What should I do?

[Brijan]

If you aren't ready to come out, then don't come out.

If you value your friendship with this guy more than the potential a) loss of a friend or, b) relationship you may develop, then say nothing to him about liking him.
For now.

Having said that, you may be kicking yourself in a few years if you let this "oppouruntiy" pass you by. Maybe, as opposed to coming out to him or trying to find out if he is gay, just talk to him about homosexality. Find out what his thoughts are and share some of yours. You'll be better informed. If nothing else, you'll just be two friends talking.

Don't try to take all the steps at one.
Just go one step at a time. And feel free to rest between steps.

 

[Rand]

I think I tend to lean toward Brijan's line of reasoning. When you are comfortable in sharing your real self to others, do so. Do not be surprised, however, if they already know, or claim they did.

Bring up the Presidential candidates - say something like you are leaning towards Giuliano in the republican side because he treats all people equally - you know, he is not hostile towards gays; on the democratic side, they all seem to be pretty equality based.

That might start the conversation and give enough hints that dialogue can follow.

I would value his friendship highly and if anything else happens, it is a nice bonus. But a good friend is a great thing to have.

 

[Kyanimal]

Brijan's advice is very Wise! Do not assume because of "X", then "Y". People are far more complicated than "Black and White" labels/reactions.

Be receptive. Be considerate. And, you can even be proactive (gently, at first). But, in order for Him to open up to You, You must also be willing to open up to Him!

I'm not sure where I heard it, or which culture it may be from, but from what you've told us, so far, I would say, "Slowly, SLOWLY, catchey Monkey!"

Please keep us posted ...

And ... of course ...

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[G-Lexington]

Moi aussi, Quanchi. Except for my tendency to speak French once in awhile.

Not sure how old you are, Spidey, but if you're still young (and I'm guessing you are) - if you can still see twenty from where you are - then the easiest thing to do is ask if you can talk to him about something. Get him alone, but in the open - coffee shop, restaurant. And say, "I've been questioning my sexuality recently. I'm pretty sure I'm gay. I don't want to freak you out or anything, but I thought you should know, since you're my friend." Then let the conversation go where it will.

Lex

 

[Riverrick]

How about just telling him that you are questioning your orientation and ask him if he knows any gay guys you could talk to. Or just come out and tell him as O2 suggested.

It sounds like a pretty safe bet from what you've told us. Good Luck!

 

[relaxin13]

cooooooooooooooooooooool


good luck!

 

[vietboi]

that really is cool, hope all goes well.

 

[G-Lexington]

Welcome to the other side. Hope it goes well.

Lex

 

[Kyanimal]

Excellent! We're ALL "pullin'" for ya!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[G-Lexington]

Sounds like you're in the early-buzz phase! Make sure you don't turn a blind eye to any problems that arise. Because they will. But if you take care of them as they arise, you should be cool. Good luck, you two.

Lex

 

[mabby7]

Thanks everyone for ur support. I means a lot considering u r the only ones I've told. Since Me and my boyfriend have gone out before but not as a gay couple we have decided we have been together for about a month and a half. I am just so happy I found the perfect guy!! Hope this happens to all of you to and u find the person u r looking for.

So not fair. I wish I had someone. I guess I will have to wait. Hopefully things will work out fine between you two.

 

[confusedboy23]

I hate to be the one to point this out, but if you are going to get involved with someone, you are going to have to come out to them. I mean, really now.

You can do it, I promise ;-)

I'm with --O2-- completely. If there's anyone at all that you would want to come out to, it would be with that person whom you wish to be with. Don't get me wrong, I ain't perfect, and I still am NOT out to anyone. But I'm so glad that I was out to him....

I've done it once when I thought I'd never ever do it. It was hard enough accepting myself, let alone admitting it to someone. However, that was in my opinion, the best thing I have ever done. I've admitted myself to him and that had laid the foundation for more honesty and better communication.

 

[confusedboy23]

Thanks everyone for ur support. I means a lot considering u r the only ones I've told. Since Me and my boyfriend have gone out before but not as a gay couple we have decided we have been together for about a month and a half. I am just so happy I found the perfect guy!! Hope this happens to all of you to and u find the person u r looking for.

Oooops! I should have read the entire thread before posting the previous post!

Anyway I'm so glad you did it, and it worked out. Kudos to you, and all the best with your new relationship.

You're really making me jealous, LOL.