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Hi! My name is Seth and I am very new to this scene. I just came out to a close number of friends so of course that would mean I'm still a virgin. I'm not saying I'm gay because I still LOVE women but I would say I plan on being bisexual. The funny little secret is though, is that I'm a virgin on both sides, lol. I am however a huge tease or should I say flirt for better terms, lol. So my main question is after coming out as being bisexual I plan on giving it up eventually...sooner than later. But I'm asking for any advice on anything that would be helpful to know. I would love to know. (*8*)
 
My 1st sexual experience was a hooking up with a hot guy. Im not proud of that at all. I always wish it was with my 1st love who i met later.
 
once a Bisexual always Bisexual !
the urge won't go away .
i tried !
 
Once a Bisexual always Bisexual! The urge won't go away. I tried! That's what you call advice, ha ha. I'm still clueless, ha ha!
 
Welcome to JUB! :wave:

What sort of advice are you looking for? Where to meet guys? How to seduce guys? How to play pitcher, how to play catcher, how to play third base? How to make pancakes the next morning? :)

Lex
 
Yes G-Lexington! That's the type of advice I'm looking for. I recently had my first kiss (tongue) and I can't help but to say it was different from a girl so I need kissing advice too. Just give me advice mainly dealing with sexual things but include the small stuff too like kissing and things a boy likes, etc. Just helpful hints on how to get a boy who I can make hot dirty nasty sweaty love with but also be able to talk to him when I don't want to have sex. How do you meet the regular guy not just the player. I keep having this problem with meeting the player who just wants to get check marks off his list of things he wanted to do with me or to me and once he gets them it's like over, lol. Luckly I am a real tease though or I would have gotten played like a girl and they would have just hit me and quit me. Although I would have made them tie me up and be in control to hit it. Ha ha. :help:
 
>>>I recently had my first kiss (tongue) and I can't help but to say it was different from a girl so I need kissing advice too.

It's one of those things where you "learn by doing". Make sure your lips aren't overly chapped, make sure your breath isn't too horrid, and just go for it. If you want, try to get your tongue involved, but if he doesn't open up to let it in, don't force it. Similarly, if you don't want his in, don't let it in. Don't be overly aggressive, but don't just sit there and make him do all the work, either. If you feel him pulling away, let him. He may just need a breather.

>>>Just helpful hints on how to get a boy who I can make hot dirty nasty sweaty love with but also be able to talk to him when I don't want to have sex. How do you meet the regular guy not just the player. I keep having this problem with meeting the player who just wants to get check marks off his list of things he wanted to do with me or to me and once he gets them it's like over, lol.

Million dollar question, really.

My main suggestion is this - if you want a steak, go to a steakhouse. Don't go to Denny's, then bitch that the steak isn't what you were hoping for. :) In short, go where the potential boyfriends are. You're more likely to find would-be hook-ups on craigslist, at gay bars, and other "cruising" spots. It's not that you can't find a boyfriend there - it's just that most guys there aren't usually looking for a boyfriend.

Instead, head for the gay section of town. Hit the grocery store, the coffee shops, the boutiques. Start up some simple conversations with people, and see if you click with someone. Look online for various gay groups in your area. There's gay voleyball teams, gay bowling league, gay volunteer groups, gay biking clubs, gay book clubs, you name it. Find something that interests you, join up, and keep your eyes and options open.

I'll leave the sex talk for later. But drive these three points deep into your skull so they never leave:

1. Condoms. Always.
2. Lube. Lots of it.
3. Patience. Lots of it.

Go get 'em, tiger.

Lex
 
Yea although I want to hear the sex talk because it's about sex I can't even get a boy to talk to me about more than that he thinks I'm cute and that he gets what he wants and he wants to have sex with me. But anyways I swear I live in the most manly part of the beach and I have never seen any type of gay club etc. Are there really gay things in my town of Manhattan? Or do I have to travel to far parts of town just to find a boy.
 
Dude, you're in friggin' Manhattan. It cant' be harder to find gay stuff there than it is here in Denver...and it's extremely easy here.

1. Most cities of some size have a free or cheap gay paper/magazine. (Manhattan, yes, is of some size.) Grab a copy, and read it front to back. Look for possible places to meet guys (other than just the gay clubs and personals).

2. Go a google search for "gay Manhattan (activity)", where the activity is something that interests you - biking, art, basketball, bowling.

Lex
 
Hi Sethie,

Re-reading your thread and the responses I was tempted to add my own on the board; but, I decided that you might benefit from a PM from a man out of your age grouping, the kind of meet-up which would be unlikely in real life.

I have been there and done that as they say. My first important experience (aside, of course, of the joys of discovering the thrill of masturbation and being titilated by the largely uninformed talk of my peer) came when I went out of my way to become a friend to the new guy in town. We became good friends, then more than good friends. I remember the special feeling of getting physical with this fellow--all non-sexual at the beginning. I felt we had something together when we fell into a warm embrace; he was hard and had to know that I was hard too. One's body does have a way of giving one messages which are hard to put in words.

He was an only child. His parents were both away most days and he did spend a lot of time at our place where there was always activity. I was the number ten child in a family of twelve. Yet the special advantage we had was that this guy had what had been the "grandma's place" which was an apartment attached to the main house which had been a farm house. This zone of privacy allowed us to do what came naturally and to us seemed so right and good. We never stopped thinking of ourselves as anything but regular guys and we did not worry that years later Kinsey would simply call what we were into by its correct name. We learned by doing and what we were doing was homosexual activity. And during the last two years of high school we did IT all. Believe me the friendship and love I had (and continue to have) for him made it seem natural when we finally got into real sex. The sex had meaning; it confirmed the bond of friendship and love which had grown between us. There was no seduction; there didn't have to be since we both needed and wanted the closeness of sex.

Thirteen years after we met we were both married men. But my own journey into the fullness of my sexuality included two relationships with men and two with women. And, I was always an enthusiastic partner and never needed or wanted to cheat. And, I never in sexual intercourse ever had what some men confess to: a wish that I were with a person of another sex. I end up in retirement a very happy person, still sexually vital, and in my mind and fantasy still able to be stirred by abosolute strangers whom I find sexually attractive. If I linger too long, I know that my brain (a most important organ of sex)has done its part and sent a delightful bit of lubrication which my ample foreskin usually contains until I can get to a bathroom to sop it up lest it stain my trousers. I appreciate knowing that I am still "horny" even at my age. And, I wonder sometimes if the person (man or woman) who triggered it would be pleased or disgusted that he/she had that effect on me.

Human sexuality is an awesome gift to us. I wish that every young man could be as fortunate as I have been. Sex ought to be pure joy, so I have tried to avoid all those things which tend to make it a hassle.

PM me if you like. Some of us "old ones" do have what I view as very healthy and useful approaches to the whole subject. I still know and appreciate that I have loved men and women. I suppose that makes me bi-sexual in my inner being. I send you best wishes.


Conrad

 
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