Update to "Need Advice"

[FloridaBoi]

Well all of you that read my previous post "Need Advice" know that I was having trouble coming out to my best friend. Well I did.


Okay fast forward to today.

I thought about it all day and cried alot and finally got the nurve and asked my mom to take a walk outside with me. I told her that I was gay and I hope that she would accept me.

Well She started crying and asking 101 questions.

What about aids?
I dont want you to be that way, Do you think you can change?

I told her that umm as far as I knew Aids wasnt a GAY disease and that I couldnt change because I didnt choose to be this way to start with.

She finally told me that she knew all along but she just never wanted to deal with her feelings about it. She hugged me and told me that she loved me and wanted me to be happy.

So far things are still going good, I just hope things stay this good.

I cant believe I actually am out to two people I'm still numb and dont feel
anything yet.

I just hope everything works out.

Thanks guys for all of your support and your help, I love you all and thank you so much for being there.


-Matthew

 

[starwars]

that was the same with my mom, she knew all along, well it was pretty obvious when i was listenin to Cher at the age of 4, well done anyway

 

[Eagle653]

My mother knew all along too. I think most mothers know. It's that maternal instinct, somehow. Most times they don't bring it up because they don't want to confront it, or don't want to embarrass us until we're ready to talk about it. But...chances are, they know.

Anyway, congratulations! You took a risk and it paid off. I'm glad it went so well! And, yes, it's common to feel numb afterward too. I know I did. But, the "relief" and "elation" followed once it sank it that the cat was out of the bag.

Good job!

 

[tallguy297]

Congrats FB... on your courage and your progress!

Now that its not the big elephant in the room your mum can come to terms with it a little better now and soon enough she'll understand you more and questions like the AIDS thing will make much more sense to her...

I'm sure everything will go great mate...just keep holding your head high!

 

[G-Lexington]

Congratulations!

Lex

 

[rareboy]

Your mom is a good person.

Make sure you treat her well.

 

[FloridaBoi]

My mom says that she accepts me and we talked today without tears but she told me she thought I was confused and needed help.

Then came the big question lol, Which role do you play the man or the woman? I told her that was too personal and I wasnt going there.

She isnt acting any different right now but who knows how shes gonna act tomorrow. She tells me she loves me and is there for me but like I tried to explain to her shes to busy trying to change me than she is listening to me trying to explain it to her.

Okay well with my Best friend we talked today on the phone she said she loves me and accepts me but she doesnt believe im gay because I have not been with a man yet. She thinks I chose it. She said she only can go by what I tell her and she said she had to believe it because she trust me and loves me.

That hurt me when she told me that but I havent said anything to her because now I realize that neither her or my mom understand and like I told them today I am tired of trying to make people understand me, I dont care anymore, Im done crying about it, Im done worrying about what people think and if they cant love me for who I am then I will make it without them.




-Matthew