Use It Or Lose It

[sixthson]

What do you mean you have never been able to masturbate?

 

[dontlietome]

You can try using those creams that numb the penis so sex would last longer.

 

[jockboy01]

huh, that's interesting.

I'd agree with the numbing gel.... but you said it doesn't work. I know that neosporin has a version that is also a pain killer. I know it has been used before and made it impossible to feel anything (which isn't good either). But you might try that.

Clearly, you're phsyiologically fine if you're having wet dreams. So that is nice.

Have you masturbated with a condom on? That would definitely decrease your senstifivity.

 

[Blacksheep]

Do you peel the skin down then masturbate by rubbing the head or do you keep the head covered and masturbate by pulling the skin back and forward over the head (I'm guessing if your head is covered when soft there must be at least some skin that could cover you head when you're hard)?

 

[sixthson]

Have you ever tried just stimulating the underside of your penis? What happens if you rub on something like your bed? I have discovered that too much lube sometime interfers with feeling, so maybe if you tried applying a large amount of a very slippery type of lube?

Have you tried a vibrator? Seriously, give this a try.

No matter what you do, to conquer the overly sensitive feeling in the head, I think you need to keep touching it.

Let us know.

 

[kevbo]

19 and troubles with erection?

a visit to the doctor is in order

 

[Blacksheep]

The only other advice I could give you is to peel it back whenever you can and let it rub in your undies. I got a dorsal cut because I couldn't retract my foreskin as a kid. The feeling of the knob being exposed drove me crazy for a few months. But it rubbing on my undies soon desensitised it.

 

[jockboy01]

hmmm, so it sounds like it's all or nothing. That's kind of hard for me to imagine. And just a side note, getting off is only partially related to penile stimulation. Much of it is also in your brain as to how aroused you are.

If it were a doctor, it would be a urologist. It is his area of expertise for sure. There are also sexual therapists that might be able to help.

As to the muscles... not getting off does not adversely affect your health at all other than leading to a very slight increase in the incidence of prostatitis. So don't worry about that.

 

[Jeffs0418]

You should have let the feeling come to it's full fruition.
You would not have been 'pissing' in his ass.
It would have been 'a lot of pent up sperm'
Maybe it is a good thing you did not go with the 'feeling'.
Squirting your first load at your age might do some deep damage to a guy's rectum.

 

[3nipples]

The other thing I was wondering is if you don't frequenly orgasm, or ejaculate, do the parts of your penis that do these contractions start to get weaker? Because I have started to get a lot of leakage after I have peed even though I am completely sure I have emptied my bladder and even squeezed the remainder out of my dick. This is somewhat embarrassing for me to experience as I don't want to end up incontinent by my mid-20's.

Another problem which I used to have similar to this was a painful and slow ejaculation, which would occur if I woke up as I was cumming in a wet dream. The cum oozed out of my penis and I was left with a dull ache for about 10 to 20 minutes after. It felt like the parts of my penis that are supposed to contract to make you ejaculate weren't strong or powerful enough to get it out properly.

Two things you state above strike a little bell... the numb feeling, drip and possibly rest urine in the bladder point towards an obstruction in your urethra, maybe some scar tissue buildup from an earlier infection or something like that.

You need to see a urologist that will do a thorough examination. I would expect them to do an ultra sound before and after you urinate to check for rest liquid in the bladder, to check for bladder capacity, the pressure curve when you piss and to pass a camera up to the bladder to have a good look inside. In your place I would go to the urology department of a teaching hospital where they have all the equipment on hand and where your case will get some air time during their group discussions.

 

[Centurion]

...not getting off does not adversely affect your health at all other than leading to a very slight increase in the incidence of prostatitis. So don't worry about that.

Easy for you to say!


I'm going to go waaaaaaaay out on a limb here, Blond Guy, and make a suggestion that's going to sound crazy to you. Ask your GP if he will prescribe Prozac (fluoxetine) or, preferably, Cymbalta (duloxetine) for you. If you look both drugs up, the literature will say they're for depression. But no, I don't think you're depressed, nor do I think this is a psychological problem. Both drugs are also used to slow down ejaculation in men who are premature ejaculators. Cymbalta is also frequently prescribed for the control of chronic paresthesias and neuralgias (such as hypersensistivity or itching of the glans penis) so it may be particularly effective for you. If Cymbalta (duloxetine) is not available in Australia, Effexor (venalfaxine) is a close chemical cousin, and it may suffice.

I don't know why this is happening to you. It may be some weird sort of reflex sympathetic dystrophy resulting from your circumcision or trauma to the penis at some other time in your life. No, I don't think a repeat circumcision would help - I'd avoid that.

Good luck, and please let me know what happens.

 

[Centurion]

Why, exactly, are you suggesting this?

1) Because he's miserable.

2) Because he's seen many specialists and has not yet gotten any help.

3) Because its easy, safe, and (hopefully) cheap.

4) Because it's one of the most common treatments for neuralgias and no one has tried it yet (which doesn't surprise me in the least).


Yes, I realize this is typical Western medicine and not the usual holistic magic favored by members of this board. To reiterate my statement above:

Cymbalta is also frequently prescribed for the control of chronic paresthesias and neuralgias (such as hypersensistivity or itching of the glans penis) so it may be particularly effective for you.

 

[Centurion]

I'm less of a believer in holistic medicine than I am in Western medicine. That said, I think you are presuming a lot. What he's describing sounds (to me) more physiological than psychological. While it's possible that an anti-depressant may be appropriate for other reasons, I do not (personally) believe that the problem's he's explained with sensitivity etc. would warrant that treatment.

You may be correct, it would probably make sense to get at least a consult from a psychologist, but I think the solution to the physical problems lies elsewhere.

I AGREE MOST EMPHATICALLY that this is more likely physiological than psychological. I think it would be crazy to get a psycholgical consultation at this point, for a problem that has so many characteristics of a neuralgia. With due respect to the psychiatrists, what could a psychiatrist do with a neuralgia? I think Blond Guy would be wasting his time to pursue this as some sort of depressive episode or "stress" reaction.

As I said, this may be some weird sort of reflex sympathetic dystrophy, a problem more frequently seen in the arms and legs, but which has been described in the penis. It typically follows trauma of some sort to the affected area, but not always. The discomfort is probably more frequently pain, but hypersensitivity and "itching" would not be that unusual. And the discomfort may persist years after the initial irritant has disappeared. Also, the trauma need not be mechanical - it can result from viral infections which irritate the nerves in the affected area.

A number of reasonably effective pharmacologic treatments for neuralgias have been developed in the last ten years. Amongst the most effective, IMO, have been Cymbalta, Effexor, and Lyrica. Regrettably, these drugs are not used nearly as often as they might, quite possibly because there seems to be a public stigma against them. Because it is also possible to use these drugs for things like seizures and depression, some patients seem to think that the drugs have no other uses, and assume their doctors think they're "crazy." Many doctors are reluctant to prescribe these drugs for neuralgias, despite their efficacy, because they don't want to anger their patients (pretty much all of whom have internet access these days, and routinely misinterpret what they read on the internet).

Blond Guy's doctors know all about the use of these drugs for neuralgias, I have no doubt. They haven't gone there, I suspect, because it seems like too much trouble to them (trouble in the social sense, not the medical). In so doing, however, they may have failed to treat their patient.