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whats ur take on this ???

So........ after a rough break up about two weeks ago .. i started seeing this guy from Canada .. he came to finish school for one year and then maybe go back to Canada .. we chatted online for about a month .. and when he came we had a lot of fun .. he slept at my place almost every night.NOW.. his ex-boyfriend who is still trying to get with him (he told me ) is here too .. but he said that he`s not interested in him.So been two weeks already since he got here .. we had a lot fun .. drinkin ,partying.. sex and what not!today he was supposed to go back to his hometown here to take care of some stuff..do today`s afternoon he was at the apt. and i had classes.. he calls me and asks whether i would be home soon (I have one door key) because he needs to go and meet with his sister somewhere .. so i said that its okay and that i`ll wait for him if he came late. 10 minutes later he calls and says that he didnt meet with her and that he`s at the apt. so i finish class and go back to the apt. i see him for about half an hour and then he took off.
about one hour later .. i`m using my laptop and i opened skype and it was his account .. now i wanted to log out immediately but the first thing i saw was a smiley with hearts and a phone number right above..so I read the conversation .. it basically said that his ex wanted to meet with him and he asked him about his phone number and how to get to his house and stuff. and in the end .. it said 'i cant .. my dad just got home"... at this point i was goin crazy .. i tried to calm myself down but i couldnt and i called him ! i told him about it and then he said that they are just friends and that he just wanted to meet somewhere public yadda yadda yadda. we talked a bit more later and i told him that i dont mind if he meets with his ex but at least i would hope that he wouldnt lie to me and we kinda made up . about 2 hours ago .. i remmebered the time in which the conv. took over and the time he told me that he wanted to meet his "sister" ..turns out that he was gonna meet with that guy . now i didnt say anything to him about it .. and i probably wont . i just dont know if i could trust him and i dont think he`s the kind of person that would stop his ex if he makes a move or whatever .he comes back here in two days .. and i have no idea what to do !
sorry for the long post. i`m just clueless when it comes to relationships. Thanks
 
shittt .. i just remembered something .. okay so i`m sure that he did meet with him ! 100 %!
 
It's always tricky with an ex. Couples do get back together. My guess is that they're having sex and the ex doesn't know a thing about you.
 
i dunno what to make of that!
anyone else ?!?!
 
I don't want to assume he's cheating with his ex but the only way to get answers is being straight forward with this situation. Let him know not to waste your time if he's playing games. I think him lying in the 1st place just makes it a bit suspicious, I mean if you wouldn't have found that conversation you wouldn't be aware that he's meeting that guy :/
 
Okay so i talked to him about it .. and he said that they are friends and he has one more ex boyfriend which is also a friend and that he wants to meet with just to see how he`s doing. now i dunno what to make of that .. its my decision . but this whole ex-boyfriend shit kinda creeps me out!
 
Are you guys officially in an exclusive committed relationship? I could be seeing someone else as in any new dating relationship, I can still date other people until an exclusive commitment is made to one person. If you two have not made it clear verbally, then he is still available to see other people.

If you two are indeed boyfriends to each other, then you need to talk to him on how his actions made you feel. Set boundaries.

Now based on how he lied to you about seeing his sister (when he's going to see his ex boyfriend) and lied to ex boyfriend about "my dad just got home" (when he is at your place)...he cannot be trusted. It seems to me, he is playing the field.
 
HunterM said:
Are you guys officially in an exclusive committed relationship? I could be seeing someone else as in any new dating relationship, I can still date other people until an exclusive commitment is made to one person. If you two have not made it clear verbally, then he is still available to see other people.

If you two are indeed boyfriends to each other, then you need to talk to him on how his actions made you feel. Set boundaries.

Now based on how he lied to you about seeing his sister (when he's going to see his ex boyfriend) and lied to ex boyfriend about "my dad just got home" (when he is at your place)...he cannot be trusted. It seems to me, he is playing the field.
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just to clear things out ..
No , we didn`t make an exclusive commitment but the guy has been sleeping at my place for 2 weeks .. it has to mean something.
Sorry for the mistake ; its not him who said "my dad is here" .. its the other guy(his ex).
 
The question here is whether this guy is being honest with you.

Since you've only been together a couple of weeks, it's a little premature to make rules and expectations retroactive.

With that said, if they're not fucking, there's no reason to lie. Lying about it just makes the whole thing seem suspicious.

All you can do at this time is make it clear that you see this relationship as something that has a future, that you're interested in moving forward but the only way that can happen is if there's honesty. If he's going to meet with someone- particularly an ex- he needs to be honest about it.
 
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