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Well, I've told someone at least!

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Well, I've done it, i've come out to my first person! And i just have to say it feels great! its such a relief eventhough a majority of people still dont know :confused:. Well i told my best friend (well best girlfriend) because i'm really not sure how my best friend (male) will take it!

When I first told her she thought i was joking and I thought i was going to throw up waiting for a reaction! I was like "COME ON WOMAN SAY SOMETHING!!!" :grrr: But then I finally got it through to her that I wasn't joking! and it honestly feels like a massive weight has gone from my sholders! lol

Anyway 1 down about 15 more to go lol, then on to the dreaded parents! Yeah i'm probably gonna wait a long time before I go onto them lol

Cya!
 
CONGRATULATIONS!!! :D

Come out at your own pace, and I wish you the best of luck with the next 15!
 
Well done fella. :=D: Keep chipping away at that mountain ..|
 
Thanks so much guys! I agree with the whole party thing! lol

You guys actually helped me to do it because I read some of the threads in here, so thanks! wooo! lol
 
The first one's actually the toughest, even if the person is understanding. It gets easier from here on out. Congratulations. ..|

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
The first one's actually the toughest, even if the person is understanding. It gets easier from here on out. Congratulations. ..|

Lex
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Not always, the first person I told betrayed my trust and told my other friends at the time, I dont really talk to them now and recently had to come out to a new group of friends... which I did when I was drunk on my birthday.

Then I had to tell my best friend recently which was hard, I remember getting a lecture about how if I thought it would change her opinion of me then I couldn't have thought her a good friend.

For me most of my friends know, most of the people I work with know, and if they dont then their ignorant or not a good friend. family doesn't know and I have no plans to tell them, funny though, if I was gay I would let them know, but I think being bisexual would be harder for them to understand.
 
Congrats. You still have a long way to go. Most will be easier than the first but maybe not all. Proceed at a pace that is comfortable for you and eventually you will become better at dealing with the whole situation. I remeber what a great feeling of relief I had when I finally admitted to myself that I am gay and I had a great feeling of relief after my parents found out even though I didn't actually come out to them (my mother found out by accident). It's been several years and we never discuss it but it is still a relief not being afraid that they are going to find out.
 
I just recently came out to my mother two weeks ago. Now my whole family knows. I'm doing it backwards, because now I move on to my friends, lol. I've already told one girl I work with, and she didn't mind at all. Also told one of my male friends at work, and h e also didn't care. I've been at this job with pretty much the same people for 3 years, so we're like a family. I really don't think anyone will mind. But congratulations to you, and like they say it gets much easier. The more you tell, the better you feel. I'm only halfway there and already I can't stop smiling, lol. Good luck to you, and hopefully your friends are actually friends and accept it. If not, fuck em
 
2 down! :) lol

This one wasnt so easy! It was by best mate (male) and i told him and he kinda stood there and then he just said "Oh look the activa adverts on the tele!" and i thought Ok... and then he said "Oh look essencial barbara Strisand is on offer at tescos £9.97, quick i've got to rush and buy it!" (I have my suspicions about him 2 lol)

But then the conversation just ran on and he just said "I'm fine with it" in the end and i was like "GOD FINALLY! YOU KNOW HOW TO MAKE A PERSON WORRY" lol.

Then i explained why i hadnt told him first. Looking back I got all melodramatic (which isnt me at all :s lol) And said "The only reason I didnt tell you first is because I didn't know how you would react and I didnt wanna lose you as a mate." and he just turned round "You wouldn't lose me! Unless I got lost, but lets face it that happens nearly everyday"

And then the conversation descended into a joke, so its all good. And as my 1st friend said: "Laughter is the natural medicine for the heart" so it seems to be going well!
 
Congratulations! I think it's always so much better on the other side, no matter how hard it might be in the process. I'm always impressed that it doesn't *seem* that much easier for other people to go through now than it did for me 17 years ago.

People are ugly, and people are beautiful. You just have to be true to yourself, and pick and choose!

goodspeed

~tygre
 
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