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Where to find gay guys on campus?

I completely know how you feel. I am extremely shy and I was actually in the closet the entire time I was in school. Only recently have I started coming out to close friends. My advice would to not stress yet about not knowing other gay guys, not having a boyfriend, or coming out. If you meet someone great, if not don't stress over it. Work on trying to make friends (which as I know very well can be hard if you are being shy). As you meet people try to make good friends that are open-minded. Then once you have some good friends to support you you can think about being open with them, or seeking out other gay people.

Have you thought about looking online to meet someone? Like at an actual dating site (not a hookup place like grindr). I ended up meeting the first (and only so far) guy I've dated on okcupid. You can chat with and get to know someone online without revealing your identity until you trust them. Being open with them about your situation and concerns is probably best, and if they aren't ok with that then move on.
 
mikey17 said:
You know, I e-mailed the co-ordinator of LGBT events at my school, asking him if there are ever any types of meetings where people come together and share their experiences. I also asked if people are supportive in these discussions. I'm hoping they are. I hate coming off as abbraisive here. That's not who I am at all. Now I find myself arguing with people on here, which I don't want to do. I'm not that type of person. I was trying to be sarcastic in one of my posts, which clearly didn't work, lol. I look forward to hearing the response from the co-ordinator I e-mailed. At the end of the day, I just want to be myself. I'm going to go to a meeting and see how I feel. Thanks, everyone. Again, sorry for my behaviour. I truly appreciate all the responses, even the ones I responded negatively to.
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hi Mikey17,

Thanks for your nice and friendly reply. So you went to Seneca ( Seneca College - Toronto, Canada ) and you are now going to the UofT (University of Toronto - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia). According to https://inside.senecac.on.ca/redc/positivespace.html they have a very clear policy towards guys like you.

Its very good you have send an e-mail to the co-ordinator of the LGBT events at your school. I am quite sure they have such kind of meetings with people like you. These groups are designed to be supportive to guys like you, and are very willing to help you to feel yourself safe & relaxed. So its a very good first step you have set to accept who you really are. On the other hand, I can imagine myself very well that you have no idea at all what to expect at any of these meetings. Therefore, its very good you first want to make sure what's going on.

I tend to think that right now, anno 2012 and being a student at the UofT, you don't need to hide that you 'are into guys' = you are gay, and that there is also no need to some sort of official opening yourself.

So you arrived as a fresh student. Let us assume you will attend some of these LGBT meetings. Likely, you will get other gay friends (and hook-ups as well), but you don't hide that -some of - your friends are gay guys. Meaning you will have lunch with them, talk with them when you meet them during the day anywhere in public, invite them to your room to drink something together (or whatever, including sex). So you simply don't bother that you are - often- surrounded by other gay guys. Or put some photo's of a you and a guy dancing together (or whatever) at one of the LGBT meetings on your Facebook account. People around will will draw their conclusions. No need to tell them anymore, as you simple assume they will be aware that you are gay. Most (allmost) all of your fellow students will have one or more gay friends / aquaintances / relatives. So you being a gay student is not new for them.

Finally, dancing with a guy (without even knowing that he is gay) during such a LGBT meeting is a prefect and an easy way to ask him for 'more' (= let go to my place to have a drink).

Good luck and feel free to react.
 
Hello I went to u of t as a closeted guy as well. Good for you for even considering the LGBT groups. Good luck coming out.
 
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