Something I don't get. Some guys here write about a guy they are dating and they say things like "we became boyfriends last night" or "we made it official that we are seeing each other." What is that about? Do guys decide they are boyfriends? That's a new one for me. I figure if I go out with a guy more than a few times then we are dating.
Well, here I go. None of my friends believe me when I say this, so I do not know why I would expect posters on JUB to believe me.
I was having drinks with my landlord in a gay bar. Larry walked in the door, and had a beer. We were cruising. My landlord went to the bathroom, and Larry came up and asked me for a late date. He barely introduced himself. We danced, and we fucked, and I asked him out again.
I had known when I first met him that I could spend my life with him. Our needs meshed,
we are both people who prefer to be left alone, but want to roll over at night and have someone there we can trust. We have almost nothing in common, and have separate lives and friends outside our home. We are going on five years.
What we do have in common is this. We like working on our house. We think cruising is a waste of time, and so are bars. We have sex 3-4 times a week and when we are done we are out of bed and on to other things. The relationship is open, but neither of us has
gone out,
though we have fallen into a few situations that were fun one time.
Bottom line; the hell with the boyfriend stuff. If you are looking for a life partner be sure to say so, (you might want to wait until after sex, you might as well get something for your time if your efforts fail). This is not rocket science learn what your
NEEDS are on a daily basis, and look for someone who is a match. The first two years we had boy's night out every Friday. We finally tired of that. Push for the long pull. I think we all know that after age 35 the party is pretty much over, grab for all the gusto you can get while making a few plans for the future. Only a self centered idiot ends up alone after age 35.
