What do I do?

[lost00]

Hi

I met a guy on Facebook a few months ago. We talked every day. We seemed so right.

But now, he hasn't spoken to me. Other people who are my friends also added him - they haven't heard from him.

I honestly don't know if he's busy, or avoiding me and has set up a new Facebook page. I want to contact him, but I don't want to scare him off by seeming all clingy...
For all I know, I already have and that's why he's ignoring me...

He's told me he's got scared about meeting people online before, and just stopped all contact with them. I'm worried that he's doing the same with me.

What should I do? I don't want to scare him off by contacting him again (assuming I haven't already). We got on so well together - I think I love him. He has a busy job, so it might just be that... I certainly hope so...

I don't what to do - contact him, maybe seem all needy, or just sweat it oout and wait (but maybe let him slip by).

This is driving me nuts! HELP!

Phil

 

[RobUK2]

Dude, you hardly know him.

YOU CAN'T BE IN LOVE - YOU'VE NEVER EVEN MET!

Just chill - you might be worrying about nothing, and, if not, plenty more fish in the sea that is the internet...

Rob

 

[Willie Boy]

Hi

I met a guy on Facebook a few months ago. We talked every day. We seemed so right.

But now, he hasn't spoken to me. Other people who are my friends also added him - they haven't heard from him.

I honestly don't know if he's busy, or avoiding me and has set up a new Facebook page. I want to contact him, but I don't want to scare him off by seeming all clingy

Too late...

For all I know, I already have and that's why he's ignoring me...

Most likely the case.

He's told me he's got scared about meeting people online before, and just stopped all contact with them. I'm worried that he's doing the same with me.

Another possibility

What should I do? I don't want to scare him off by contacting him again (assuming I haven't already). We got on so well together - I think I love him. He has a busy job, so it might just be that... I certainly hope so...

I don't what to do - contact him, maybe seem all needy, or just sweat it oout and wait (but maybe let him slip by).

This is driving me nuts! HELP!

Phil

Patience is a virtue, find some. If he doesn't contact you, move on and learn a valuable lesson from this: Don't be so clingy in the future, it is a major turn off. Stand up and be a man, and not this whiny bitch that your post makes you sound like.

Also, find some hobbies to involve yourself in so you don't always need to have someone to cling to.


By the way, you never mentioned how long its been since you've talked to him.

 

[lost00]

3 weeks - feels like forever...

 

[RobUK2]

That doesn't sound v. long - if he works weekends, he might have been busy (but maybe I'm being naïve)

 

[Willie Boy]

You've been chatting for a few months, but haven't heard from him in 3 weeks. What kind of work does he do? He may be on a business trip.

How many messages have you sent him in the 3 weeks?

 

[lost00]

Only messaged once or twice (been v. restrained) - but he never answers... -()

 

[Willie Boy]

Only messaged once or twice (been v. restrained) - but he never answers... -()

Only once or twice, sounds like it was at least a few. Otherwise you would be able to say "I only sent him one message" or "I only sent two". The once or twice thing means you sent a bit more than you can quickly count accurately.

Most likely your clinginess has scared this guy off. Just move on and learn not to be so clingy and needy.

 

[rareboy]

He's just not that into you.


Just give it up as experience.

Move on.

Get out and meet real guys.