What should I do?

[propoolplayer99]

I am interested in trying something new and having sex with a guy.

sounds a lot like gay to me. give it a go and you'll be hooked

Try a local gay bar, drunks put out. If you don't have one, you can try craigslist, but be careful.

 

[MainEntry]

You could try an adult bookstore that has booths or a porno theater. That's about as anonymous as you can get and probably safe, too. If you use Craigslist, make sure to meet in a public place. And play safe.

If you like it but you still want a "straight" life, be honest to your girlfriend/wife and tell her you like to have sex with a guy every now and then.

 

[PhoenixRandall]

You're gay! The more you argue and fight it, the more miserable you will get until you come out!

 

[youngnihilist]

Maybe you're really gay and in denial, or maybe you're pretty much straight but just curious (After years of saying it's bullshit , it's just closeted gays, I've come to believe from meeting many that there are straight guys who are curious and only curious). I wouldn't recommend bathhouses or arcades or gloryholes at all, they're unsafe and the kinds of guys go there are bottom of the barrel usually. Craigslist isn't a great option but often utilized by closeted types.

 

[Ninjitsu]

You're gay! The more you argue and fight it, the more miserable you will get until you come out!

Come now. He doesn't actually know that until he tries it. I mean, what's the point of being curious then?

 

[cityboi]

Many gay men do not want to be in relationships with other men. They just want sex with men and men only. It can be a different man every time. They want to go home alone and live in peace.

 

[phillypornlover]

I have never been with a guy before. I know I am not gay because I could never see myself being in a relationship with another guy. But I am interested in trying something new and having sex with a guy. I just don't want anyone I know to find out for reasons that you probably all can understand. How do I go about this?

Just wanna say, you may in fact not be a homosexual, but just because you can't imagine yourself in a relationship with another man, doesn't exactly destroy the possibility. I didn't used to see myself in a relationship with another man either. I've never been in a serious long-term relationship with another guy, but I see it as a definite possibility now. And yeah, some gay guys don't want relationships just like some straight guys don't either.

How you go about it? Well, Craigslist is a gamble of course. Lots of weirdos, liars, bullshitters and so on. You'd usually have to cut through a lot of bullshit to get something real on there.

You might wanna set up a profile on Manhunt.net, or adam4adam.com, you can look through profiles and chat someone up, and keep any pics you want to put up private. Then if you feel comfortable with someone, you can unlock the pics just for them. Sounds like you need to be discreet, so that's what I'd suggest. Seems like a plausible step for someone looking to experiment for their first time. And whatever you decide, be safe and use your best judgment.

 

[Seasoned]

Come now. He doesn't actually know that until he tries it. I mean, what's the point of being curious then?

I don't get it! Why do people think that a person has to have gay sex in order to be labeled gay. having sex may help them decide, but if a staight person is considered straight whether or not they have had sex shouldn't the same principle appy to a gay person? Any if a gay person can have straight sex and still be gay, can't a straight person have gay sex and still be straight?

 

[mike_n_herrin]

you don't need to be labeled anything despite some of the generalizations in this thread. just because a straight person thinks about sex with the same sex doesn't mean they are gay. nor visa versa if someone who is gay thinks about straight sex means they are straight.

you never know about a hook up. if they are a stranger to you it doesn't meant they are a stranger to every one you know. you take a chance. you can try places like gay.com, or adultfriend finder, or squirt, etc there are lots of hook up places, but be aware of the risks of sex with someone you don't know.

 

[Storybook_Man]

just because you dont have relationships with men doesnt mean you aren't gay. Just means you dont have relationships.