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Alright where do I begin? It started a year and a half ago. I was going to a new school to start Graphic Design classes and as the teacher is taking role he calls out my name. Funny thing is that 2 people said present we looked at eachother and realized that we have the same name.......even the same initals weird I know but making friends isn't easy when you move from a small town. So we became friends. Next thing I knew we shared A LOT of the same interestes so we became better and better friends. Eventually moving in with eachother and becoming roommates what sucks though....is that I fell for him. ARRRGGGHHH. I mean we wrestled around, played games, etc and I never thought of it but I actaully started getting aroused around him so this past year, because of a guy I think is straight, I think I'm bi or gay? I really don't know much of anyhting other then the fact I really do like him; and if I can't have him then I would much rather just grow old and single.

Fast Foward

Now he just got back from his break and everything was fine we were laughin and crackin jokes but then I went on break and he is acting different towards me. I've been back for 2 days from my break now and we have only said a total of about 10 words to eachother. I sleep from 10 pm to 8am whereas he changed his sleeping schedule to, I feel, avoid me. Am I just paranoid? How do I know if his feelings could possibly be the same? I'm still in the closet and haven't told anyone.....til now. It really bugs me, and all this thinking and wondering makes me restless. I don't know if we are friends anymore or just 2 strangers living with eachother, I don't know if he is gay, bi, straight or unsure, I don't know what to do at this point.

please help.
 
>>>. Am I just paranoid?

Probably.

If you're so tight, you should be able to talk to him. So do it. Don't bring your feelings into it. Just ask about him. "You've been awful quiet since I got back from break. Everything OK?"

Lex
 
Good point, thanks I most def will try that tonight before I leave on another trip.

I mean my feeling for him are apparent as far as he knows I'm his friend and knows I would do anything to help. He doesn't know I'm in the closet he doesn't know anything really about my personal life so I really doubt that it would have anything to do with it. It just sucks because I have this gut feeling and a weight on my chest that I may be losing a friend here and I don't want to. I know its part of life and growing up but you only run into very few people in your lifetime that has you change your ways and he happens to be on of them. I don't know he's just helped me out a lot . And I don't want to lose him.
 
We all go through periods when we've got a lot of crap to deal with. He may just be in one of those, and it might have absolutely nothing to do with you. In which case, be a good friend, find out what the problem is, and lend your support. :)

Lex
 
What is confusing here is he's your close friend and your roommate and you don't know whether he's gay or straight? And he doesn't know the same about you?

I agree with Lex. Quite frankly, it's not all about you. If you're really his friend, then you should be wondering what happened with him and why he's so distant. And why, if you're such good friends, aren't the two of you able to communicate honestly and openly about these issues.
 
I can honestly say I've tried to find out and he just doesn't communicate. We started getting along and now he gets short with me. I'm thinking its all on him and instead of talking he takes it out on the people around him.
 
You've given him an open - he can talk to you. If he chooses not to, that's up to him. Let him stew, and focus elsewhere.

Lex
 
I agree with Lex on this one. He has some sort of issues,he's dealing with.
 
It may be that when he went away and kept talking about you that someone said that you two must be gay...and that scared him so he's backing off....maybe because he is afraid of being branded gay.

I am a little baffled though, that if you two are so tight, you don't know one another's sexual preference.

Why don't you be the first. Tell him you're gay, but aren't looking to jump his bone, but love him like a brother.
 
^A lot of guys especially can be very tight and not have a clue about some stuff

particularly if your bud thinks it will freak you out

I used to be a real hardass about stuff but in the past few years I've lightened up

I'm a pretty laid back kinda guy but if someone is acting all wonky around me I'd confront him and ask WTF was going on
 
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