Unprotected sex

[skaterboi]

I've only had sex with one guy, and he was all for doing it unprotected (random hook-up no strings) which was a bit of a shock to me, i mean he had only just met me!

Anyway I've started seeing someone been seeing them for over a month and last night he was also all up for doing it unprotected;


Is this really common?

 

[looseliam]

Unfortunately it's more common than it should be.

Is someone insists and not wearing protection, I insist on showing myself the door.

 

[bluedragon4]

very common. I stopped having anal sex when I was 25 cause I was getting careless. No one ever asked me to wear one nor did they put one on or did I ask. It feels so good without that you get carried away. I didn't have anal sex again till I was 30. I did it with a condom and hated it(both as a top and bttm). I am now in a 4 and half year relationship and we never once used them. But we only are with each other so I see nothing wrong with it. It's kinda sad now looking back that I would have rather not done it for 5 years than to use a rubber. I didn't realize till I wrote this how much I don't care for protected anal sex.

 

[Danugh]

Yea it is common.

Some guys think that if a person looks healthy and its just one time, they may do it without a condom.

I dont like hooking up with someone and he doesnt bring it up or take one out.

 

[fjancsi80]

better to find a more careful guy

 

[skaterboi]

Sorry if i've given the wrong impresion of the guy I'm with, hes really sweet and didn't force himself on me or anything. Hell hes not pressured me into anything, I've shared a bed with him atleast 20 nights since meeting him and hes not once tried to force me into doing anything with him other than a cuddle.
I'm just a bit scared by the whole situation, if he had been smaller and could have got it in then I would have just let myself go with it in the heat of the moment I'm not even sure how to bring it up with him without feeling awkward if you get me, I don't want him to think that I think hes some kind of dirty whore whos been about and might have something.

 

[123kid]

Sorry if i've given the wrong impresion of the guy I'm with, hes really sweet and didn't force himself on me or anything. Hell hes not pressured me into anything, I've shared a bed with him atleast 20 nights since meeting him and hes not once tried to force me into doing anything with him other than a cuddle.
I'm just a bit scared by the whole situation, if he had been smaller and could have got it in then I would have just let myself go with it in the heat of the moment I'm not even sure how to bring it up with him without feeling awkward if you get me, I don't want him to think that I think hes some kind of dirty whore whos been about and might have something.

well with all do respect, if you are scared to bring up the conversation are you really ready to have sex? Sex is such a personal thing that you should be able to OPENLY talk about any aspect of it without judgment. This simply comes with being adult about the situation. Best wishes, and don't be scared to address an issue.

 

[fjancsi80]

there is nothing insulting about your wish to stick to the usage of condom, on the other hand this is an absolutely justified demand on your part. simply tell him that you don't fuck without protection but otherwise you are really eager to experiment with him.

 

[TygreBryte]

Man, if you feel uncomfortable with it, you should go with the feeling of un-comfort. So far your health is good, right? Do everything to keep it that way.

It's nice you're getting good snuggles. Would sex *with* a condom make those more fun?

You could tell him that "it's just my rule" to use a condom. (He doesn't have to know that you made the rule up right now, but it's a good rule to stick to.)

I think bluedragon is right: if you start to "slip," then it gets easier to keep on slipping, and that could lead to some unfortunate spots.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Not only is it common,
it is incredibly stupid.
Shep+

 

[wonder25]

If the guy casually assumes it's okay to go unprotected, it means more than likely he's doing the same thing with other guys (maybe lots?)- who happen to be the guys most likely to have hiv.

Be careful. Unless u're in a seriously committed relationship, insisting on a condom is NOT an offensive request. Asking someone to wear it doesn't need to be an awkward conversation. And if someone says "no" or doesn't even have the conversation in the first place - just remember he could be fucking some hiv positive guy *unprotected* last week or next week, and he'd never think to use a condom.

Not even gonna get into the other std's - some of them are really bad, but not AS dangerous or scary. AIDS - you don't want. And PS just because some casual partner who seems like a nice guy tells you you're his only partner, or he's just been tested, etc.... he could be lying - he could be in denial - he might just not want to hurt your feelings about sleeping around with other guys. Use a condom.

 

[oz_doc]

The only person ive had unprotected sex with is my partner of nearly four years, and it was over a year into our relationship before we did. But the most important pre-requisite to having unprotected sex was two sets of joint appointments with our doctor to have two HIV and STD screens three months apart, both given the negative results in the presence of each other. As a doctor I also have annual HIV checks to be on the safe side.

Anything less than this level of mutual respect and openness and I'd strongly recommend you stick with the condoms.