Where are all the gay boys?

[Jote18]

Hi, I've been living in Seattle for a few months now, and just realized I know no gay people. I live on Capitol Hill (infamously the gay part of Seattle) and only know three gay men. I'd love to flirt with the idea of a relationship, but it's a bit impossible not knowing where to meet people or how to put myself out there. Any advice? Any Seattlelites want to let me in on where you're all hiding? Thank you.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Jote18,

Welcome to JUB mate! Its awesome to see you here and posting on the boards... I hope you have a good time! And I'm sure you'll get some good advice here too...

You could also try posting in the looking for friends section of the site... who knows... you might just find your man!

Good luck...and enjoy your stay!

 

[pausanias_usa]

Friendships don't pick up very quickly when you move -- sometimes we come off a bit desperate like that.

Try just making friends, period. Social networks always have a few gays on the edges, even if the center is straight.

 

[Oden_grey]

Ah ha! I saw an interesting post a couple weeks back where Seattle was the second largest gay city in America after San Francisco.

I'm living in this area (recently relocated from the east coast) working for one of the two giant employers in the region (I leave it to you to guess which one). Anyways, I too though that I'd see a lot more gay people in the Seattle area, but as it turns out I ended up living in Lynnwood. I like the city, but I also like private parking and a decent sized, affordable apartment.

Jote18, I think you will be able to meet more gay people if you became more involved in some of the social programs based in Capitol Hill. There are quite a few. A lot of those people you may actually encounter are decent people who donate some of their valuable time to the gay community.

 

[LateNite85]

Friendships don't pick up very quickly when you move -- sometimes we come off a bit desperate like that.

Try just making friends, period. Social networks always have a few gays on the edges, even if the center is straight.

Speaking of friends, where do people find those? Seems like any gay guys remotely interested in me want to immediately jump in the sack. Where are all the gay guys who want to be friends first?

 

[Eagle653]

Speaking of friends, where do people find those? Seems like any gay guys remotely interested in me want to immediately jump in the sack. Where are all the gay guys who want to be friends first?

And for Jote18 too, since you're both essentially asking the same question (and welcome to both of you!).

One way to find friends is through other friends. Friends invite each other to dinner with others; or to their houses for small dinner parties; or just to hang out with when friends come by and say hi. I've met a lot of friends through other friends and nurtured the friendships of people I clicked with.

Another way is think about things you're interested in...hobbies, sports, books, or just things you think are fun. In most cities, there are social groups dedicated to these things. Some may be straight-oriented, but there's bound to be some gay people too. In larger cities, there are gay groups dedicated to common interests just so that there are avenues to make friendships other than bars.

Lastly, I've made some friends in bars too. I know a lot of people poo-poo bars, but it really depends on the ones you go to and how you carry yourself. I avoid the stand-and-pose ones because they bore me. I go to other kinds of bars--like piano bars, or martini bars--where a different kind of crowd goes. Usually at these places are people looking for friends (as opposed to a 1 night stand) and intelligent talk.

Good luck!

 

[jai_se7en]

i'm here....

 

[Jote18]

Thank you for all your responses. I guess I just have to stay optimistic. I'm going to try and go to an art show at the LGBT center this weekend, so wish me luck.