Um, I like boys and would like to fuck you..

[hotlatinchulo348]

Here is my situation. I will keep it brief. I live in a dorm hall and I have developed a ever growing crush on my RA (Resident Assistant that lives in the hall.) Fortunately I know he is gay. He is one year ahead of me and weird sounds often make their way out of my mouth when I talk to him. Lol. My mind just goes blank. Anyways, I have hinted numerous times that I am bi and that I would like to get to know him better and hangout. Problem is, his gaydar sucks. I made it a point to ask him to play tennis with me and we even half flirted on IM a couple times but something always comes up and he can't play. Then he went and turned the tennis thing into a hall event. Dammit! Lol. I don't think there is any rules against relationships with the people in your halls cuz this is probably a very unique situation. haha. How the hell do I clue him in without grabbing him by the dick and telling him I want him?!?!

 

[G-Lexington]

Ask him, "There's no rule against RAs fraternizing with other students, is there?" When he says "No", say "So would you mind fraternizing with this student?"

Lex

 

[Lancsdan]

sounds to me like he's not interested

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Ask him, "There's no rule against RAs fraternizing with other students, is there?" When he says "No", say "So would you mind fraternizing with this student?"

Lex

Lol. This is smooth. I just don't know if I could keep a straight face... lol
What kind of stronger hints could I drop? Or how could I flirt a little better? all in good taste of course. haha

 

[SonOfSlobone]

Why not just come out to him? I guess there's no rule about that. Then if he's interested he'll let you know.

 

[G-Lexington]

The problem - or benefit, if you will - of playing the "hint game" is that if a hint doesn't play out, the game isn't over. You can just say "Well, he didn't understand what I was hinting at" and try again. But it's better to just find out. That way, you can stop planning and scheming if you know there's no chance of anything happening, and you can focus your energy elsewhere.

So stop hinting and flirting. My suggestion may be fun and flirty, but it leaves no doubts as to your intentions. He'll let you know either way.

Lex

 

[Aflute04]

You might want to double check into that whole no dating resident's thing... A lot of schools have 'hidden' rules against it and he could end up losing his job over it... I've seen it happen to a fellow ra friend of mine. It sucked for him!

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

That's true, I will definitely look into that..

 

[Fucker29]

Yeah, you should look into if there's such a rule. If there isn't, then just be honest and upfront with him...if you KNOW he's gay, then go ahead and ask.

 

[hotlatinchulo348]

Okay so I am officially and completely bummed out right now. I was reading the RA rules on the website and apparently an RA having any type of relationship with a resident is considered a "Red light" and goes against policy. I really like this guy and I don't want him to be placed in type of situation that could potentially cost him his job... I can't really turn off these feelings but I guess I will have to just hold them back...

 

[Aflute04]

^^^ OMG I totally did the same thing... LOL but I was well versed in the policy so had I got caught (and fired), I would have known better. But I didn't... And it was fun as hell

 

[conrad]

[In my life I have met and become a friend to many men who were sexually attractive. Yet, with only a very few did the friendship reach the point of sexual contact. All friendships are valuable to the persons involved whether or not they ever include sex.

Also, in my experience, when sex does happen between two persons who have bonded in friendship, the sex seems natural and right. There is no seduction because both have reached the point where both want it to happen. Often it all comes about without words being spoken and that is because the sex is a confirmation of the bond that has already come to exist between them. This to me is the gold standard of sex in a loving and committed relationship.

Yes, some persons find it difficult to relate in this way. It may take a good deal of time. Situations such as described by the OP are tricky. As some have pointed out caution is needed. When there is no confirming response to one's overtures it may be wise to move on. The alternative is patient waiting.

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[hotlatinchulo348]

Fun stuff fun stuff. So, we went and played tennis today which was fun. Then we had some really good talks and he suggested we grab lunch and then we did. It wasn't until we were all the way back to the dorms where I just decided to tell him I was bi. It was nice because it was a big relief. I guess I was more into looking for someone that I could just talk to about this kind of stuff. All my friends that know about me are back home. It was just funny cuz he told me that he had a hunch from a few signs that I showed that I was into guys. The funny thing is, they were all signs I purposely planted in front of his eyes. LOL. Oh man. I guess gaydar isn't always 100% accurate. Anyway, it was kind of a good conclusion.. for now. I mean, now I feel like I have something that we can connect on and its between me and him. Hopefully we can develope a good friendship out of this as well. And if somewhere down the line, when its no longer against the rules and something does happen, then I will have the ideal friend and partner. Thanks for reading. haha

 

[Coffee]

Congratulations! At least you have a very good friend now... all my friends around me in life are straight (as far as I know)