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So late last year I had my first "boyfriend". He was really looking for someone to spend time with and do stuff with while his boyfriend was out of state at school. When his boyfriend was coming back for holidays he said we needed to stop seeing each other, and then decided to tell me about his boyfriend.

Well just now he decided to txt me and see how I was doing. Said he wished I could come hang out (I moved away from the area) What is that about, and where did it come from?:confused:](*,)

Then of course I have answered him and been txting him. He asked when I was going to be coing back to town next. I dont know what I am doing here, makes no sense to me.
 
You deserve much better. This guy is obviously using you, and being a creep to his BF, playing you both.

Is someone like that, that you can't trust really what you want for yourself?
 
This is less about him than it is about you. Why would you even give him one second of your brain space after he showed his true colors?
 
All good questions, and truthfully no I dont want someone like him, for really anything. We have some things in common we would do together, but for the most part we were quite different and he didn't understand me as a person most of the time. From the conversation last night the reason he even txt me was because he was stressing out about finals. I know I should not have even answered him last night, I dont even know why I still had his number in my phone.
 
Does the guy realize what a jerk he was in leading you on that way? Did he ever apologize...sincerely? Can you forgive and get past it? I don't think it'd be wise to ever pursue any kind of bf type relationship with him again...and you know that. But, if you are over him and want to talk/text as a friend...do it. I'm still friendly with guys I've had past relationships with...none have lied about a bf tho, so it's really up to you as to what you can handle. Just protect yourself...keep your eyes open and your heart out of it. If you can't, delete the contact.
 
^ no I really dont think he does understand, because he never has apologized or even mentioned anything further about it since the night he told me about his boyfriend. All he said then was my boyfriend is coming back and I really want my relationship to last with him and so we need to stop seeing each other. I then didnt hear from him until, I am guessing his boyrfriend went back to school, he asked if I wanted to grab a drink several weeks later.
I honestly am over him so there is defintely no way I would pursue a bf type relationship. I may be-able to be friends with him if he were to apologize, but I also know that won't happen.
 
Can you be JUST friends, and not let a night out drinking end up back in bed, knowingly cheating, and that he's in a relationship??
 
^ yeah I could if I were to go out for a drink with him. I didn't go. I told him I didnt want to have a drink with him. He hadnt talked to me since asking me to a drink, until last night. (So close to five months now) Thats why its was so wierd for him to txt me last night.
 
ok. I'm thinking it's best to not try and rekindle any kind of friendship with him. He doesn't even realize he used you and hurt you. The good thing is is that you don't live near him any longer, so it should be easy to avoid him. I'll bet he doesn't contact you again tho, now that he knows you're not nearby...not available for a quick fuck whenever he's horny (that's all he probably wanted.)
 
Sadly I think you are right about all he ever did want was a quick fuck, which makes me feel that much worse about it all. It also makes me feel bad feeling like I was the other guy and that his boyfriend, (I guess they are still together) doesnt even know. To kind of address what borg asked, had I even known he was in a relationship I never would have slept with him, if anything it would have strictly been a friendship. I would NEVER sleep with someone in a relationshig.
 
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