Virgin, almost 20, but sexually frustrated and horny.

[fuckari]

Hey y'all I'm new here so I hope this isn't annoying or anything.

But I'm turning 20 in August and so far haven't ever kissed, had a relationship with or had sex with another guy. At this point I'm incredibly sexually frustrated and horny, all I can think about is fantasising about having multiple alpha men fuck me raw, and I've come to the point that I've been fantasising about dick in my ass so much I no longer see my penis as a sexual organ (is that even normal).

The weird thing is I've had some opportunity to get fucked. Mostly with men or guys I'm not into, but at the same time, if I am into them I just feel like I need to learn to love myself first. And the thought of me being naked with another guy scares me, I hate my body so much. I hate it. I hate my body and there are many parts of my face I feel like I need to change. And all of this, my personal body issues and my need for some sort of intimacy interrupts a lot with my uni work and studies.

I just wanted to know if I'm missing out on anything? I feel like at 19, I should be doing it with at least 20 by now and I feel like a total slut and I wish I was.

 

[aaggii]

There are many threads here that handle the same situation as yours, if there are no more replies here, check those out.

1. Nothing wrong with you being a virgin at 20. It will happen when it will happen.

2. ¨Is that even normal?¨ - don´t think that. If it´s not illegal or doesn´t hurt anyone (unless they ask to ), it´s OK. You are not the only one focusing on your ass rather than your penis. You might be a bottom. Without those, tops would have it harder (pun indended?)

3. Don´t just go do it with anyone. Find someone you like and likes you back. Get lost of that bad self-esteem - it might take awhile, but like you said, you have to love yourself first. There are people into anything, skinny guys, chubbies, hairy, tall, short, small penises, long penises, you name it, there are people into it. In what category do you fit? Find some sites for that category (example, gay bears) and make a profile or two. Or even better, go to a gay bar. Once you get passed the idiots, you will definitely find someone you like.

You mention uni work and studies. Isn´t there a group for gay youngsters you could join?

 

[fuckari]

Thanks for the reply. It's very much appreciated!

1. Nothing wrong with you being a virgin at 20. It will happen when it will happen.

Thanks. I'm aware of this. But then it's like, I feel like missing out on so much, especially at my age.

2. ¨Is that even normal?¨ - don´t think that. If it´s not illegal or doesn´t hurt anyone (unless they ask to ), it´s OK. You are not the only one focusing on your ass rather than your penis. You might be a bottom. Without those, tops would have it harder (pun indended?)

Haha that's cool. It's a weird thing I've developed. But sometimes I forget I'm a boy too!

3. Don´t just go do it with anyone. Find someone you like and likes you back. Get lost of that bad self-esteem - it might take awhile, but like you said, you have to love yourself first. There are people into anything, skinny guys, chubbies, hairy, tall, short, small penises, long penises, you name it, there are people into it. In what category do you fit? Find some sites for that category (example, gay bears) and make a profile or two. Or even better, go to a gay bar. Once you get passed the idiots, you will definitely find someone you like.

You mention uni work and studies. Isn´t there a group for gay youngsters you could join?

Thanks I'll take this into account. And I'm staying away from the queer society at uni just purely based on the fact that I will not get along with those people, especially them being SJW types. Thank you for the answers!

 

[checkinthingsout]

Thanks I'll take this into account. And I'm staying away from the queer society at uni just purely based on the fact that I will not get along with those people, especially them being SJW types. Thank you for the answers!

What are SJW types? Anyways, that doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. You never know what other guys they may know...one of their friends could be the one to give you your first cock .

Also, STOP with the pity party/low self-esteem. confidence in yourself will make people more attracted to you immediately. Think about it, if you dont think you are at all desirable, why would anyone else?

I am going to say you are missing out, and not on sex. I don't say this because you are a virgin. I say this because you seem paralyzed in making connections (friendships, romantic connections, etc) with people around you because of your horrible self-esteem. You are at a university with probably thousands of other students. Why would anyone want to hangout/love/fuck you when you seem to not like yourself so much? Uni doesn't last forever, and you are missing out on connecting with a ton of guys in the same stage in life as you because you aren't adequately addressing your self esteem issues.

Go to the school counselor, talk it out, make a list of changes you are going to make, make changes, then find a hot campus stud to fuck your brains out ...and give you your first kiss as well

 

[KaraBulut]

But I'm turning 20 in August and so far haven't ever kissed, had a relationship with or had sex with another guy. At this point I'm incredibly sexually frustrated and horny, all I can think about is fantasising about having multiple alpha men fuck me raw, and I've come to the point that I've been fantasising about dick in my ass so much I no longer see my penis as a sexual organ (is that even normal)...

I just wanted to know if I'm missing out on anything? I feel like at 19, I should be doing it with at least 20 by now and I feel like a total slut and I wish I was.

You might want to give some thought to what you're looking for.

Sex is not the same thing as love and relationships. Getting fucked isn't necessarily going to make you feel better about yourself and it's not going to be a cure-all for what you're feeling. Everyone has fantasies but not every fantasy has to become a reality- if fact, some fantasies should never become reality.

If you want to be kissed, then find someone that you like and be kissed. If you want a relationship, then put yourself out there and date. If you want to have sex with a guy, then have sex with a guy.

But don't expect that a kiss, a date or a fuck are going to be the solution to everything. They're just the first steps on very long journeys.

 

[epod85]

Thanks I'll take this into account. And I'm staying away from the queer society at uni just purely based on the fact that I will not get along with those people, especially them being SJW types. Thank you for the answers!

yeah stay away from SJW don't stick your dick in crazy

 

[Seasoned]

Why are you isolating yourself? Take advantage of all uni life has to offer. You'll end up with a quarter of what life has to offer if, at such a young age, you are prejudging what you will and will not like.

I'm soon to be 68 and I am telling you to treat life like a big wet sponge and squeeze it hard so by the end of your life there's not a drop of water left.

If you truly wanted sex at any cost you would have had it by now. You have some doubts and/or standards. It's up to you to keep or change them and either is ok. And for ass and penis, I say, they're both pleasurable so use them both!

 

[fuckari]

Thanks y'all! I hope I didn't come off as self-loathing because I wasn't, I'm still in the process of learning to love myself and be more confident. So far I've grown a lot, so that's a good thing.

 

[Seasoned]

You're on your way! Good for you. Best wishes to you. ��

 

[checkinthingsout]

Thanks y'all! I hope I didn't come off as self-loathing because I wasn't, I'm still in the process of learning to love myself and be more confident. So far I've grown a lot, so that's a good thing.

Great! keep continuing to grow.

Question: What is an SJW type?

 

[itsmeagain]

Try out a gay club or check online where gay guys chill.
There will be someone there. Have a good time. It will happen.
No problem being cherry at 20

 

[fuckari]

Great! keep continuing to grow.

Question: What is an SJW type?

SJW = Social Justice Warrior.

Basically they're people who take "social justice activism" to some ridiculous level where they spread hate on people who aren't a "minority" and in this case, queer. I'm a gay guy with different views to most people in the queer community and I honestly would rather avoid these people who live with victim complexes and think they're right than sit down and be fake with them.

Thanks for everything everyone!