What Happens if you get kicked out?

[G-Lexington]

Your main resource should be working on getting yourself into a financial position where you can get out of that house. And then, getting out of that house.

Lex

 

[treanir]

^ That is a very good long-term plan. There is a chance your parents will come round. But in case they don't and do kick you out, it's important to become financially independent and move out ASAP.

In the meantime: is there anyone you can fall back on? A friend, relative or otherwise who would take you in for a while if need be? Also, I don't know where you live, but there may be organisations near you that take people in. The first thing that springs to my mind is the Salvation Army, but there are probably other places you could go, perhaps even ones that are geared more towards young people. Have a look around, see where you can go if worst comes to worst.

I doubt they'll kick you out. If they really wanted to do that, they probably would have done so already. But there is no harm in preparing for a worst-case scenario.

I hope things work out for you. Keep us posted!

 

[bankside]

my parents found out i was having "evil homosexual tendencies" and that "someone/something told me to do all the evil things that's against god" (i hope christianity dies a quick painful death) and almost got kicked out of the house. i haven't talked to my parents in two days even though i live with them, i'm getting kind of depressed and a little scared i'll get kicked out.

is there any resources out there for specifics like this, for a 20 year old who has no money being stuck at home unfortunately.

Fake it. I'm sorry your parents are failing - but this is no time to undermine your future because of their twisted anti-gay hate. Keep your head down, and if they see you at all it should be pretending to read a bible.

Plan A. They get over themselves and start treating you as their son again.

Plan B. Fake it. Read bibles and talk about forgiveness and "letting Jesus into your heart" or something. You would probably know better than anyone what they will want to hear. That will hopefully buy you some time. Get educated, get money & a job, and get out.

Plan C. If they've already decided, and you get kicked out by your own family...count on friends, other family, government services, what ever you have to - this is no time to be picky. People do get kicked out - I had a friend who I moved out and we had him at our house for a few weeks till he figured out what to do next. It does work out though and you can overcome it, if you just keep trying.

 

[kevin23]

my parents found out i was having "evil homosexual tendencies" and that "someone/something told me to do all the evil things that's against god" (i hope christianity dies a quick painful death) and almost got kicked out of the house. i haven't talked to my parents in two days even though i live with them, i'm getting kind of depressed and a little scared i'll get kicked out.
is there any resources out there for specifics like this, for a 20 year old who has no money being stuck at home unfortunately.

Your parents provide you with food, shelter, clothing and probably an allowance, a car and college tution. Mom cooks your food , washes your cloths, cleans your room. Dad pays all the bills. (Do you have any idea what it cost to operate a household for just one month?) They are only doing what they genuinely think is best for you. They can not imagine anyone not being hertosexual, especially their kid. And you blame it on Christianity. Do you think they would be more understanding if they were not Christians? The Bible teaches "to love the sinner but hate the sin" and it also says that " no one is without sin, no not one".

Your parents are totally supporting you, so play by their rules as long as you are in their house. If you want understanding, then you have to be understanding. You can't change long held beliefs with an "in your face" attitude. You must understand that they do not understand and it will likely be a slow process to come to terms with each other. But don't hate the people who support and feed you, that is a bit ungrateful.

 

[KaraBulut]

The Bible teaches "to love the sinner but hate the sin" and it also says that " no one is without sin, no not one".

While I agree with your message that OP needs to try to come to a truce with his parents that would allow him to finish school, I have to point out that you're defense of them is based upon the same misinformation as their condemnation of "sin".

The Bible says nothing about homosexuality in the way that it is known in the modern world. And certainly, there is no quote from Christ that mentions it.

And the Bible does not say "Love the sinner, hate the sin". It was Mahatma Gandhi who said that a little less than 100 years ago.

Not to take the thread off topic- there are several good discussions about the Bible and homosexuality over in the Religious and Spirituality forum.

 

[AbnormalDann]

And the Bible does not say "Love the sinner, hate the sin". It was Mahatma Gandhi who said that a little less than 100 years ago.

Not to take the thread off topic- there are several good discussions about the Bible and homosexuality over in the Religious and Spirituality forum.

No it doesn't, but it does say not to hate the sinner, but the sin itself, as God does not hate sinners but only the sins they commit. (Not the exact words, I haven't read the Bible in years.)

As everyone has said, keep us posted. I don't know what you're going through but I am pulling for you as I had a friend live with me who was kicked out.

 

[spencer]

My religious parents did not prefer my sexual preference but accepted me.

It may take awhile.

Depending on what kind of relationship you previously had with them, can you talk to them at all about it further?