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When is a good time to say "I Love You"?

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I've been dating an older male for a little over a month. I'm very happy. We've been together often bought gifts for V-day for each other and all that stuff. we can only see each other occassionally due to family being taken care of in the house. He has talked about me it seems to many of his friends and one night last week I saw him holding back tears in his eyes and told me he was positive and that I was ok with it and wanted to be with him. he told me he was afraid of telling me and asked all his friends how to go about it. Hes talked about "your one of the sweetest people i've ever met" and "as long as i'm laying next to you" and it all makes me feel so happy. Hes alwaysi insisted on taking me out to meals but I finally broke him of that lol.
I think he is the sweetest person I have ever met and i want to share a life with him. I know they are only words but should I flat out tell him how I feel now or wait? =He wanted to get serious which is why he told me the situation and I think he wants to settle in and so do I! do you huys think I should show him verbally or physicly that I love him? I was going to wait until May but my paranoia tries to get me to believe that he doesn't like me and he won't be around. He seems thus far very honest about things should I mention all of that to him?
 
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I've been dating an older male for a little over a month. I'm very happy. We've been together often bought gifts for V-day for each other and all that stuff. we can only see each other occassionally due to family being taken care of in the house. He has talked about me it seems to many of his friends and one night last week I saw him holding back tears in his eyes and told me he was positive and that I was ok with it and wanted to be with him. he told me he was afraid of telling me and asked all his friends how to go about it. Hes talked about "your one of the sweetest people i've ever met" and "as long as i'm laying next to you" and it all makes me feel so happy. Hes alwaysi insisted on taking me out to meals but I finally broke him of that lol.
I think he is the sweetest person I have ever met and i want to share a life with him. I know they are only words but should I flat out tell him how I feel now or wait? =He wanted to get serious which is why he told me the situation and I think he wants to settle in and so do I! do you huys think I should show him verbally or physicly that I love him? I was going to wait until May but my paranoia tries to get me to believe that he doesn't like me and he won't be around. He seems thus far very honest about things should I mention all of that to him?
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Have you guys had sex yet?

I waited two months to be exclusive with my boyfriend and while I can't quite remember when we first said "I love you", I think it was close after we became boyfriends.
 
The best (and only) time to say I love you is when you mean it. If it isn't from the heart it isn't worth saying.
 
We had sex when we first met. At first it was you know an Adam4Adam hookup who lived right down the road and I developed emotions for him and I really do love him always :3 Those 3 words have not come up from either of us yet but it seems like it's close. I hope he'd known I mean it I've came lcose to tears being happy in his arms and I think he has to. I'm thinking of a big screen tv for his birthday good idea? I'm starting to think maybe he doesl ove me? but we don't want to admit it to each other just yet? It is pretty early but we have grown close
 
I think that is so sweet!!

Dont go buying big expensive gifts for each other. The best gift you can give him is to tell him you love him, providing of course that that is how you feel.
So tell him and enjoy the feeling.
 
Based on what you have written, NOW is the time to tell him "I love you" as long as you mean it.
 
Wait. If you've only known him for 3 months, you're still in the process of getting to know him. Love isn't a maybe thing. You KNOW when it's love, because it's all consuming. I've only been in love once and when I said it the first time I just blurted it out. It came out like vomit; I could not help it and didn't realize I did until it was already said. Granted, I was drunk but I'm sure you get what I'm trying to say.

Congratulations either way, you're lucky to have found such a sweet guy. They're a dying breed, I tell ya.
 
I definitely wouldn't buy him a big TV. As to saying "I love you" it seems like there's no reason not to. If that's going to drive him away, it probably wasn't meant to be with him.
 
Did he wait until after you'd had sex to tell you he's positive?
 
^ That's the big question here. Is he hooking up without telling his partners? I think that's a huge issue and while I don't want to brand him with a scarlet letter, he needs to take responsible action regarding his status. I'd hold back a bit. Since most hook-ups don't lead to relationships I understand your desire to have this be the one.
Perhaps it is, but I'd be happier about it if you got sone clarification from him as to how he handles his status.
 
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