Ultimate act of submission?

[MadHatter616]

I'm the sub in a dom/sub daddy/son relationship with an older guy (10 years difference). first guy I've ever been with. pretty new to this. I'm very submissive BTW. well his birthday is coming up, and I'm having feelings for him. I wanted to do something to show complete submission. there's 2 things we haven't done together. which one says "I belong to you" the most: swallowing his semen? or allowing him to cum inside me? I'll be over at his place tomorrow night. please help!

 

[Adrusek81]

Wow!

Why not just say "I love you" and get it over with? This sounds a bit dangerous, if you want me to be honest...

 

[Durango95]

Dude there are some guys I haven't done that with that I have dated for years....I'd be real sure about this. I have to ask. Are you a bug hunter? Could he possibly be a stealth pozzer? That may sound cynical but this type behavior is more prevalent in fetishism, especially in the BDSM community.

 

[MadHatter616]

It's nothing like either of those. There's no love there. We are good friends who are in a dom/sub monogamous relationship. He's really nice and we both got tested together for everything. I asked him not to cum in me because I felt that kind of strengthened a relationship. I wasn't ready to be "intimate" I guess. And he has came in my mouth a few times. I just gag when I try to swallow. I'm safe with him. I just wanted to go a little further in my submission role.

 

[palbert]

First, how old are you?

Second, how long have you been in the relationship?

Third, has he disclosed his HIV status, and do you believe him? (HIV meds in the cabinet?)

I spent 3 years in a similar relationship with a POZ lover. We never had unprotected sex or did anything unsafe. Playtime was generally more fulfilling than "rocks off." I am NEG.

Let him give you a monumental whipping with his favorite quirt.

Get him a nice set of leg-irons.

PM if you wish. Glad to help anyone in the BDSM world.

 

[MadHatter616]

I'm 28. He's 39. Yes we got tested together. We're not into pain or tied up stuff. It's mote of a psychological domination. I do what he wants, when he wants.

 

[tangential]

Whatever floats your submarine. But good grief, it's beyond me how swallowing is on the same level as barebacking . . .

 

[HunterM]

Ultimate act of submission in a relationship? Just be a doormat and let him walk all over you.

 

[altlover85]

Whatever floats your submarine. But good grief, it's beyond me how swallowing is on the same level as barebacking . . .

I was thinking the same thing.

As long as he doesn't have anything, I'd go with the oral option.

 

[Benvolio]

For his birthday offer to be his slave for a day. Have you limits in mind. Safe sex and a safe word should be among them. It could be very interesting for both of you.
There are probably guys here who have actually done the slave/master thing.

 

[IAMTHATIAM]

Um...a pair is a pair.

It shouldn't be greater/lesser... a pair MUST be loved and longing, running both ways.

If you are not both loved and longing, or
loving and receiving, you are not loved.

True, not everyone can meet every need, but surely
every loved one can meet the need of the moment.

Is this too esoteric?

No, it is not.


The ultimate act of submission is DOMINANCE.

The ultimate act of submission is taking CONTROL.

The ultimate act of uber-gay expression is taking change/change.

Figure out what that means on your own, and have a blast doing it


Uber=gay=me


Perhaps we should put aside the reality of gay dudes for a time, and
concentrate on making ALL BETTER. We matter, but so much more is
at stake.