Wanting casual sex again, but all of the hookup apps suck

[IceColdLover]

I have been on a 4-month dry spell without any sexual contact, so I've been trying to find apps to hook up on. I tried Grindr for the 3rd time or so, but since I've left, they've had shitty reviews with pop-ups, spam accounts and so forth. The other issue I had was when I came back, a guy with no picture started talking to me and knew my name, even though I didn't have a pic of my face up yet and I couldn't tell who it was either, but he seemed to know about my sexcapades and claimed to be the twink I had over at my place 2 times. I was a bit taken back, but I asked him questions about who I am and stuff only the twink would know, and he only got a minute amount of those questions right, so I was skeptical and blocked him after awhile because he kept begging for nude pics and wanting a relationship, which even if he was the twink, I didn't want from him after he stole money from me and never came back when he said he would. It was a mess. The other guys I talked to on there were duds that never replied back and showed no interest (typical). I might go back to Grindr but I need a new approach.

I tried a few other apps like GayPark and some other odd app that had both sexes on it (which I didn't want nor care for), but I left them because one was giving me the runaround and didn't know how to operate it, and the other kicked me off and when I came back, I couldn't find the settings I was editing for my profile and everything was in Chinese, so I uninstalled both off my phone and said "fuck it!".

I have thought about Adam4Adam again, but it's SOOOOO boring and a bunch of guys I talked to on there are lame, don't come back for more or just don't follow through all together when they claim they want to hang out or just fuck.

I can't even get guys to fuck me anymore. Makes me feel a bit useless. I just want a little bit of sex to satisfy me, but I'm not going to fuck around as much as I did before, that was too much to handle and too hard to go behind people's backs to sneak out and get some cock. I just want to taste some cock and ass again and get butt fucked real good, I kind of miss it but don't totally dwell on having it happen.

What can I do? Some of these apps I read about only are aimed at certain groups of guys and a guy like me isn't very desirable in the world of gay sex apps and hookups. Have I lost my "magic"?

 

[Seasoned]

Not sure why things aren't working for you as they once were. Perhaps your attitude has changed or your standards or you're using more caution. Apps are like bars. Sometimes it's easy to hook up, other times, not so much.

 

[IceColdLover]

Not sure why things aren't working for you as they once were. Perhaps your attitude has changed or your standards or you're using more caution. Apps are like bars. Sometimes it's easy to hook up, other times, not so much.

I think it's mostly that. I am still holding to my preferences, but I am being more cautious and not being as "promiscuous" as I was before, it was too much to handle and hide the last time. I also have an issue with people asking for nudes. I don't share those nor like to. I also hate taking selfies because of my weight and my face. Just hate those selfie-obsessed loons that only want you if you're sexy.

 

[palemale]

I have been on a 4-month dry spell without any sexual contact, so I've been trying to find apps to hook up on. I tried Grindr for the 3rd time or so, but since I've left, they've had shitty reviews with pop-ups, spam accounts and so forth. The other issue I had was when I came back, a guy with no picture started talking to me and knew my name, even though I didn't have a pic of my face up yet and I couldn't tell who it was either, but he seemed to know about my sexcapades and claimed to be the twink I had over at my place 2 times. I was a bit taken back, but I asked him questions about who I am and stuff only the twink would know, and he only got a minute amount of those questions right, so I was skeptical and blocked him after awhile because he kept begging for nude pics and wanting a relationship, which even if he was the twink, I didn't want from him after he stole money from me and never came back when he said he would. It was a mess. The other guys I talked to on there were duds that never replied back and showed no interest (typical). I might go back to Grindr but I need a new approach.

I tried a few other apps like GayPark and some other odd app that had both sexes on it (which I didn't want nor care for), but I left them because one was giving me the runaround and didn't know how to operate it, and the other kicked me off and when I came back, I couldn't find the settings I was editing for my profile and everything was in Chinese, so I uninstalled both off my phone and said "fuck it!".

I have thought about Adam4Adam again, but it's SOOOOO boring and a bunch of guys I talked to on there are lame, don't come back for more or just don't follow through all together when they claim they want to hang out or just fuck.

I can't even get guys to fuck me anymore. Makes me feel a bit useless. I just want a little bit of sex to satisfy me, but I'm not going to fuck around as much as I did before, that was too much to handle and too hard to go behind people's backs to sneak out and get some cock. I just want to taste some cock and ass again and get butt fucked real good, I kind of miss it but don't totally dwell on having it happen.

What can I do? Some of these apps I read about only are aimed at certain groups of guys and a guy like me isn't very desirable in the world of gay sex apps and hookups. Have I lost my "magic"?

I've met some pretty nice guys on Adam4Adam, including some repeat guys. What city are you looking in?

 

[IceColdLover]

I've met some pretty nice guys on Adam4Adam, including some repeat guys. What city are you looking in?

In the northwest side of Indiana, the boring side where every guy doesn't want to hang out or do anything.

 

[mbamike]

Think of yourself as a commodity. If you want guys to hookup with you, you have to advertise your commodity in the best situation. In marketing you have frequency and range of your advertisement. Use multiple sites simultaneously and respond quickly to inquires. Follow up with them if you can't connect at that time. Maybe later will work better.
You'll get some cock soon afterwards I'm sure.

 

[IceColdLover]

Think of yourself as a commodity. If you want guys to hookup with you, you have to advertise your commodity in the best situation. In marketing you have frequency and range of your advertisement. Use multiple sites simultaneously and respond quickly to inquires. Follow up with them if you can't connect at that time. Maybe later will work better.
You'll get some cock soon afterwards I'm sure.

If I wanted to do that, I'd slip on a pair of stilettos and go walk the streets. Grindr is the only one I'm using now, no use in having a headache juggling several apps, and most of them suck (no pun intended).

 

[USEDCAR]

I know where i live all the same local guys are on all the hook up apps looking for hook ups and then they are on the relationship websites/apps looking for a relationship. We all go through dry spells for a while it sucks but it happens. What does your picture look like on those apps? I just find starting a basic conversation on dating apps the hardest thing in the world. It's sad but true i mess with more guys on Facebook then any other hook up app.

 

[IceColdLover]

I think I might have secured a few hookups, but we'll see.

 

[palemale]

In the northwest side of Indiana, the boring side where every guy doesn't want to hang out or do anything.

But that's close to Chicago. Aren't there lots of hot guys there to meet up with?

 

[IceColdLover]

Hooked up with a guy on Thursday. He was a dud and didn't even allow me to suck him more so he could cum. Had another tonight and I sucked and rimmed him until he came.

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But that's close to Chicago. Aren't there lots of hot guys there to meet up with?

Sometimes.