What's so wrong with therapy?

[LuckysRevenge]

No shade but there are some posters here who could definitely benefit from talk therapy (which comes in many forms) but they outright refuse.

We live in an age where information is available anytime anywhere.
So if you are struggling with something, why not do something that will alleviate that struggle?

Am I missing something here? Or do some people prefer to wallow in pity?

I understand that it's very difficult to seek help. But when you're at the point of asking for help and you reject it..do you really want to get better?

Additionally, psychotherapy or therapy of any kind is not the same stigma it once was. In various forms of media and throughout the medical world, this is an accepted and suggested way to deal with emotional and mental anguish.
It saddens me that despite strides made in trying to help those in pain, some people who are otherwise rational and relatively stable are standing in the way of their own happiness.

 

[rareboy]

Good question.

Part of my professional work deals with de-stigmatizing mental health issues.

And you are right.

There are some JUB puppies who could benefit with some face to face therapist time.

Keep encouraging them to get it.

 

[eastofeden]

A lot of times people get used to whatever prison they have made for themselves....because it is safe...and they can't see that it is their own doing and with help...it can be undone. A lot of people don't want help

In my opinion...everyone is their own worst enemy...and there is also the potential at least to be our own best friend...

Creating chaos and living inside yourself is a comfort zone for a lot of people.

Another big one...playing the role of a victim. Once you are tuned in..you can see it unfold..by the numbers...as they set up each situation and pretend it just "happened to them". Pointing it out to them is never welcome...so therapy is out of the question....

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Most of us have become allergic to bullshit over the years through overexposure.

 

[Telstra]

What's so wrong with therapy?

Is the therapy free?
People don't want to pay for chit chat if they don't have a serious illness.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

It's just obnoxious. I did it for seven years. Never again.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

What's so wrong with therapy?

Is the therapy free?
People don't want to pay for chit chat if they don't have a serious illness.

Yes there are free resources.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

It's just obnoxious. I did it for seven years. Never again.

"It's just obnoxious" suggests that therapy is universal when it actually depends on the method, the individual, etc.

There are holistic methods, various cultural alternatives, etc.
Yoga and meditation are two therapeutic activities for example that can help immensely with many emotional and psychological issues.

To reject all therapy is to make a blanket assumption not based in reality.

 

[Telstra]

Yes there are free resources.

Free resources are not the same as free therapy

 

[xboxfan34]

No one except for other gay men can truly understand the pain I go through.

 

[G-Lexington]

From what I've been told, talk therapy in the States has gone steadily downhill since I used it in the past. Either the theapist has gotten on board with the drug companies, or the therapist works on making their patients "lifers". Ideally, in my opinion, a therapist should work him/herself out of a job, by getting people to the point where they can deal with their stuff themselves. But these days, it's not uncommon for therapists to assume (and insist) that they simply become an everyday (well, everyweek) part of their patient's lives - not temporarily but permanently.

Lex

 

[sixthson]

No shade but there are some posters here who could definitely benefit from talk therapy (which comes in many forms) but they outright refuse.

More and more I am convinced that the first form of talk therapy should be with trusted friends who tell us the truth, no matter how much it hurts, and our willingness to listen. For many this might be all they need. This does not eliminate the need for professional therapists, but not everyone needs that and all too often medication is prescribed unnecessarily. Accountability for actions is a big part of the healing process, too. Unfortunately, technology has replaced much of the interpersonal interaction that we all need. The internet and our phones are like walls between us and those most able to help us--our real friends and family. We need each other, more than professionals, to sharpen our minds and wills and encourage us to learn and grow.

Proverb: As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

 

[borg69unimatrix]

A lot of times people get used to whatever prison they have made for themselves....because it is safe...and they can't see that it is their own doing and with help...it can be undone. A lot of people don't want help

In my opinion...everyone is their own worst enemy...and there is also the potential at least to be our own best friend...

Creating chaos and living inside yourself is a comfort zone for a lot of people.

Another big one...playing the role of a victim. Once you are tuned in..you can see it unfold..by the numbers...as they set up each situation and pretend it just "happened to them". Pointing it out to them is never welcome...so therapy is out of the question....

^^^ I agree with this. People can't face the fact that THEY are their own worst enemy and take accountability for their own actions. It's far easier for them to think there's something wrong with the rest of the planet than there is something wrong with them.

 

[vacancy3]

It's just obnoxious. I did it for seven years. Never again.

That's how I feel. If you've got friends to just vent to from time to time that's helpful. If you are a true loner, I would suggest therapy though. That's how we get these crazy fucks shooting up the place because they have so much built up they explode.

Otherwise, if you're just feeling your life sucks...talk to a friend. Trust me, we've all got problems

 

[xboxfan34]

Music is better therapy than anything.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

No one except for other gay men can truly understand the pain I go through.

There are gay male therapists.

 

[Kahaih]

That's how I feel. If you've got friends to just vent to from time to time that's helpful. If you are a true loner, I would suggest therapy though. That's how we get these crazy fucks shooting up the place because they have so much built up they explode.

Otherwise, if you're just feeling your life sucks...talk to a friend. Trust me, we've all got problems

Actually, that seems to be the (learned?) response many people get when they try to talk to friends and family.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

That's how I feel. If you've got friends to just vent to from time to time that's helpful. If you are a true loner, I would suggest therapy though. That's how we get these crazy fucks shooting up the place because they have so much built up they explode.

Otherwise, if you're just feeling your life sucks...talk to a friend. Trust me, we've all got problems

Believe me, I'm only a "loner" in a romantic sense. I've got a ridiculous amount of friends. It's awesome. And yes, I talk to them.

"It's just obnoxious" suggests that therapy is universal when it actually depends on the method, the individual, etc.

There are holistic methods, various cultural alternatives, etc.
Yoga and meditation are two therapeutic activities for example that can help immensely with many emotional and psychological issues.

To reject all therapy is to make a blanket assumption not based in reality.

My comments were specifically about one-on-one consultation with a professional psychological therapist.

 

[LuckysRevenge]

My comments were specifically about one-on-one consultation with a professional psychological therapist.

And even those aren't all the same.

I guess my point is, theres no point suffering without trying "something".

Sometimes a professional is needed.

 

[TheLoveableLoner]

I feel you. I learned a lot about myself during my seven-year trial with a therapist and I realized that one-on-one with folks isn't the path that works for me.