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torrentluver said:
Ok so the other night I went out with this guy that Im not really attracted too and dont even know the guy really either.
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You answered your question in the first sentence of your post. In order to get off you need to be in love - or at the very least lust
 
yep reread your first sentence. gotta be attracted to him! i'd rather not hookup than do it w/someone im not attracted to
 
You're not a whore; you're just feeling crappy because it was kind of an average experience. Why not wait till you meet someone you are attracted to? It'll be much more enjoyable, I can guarantee you.
 
I understand what you are talking about too. I experimented with someone who I wasn't attracted too. The next time you want to get off, I prefer you to go for someone you are attracted to. I did once and it was the best feeling in the world. I don't know why you even when on doing it knowing you didn't sexually like him.
 
Hey Torrent,

Mate... you're18. Stop beating yourself up because you're certainly not a whore!

Life will be full of mistakes and lessons... especially about who you are and what what like and who you love. Chalk this one up to life Torrent... if you hadnt tried it would you have ever known that you're a guy who needs more than just any random to hook up with because you value and respect yourself... and the other guy?

Being 18 and horny doesnt mean that you can force yourself to be into everyone or everything that involves sex. Theres a huge difference between seeing a shirtless hottie and getting an instant boner, and actually making love or feeling connected to someone just because they are there.

For some it really requires a passion and a link to occur before you feel relaxed and comfortable and safe enough to let go. It takes a connection for a lot of people to trust enough to drop that last little bit of self defense... so dont feel bad or over annalyse it.

You just learnt a little about yourself.

That you have to care... that you have a big heart that needs to be used when you make love or be intimate with someone. That you need to feel safe secure trusted and wanted. None of thats bad mate in any way. Hell thats all pretty great stuff... its the stuff that makes you who you are.

And at 18 there will be a lot more chances to learn more too. And with time and connections, you'll soon enough be able to enjoy yourself and to lose that doubt that troubles you.
 
Petalswilt said:
You're not a whore; you're just feeling crappy because it was kind of an average experience. Why not wait till you meet someone you are attracted to? It'll be much more enjoyable, I can guarantee you.
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I agree, don't worry about it to much. Find some one you like next time and relax a bit and remember to enjoy it, and this guy will drift into a distant memory.

Don't worry, having a crappy sexual encounter does not cast you into the straight hord for the rest of your life.

Take care and relax.
 
torrentluver said:
Well the whole thing was just a bad idea. I just played along with everything and now I feel like a whore and dont know what to do.
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It just seems that you weren't turned on by making out in a car in a semi-public place with someone you didn't know and weren't attracted to. Could there be anything less romantic for a first time?

Stop beating yourself up. Get up, dust yourself off and go try again.

(but this time in the privacy of your home with someone who you are into and who is into you).
 
Make sure you're interested in the person and that you're into whatever is going on.

I'm sure many of us have made this mistake, only giving in because we're horny. But that's being unfair to ourselves. You either end up not climaxing or regretting it forever.
 
Mate, you were jacking it off in a car. The fantasy sure is a nice one to some people, but the practicality of it all just doesn't work.

Stop beating yourself up, next time a nice bedroom might be a better idea.

As for kissing, not everyone enjoys it like they think they will.

Personally I don't like being touched for more than 3 seconds, and if your gonna stick some kinda bodily organ in me, (tongue, finger etc) make it quick!
 
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