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My friend told me last night that I'm the reason he hasn't gotten into a relationship with anyone. I forget how exactly he explained it, but he basically said he didn't want to hurt me.

He's been messing around with this girl and she's trying to push him into a committed relationship. Apparently he also told her that nothing serious would happen between them if I didn't like her.

What the hell am I supposed to say to that? To be honest, I don't like the bitch. But it's not like I'm asking him to stop seeing her or anything. He knows I have feelings for him, so I don't know how he expects me to enjoy seeing him with someone else. Should I pretend to like her anyway, though?
 
NO both for your own sake and your friends you can explain the situation
but if it was me i would be saying dont bring my name into this then try and use it as an excuse if there is a train wreck . Have one of these (*8*)
 
No, you should not pretend to like her. Tell him that you can be civil with her, but you don't have to like her. Just like at work, I can do my job well and work with my team. That does not mean that I have to like everyone I work with. It is better to be yourself among close friends.

He cannot commit in a relationship with someone else is his own issue. It is his choice. Unless you keep stalking him and sabotaging his dates, it is not your problem.

Don't let his own issues become your issues. Yes, you have feelings for him. Unless he returns the same for you, you should move on.
 
Now, that is a new one. I guess one response would be, "are you totally out of your mind? I don't recall having ownership papers giving me rights over what you do and who you see. And is she nuts to have even have listened to this?"
 
That is pretty messed up. I only see a few possibilities. Either he has feelings for you too but just can't admit it. Or he is using you as an excuse for not being able to deal with commitment issues. I do not think you should pretend to like the girl if you genuinely do not like her. But I would tell him to man up and not to use you as an excuse. Have you been seeing anyone recently? How does he react to that?
 
x-cess said:
he should stop using you as a lame excuse to not commit and you shuld keep your nose out of his buisness (or if its already out, not stick it in).
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I don't actively put my nose in his business. He comes to me to vent about things, so I automatically know more about her and the situation than normal. Plus, we live together, so it's not really easy to conceal things unless you're trying hard. Haha.



anchihiro said:
Does he have sexual feelings for you too?
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I doubt it. I used to think so because he has a tendency to touch me in overly sexual ways. But I've made myself available (so to speak) and he hasn't pushed it forward at all, soooo... Who knows?!



techie70 said:
That is pretty messed up. I only see a few possibilities. Either he has feelings for you too but just can't admit it. Or he is using you as an excuse for not being able to deal with commitment issues. I do not think you should pretend to like the girl if you genuinely do not like her. But I would tell him to man up and not to use you as an excuse. Have you been seeing anyone recently? How does he react to that?
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Honestly, I don't know her too well. I try to stay away from the girls that he strings along because I know they're usually very temporary. My first impression of her gave me a bad feeling, but I'm also extremely biased.

I honestly don't mind if he's using me as an excuse to her. Her opinion of me won't cause me to lose any sleep at night! Haha. But I don't understand why he'd tell ME that if it's just something to shut her up, ya know? It's not like she and I talk.

I've been seeing one person more as a sexual thing. He doesn't know about it, so I can't say how he'd react.
 
he IS using you as an excuse. how does that feel? this guy says he has feelings for you, but more likely it sounds like he using you, big time.
 
You're being used as an excuse for him to string girls along.
That isn't much of a friendship.
 
I get the impression he's stringing you both along so he can have the best of both worlds... you AND her.
 
borg69unimatrix said:
I get the impression he's stringing you both along so he can have the best of both worlds... you AND her.
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I agree.

It seems to me like if he wanted me to get along with her, he wouldn't tell her something like that. If she wants a relationship with him and I'm the only thing standing between them, of course she's going to resent me on some level. That's not the setup for a great friendship.
 
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