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.......and most of my family rejected me. i dont know what to do, i dont have any place to go, i dont have a job, or any money.
 
So sorry Lucein.... not that you're out, but that people reacted poorly. Maybe with some time they'll come around a little bit. Take a deep breath... bad reactions always will seem overwhelming at first... but things will slowly start to fall into place.
 
How long has it been? How did they reject you? Tell us more.

I'm sorry this happened, and that you're feeling so dejected. I hope they come around (any chance of that?)

In the meantime, look toward the future. Look out for #1 first and take care of yourself. Keep in touch with us and let us know how you're doing.

(*8*)
 
Lucein--
So sorry that coming out has been so hard for you. Maybe your family members just had a knee-jerk reaction,and they will come around in time. Do you have any friends that you can stay with for awhile? I wish you all the best.(*8*)
 
Sorry to hear of your situation. :(

Tell us more about your situation and we might be able to come up with some 'practical' advice.

In the meantime, I hope you've got somewhere to stay for a while.

Just stay strong, and things will improve.
 
When you find somewhere to stay, let us know and we'll direct you to places that can help. Look for a friend to stay with or look for a local shelter that can help you out and put you up for a while. I'm so sorry about how your family reacted. Just keep holding on! ::hug::
 
Well, my grandmother her son (my uncle) is gay, so she took it very well, so i came out to her 2nd, then next my aunt. See all my close family lives in the same house but it is divided into apartments. But i told my mother, she turned her back to me and would not talk to me, so i left to give her some space to collect her thoughts. I told my grandmother and she was like 20 questions: r u sure? u know its a tough life? how do u know? And i answered them, and I was like "u r dispointed aren't u", and she was like "Well i didnt want any of my grandchildren to be gay, but i would never kick u out and everything. but lets back track to my mother, before i came out, i started talking to her about random things, and then i started to talk about us four kids (yes they still call me a kid, and im almost 20 years old, the other 3 kids is my brother, and my two cousins), i was like how would react if one of us 4 kids where gay? She answered with a joke, and im like no im being serious, and she was like i would be very disapointed. That didnt make it any easier, so i said im gay, and after i said that everthing just becomes a blurr, all i heard was disown, so im very scaried. so back to my grandmother, well she took it very good, better then i thought she would take it, and she talked to my mother and my mother let me say in my room for now. But i have not gotten any sleep and i have packed some clothes just incase, and im just aspecting the worst when my mother gets up.... right now im fully dress and ready to run out the front door.
 
Dude... when the going gets tough, the tough don't cut and run.

Your grandmother is on your side... she can probably protect you from the worst case scenario... she's an asset... keep her close.
 
i would agree with soilwork... I know that its hard at first... though I had an escape route ready... I would recomend talking to your mother.... i would strongly recomend going to a PFLAG meeting in your area (if you can find one not far from home) they would be happy to help... if your mother will not talk to you then i would recomend talking to your grandmother and seeing if she wouldn't mind helping some... other then that i am proud that you came out and would be happy to talk if you need someone :)
 
Yes, your grandmother is your ace in the hole. Count on her to be your advocate and advisor, at least in the short term. Given this whole-family-under-one-roof situation you've got, your mother is probably more under her mother's influence that you know, and than she normally might be.

Good luck to you. Keep us informed on how you're doing. (*8*)
 
Well i fell asleep 7:00 am, and i woke up to banging on my door around 12:30. It was my mother, and i was like ooo shit her it comes, but then she is like im very pround of u for coming out to me, and im disapointed in u, not because u r gay, but because i wanted grandchildren from u. I was in shock. And i told her that i wanted children and that i am willing to do anything to grant that wish. And then the chat went on for about another 1o mins. and then we started joking around. I walked down stairsand it was like nothing happened everyone was like we dont care, but they all gave me the same warning, im not to have the life style of my uncle. in and earlier post i told everyone he was gay and he kind of set the model for gay people in my family, he is one of those crazy drinking drug taking sex manics. i told everyone that i dont like that crap, and they still think its a phase thou.
 
well i dont think i could have made it through without jub and everyone that replied to my thread, i just want to say thank you.
 
Having your entire family under one roof and deciding to come out to them was a very brave thing to do. I'm happy for you that they came around. (*8*)
 
awww..... I love happy endings. Glad they came around once the initial shock wore off. Good for you!
 
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