We broke up last night. Now I'm not in a good place.

[torontoguy90]

Hi.
I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months last night. I know it isn't a long time, but I'm only 19.
He said he didn't want to deal with me anymore, he said he was sick of having to listen to me talk about what was bothering me. He was really distant the last few weeks and whenever I tried to communicate how I was feeling it would turn into an argument.

It just really sucks. I thought I would spend the rest of my life with him.

I guess my borderline personality disorder has something to do with it, but I feel like my heart has been ripped out.

I really need someone to talk to.

 

[torontoguy90]

I know I sound dramatic and I know I'm only 19 so I have tons of life ahead of me, but it just really hurts. I don't have many close friends for support, I just need someone to reassure me its going to be okay.

 

[palbert]

I agree that this is heathier in the long run - but thaat can seem a long time. Work with your therapist for another anchor - you could, and have done worst than your studies.

 

[torontoguy90]

I don't have my therapist anymore. he was $160 a session and I dont have a job.

 

[racer2438]

Then you can go to your ocal county clinic's and they can help, in many ways, you just have to go through all there hoops/loops but at least you are seen by someone. And you may qualify for other help as well....

But seems like a good time to gather your self up, put one foot in front of other and go forward. You need to get your self healthy to be able to tackle life. You need to always focus on number one 1st....you. wish you luck..

 

[Seasoned]

I'm sorry you are hurting. Breakups are difficult. Your particular situation is complicated by your BPD. If you can't find a sliding scale fee clinic do get to the self-help section of your local bookstore and see what's available.

Your motivation now is to grieve the loss of your relationship in a healthy way. I hope you get to the place where you won't "need" a partner. Relationships are much better when both people function independently.

Feel free to PM me or anyone else here with whom you're comfortable. You're right. It's not a good time to be alone.

 

[palbert]

Then you can go to your ocal county clinic's and they can help, in many ways, you just have to go through all there hoops/loops but at least you are seen by someone. And you may qualify for other help as well....

But seems like a good time to gather your self up, put one foot in front of other and go forward. You need to get your self healthy to be able to tackle life. You need to always focus on number one 1st....you. wish you luck..

Right now, the best advice. You're in CN so isn't all of this stuff provided. Where are your parents - are they of no help?

 

[Benvolio]

19 is far, far too young to be getting into a permanent relationship. You need to explore and experiment. Your soul mate is out there somewhere hoping to meet his soul mate as well. You probably are mostly feeling rejection and it hurts, but he has probably decided to explore some more. View this as an opportunity. Often in your life you will find this to encouraging: today is the first day of the rest of your life.

 

[rareboy]

Right now, the best advice. You're in CN so isn't all of this stuff provided. Where are your parents - are they of no help?

You should contact CAMH and ask them if they can connect you with a therapist.

 

[torontoguy90]

Thank you for the help, but they are pretty far from me. I live an hour away from Toronto. (Didn't want to actually put where I was from)

 

[palbert]

Contact them anyway. they may have some resource near you.

 

[TX-Beau]

Is this the guy you wanted to report to the police for smoking pot?

Yeah, considering all your threads together - this is the best thing for both of you.

You weren't secure, he wanted out. Yes at 19 it seems like the end of the world, but you'll feel the same for the next one, and the one after that, and after that.........