well, it is true, but I don't want anyone to know! Yet. I'm not ready. And if I come out, I'll probably be abandoned by my friends and family.
So yeah, that was my frustration today. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels frustrated that he just can't simply come out.
nautiboyjeff
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Are you SURE his parents said it or is he picking up signals from you and this is his way of asking you. If you are attracted to this guy, it will come out.
He might be dealing with this issue himself and using his parents as the "excuse" to see how you react. Seems totally plausible since you haven't had much interaction with them.
Just remember, people use all kinds of things to fish for what they are looking for, especially when you are young and insecure.
Relax, breath deep and think of how to discuss this so that you can understand where he is on the subject. You may find out his parent think HE'S gay and have said something like that to him and he's trying to understand where you are.
He might be dealing with this issue himself and using his parents as the "excuse" to see how you react. Seems totally plausible since you haven't had much interaction with them.
Just remember, people use all kinds of things to fish for what they are looking for, especially when you are young and insecure.
Relax, breath deep and think of how to discuss this so that you can understand where he is on the subject. You may find out his parent think HE'S gay and have said something like that to him and he's trying to understand where you are.