Unfriending your exes family members/friends from Facebook

[NYClover54]

How many of you in addition to unfriending your ex also unfriended their family members and friends ? I blocked my ex after our two year relationship ended but didn't unfriend any of his friends etc. I don't think I will as I have nothing against them but what did you guys do ?

 

[Maklaar13]

I do not have a Facebook account anymore but have been known to unfriend people in real life and have actually divorced from all but one family member. Sometimes you got to save yourself.

 

[medic1]

^Just this.

 

[hylas]

I'd unfriend them if you're not friends irl anymore.
There is also the "soft option" of unfollowing them, which means that you don't get updates from them anymore, but they can still contact you or see your "friends only" stuff. I use that sometimes with kind-of-but-not-really friends.

 

[checkinthingsout]

I'd unfriend them if you're not friends irl anymore.
There is also the "soft option" of unfollowing them, which means that you don't get updates from them anymore, but they can still contact you or see your "friends only" stuff. I use that sometimes with kind-of-but-not-really friends.

This is the best option I think. Best not to unfriend them in case one of their friends you haven't met sees you in a post and decides to add you lol . Never know who could be around the corner so best not to burn bridges unnecessarily.

If you are still friends with some of them, why not keep them as friends on facebook? I don't see what the big deal is that you cannot have them as friends on facebook just because you broke up with someone else they happen to be friends with...

 

[lurker]

Family members, I would, because it's just awkward... but friends? Unless they take sides, like spanishguy said, I'd just keep your ex'es friends as friends, especially if you're actually good friends with some of them.

 

[NYClover54]

Family members, I would, because it's just awkward... but friends? Unless they take sides, like spanishguy said, I'd just keep your ex'es friends as friends, especially if you're actually good friends with some of them.

It's funny, no one in his family knew that we were together not even his brother that he was out to

 

[Ganoderma]

It's funny, no one in his family knew that we were together not even his brother that he was out to

hi NYClover54, so all these relatives of your ex (excluding his brother) are not aware that you are a gay guy?

 

[Seasoned]

I'm not sure I'd use the word "funny." Not being open to family is sad. As far as your question is concerned, if staying in touch with his family is a way for you to keep tabs on him or if it prevents you from moving on, it would be healthier for you to unfriend them.

 

[NYClover54]

hi NYClover54, so all these relatives of your ex (excluding his brother) are not aware that you are a gay guy?

Correct but his one brother doesn't even know. I'm only friends with his brothers and his sister in law

 

[NYClover54]

I'm not sure I'd use the word "funny." Not being open to family is sad. As far as your question is concerned, if staying in touch with his family is a way for you to keep tabs on him or if it prevents you from moving on, it would be healthier for you to unfriend them.

Explain this

 

[Ganoderma]

hi NYClover54, thanks for the update and for the explanation.

I tend to remember that you are (more or less) living as an open gay and I tend to conclude that this means that you will also have other gay guys listed as FB friends. So are you really sure that all these relatives (and other friends) of your ex are not aware that you are a gay guy? It seems to me that this is tough / difficult / complicated / impossible, in particular when you are frequently using FB and when you have frequent FB contact about a variety of topics with your gay FB friends.

Any idea if things will change when it becomes clear to these relatives / friends of your ex that you are a gay guy, and that you and your ex were boyfriends of each other for a certain amount of time? What's the deal that you want to keep contact with them? Or do you want to keep contact with your ex through them (= more or less 'to keep tabs on him')?

 

[NYClover54]

hi NYClover54, thanks for the update and for the explanation.

I tend to remember that you are (more or less) living as an open gay and I tend to conclude that this means that you will also have other gay guys listed as FB friends. So are you really sure that all these relatives (and other friends) of your ex are not aware that you are a gay guy? It seems to me that this is tough / difficult / complicated / impossible, in particular when you are frequently using FB and when you have frequent FB contact about a variety of topics with your gay FB friends.

Any idea if things will change when it becomes clear to these relatives / friends of your ex that you are a gay guy, and that you and your ex were boyfriends of each other for a certain amount of time? What's the deal that you want to keep contact with them? Or do you want to keep contact with your ex through them (= more or less 'to keep tabs on him')?

My sexuality doesn't show up on my facebook but I guess I didn't unfriend them because I have nothing against them ? I mean they're all nice people even though I only met his sister in law and his one brother once. Idk maybe I'm just waiting for us to come back together again but I don't think that's going to happen anyway, at least not anytime soon.

 

[darden]

really depends on the nature of the breakup.

bad breakup and I'll unfriend him and all of his friends that day... though there was that one awkward time when my ex's best friend sent me a friend request after I deleted them so they could try and hookup with me behind my ex's back

if it was a good/mutual breakup, I'll stay friends with them.