who do you choose ? (sad)

[Telstra]

Sister's wedding.

Her older brother and his wife got 2 kids. Brother & wife doesn't get along and doesn't live together.
Sister get a long with them just fine and want to invite all of them to her wedding (brother & wife and kids)

but the brother said if his wife go to the wedding, he won't go. If sister want him to go, his wife can't go. (Brother is at fault here).

Sister choose her brother (mainly for respect) and the kids cried (sad).
So who would you choose to come to the wedding ?

 

[Audio Tech]

Then neither. If they can't be civilized for a few hours, why put a damper on a wedding?

 

[dman9924]

Sister choose her brother (mainly for respect) and the kids cried (sad).

In most cases I would say a blood relative would trump an in-law unless there are extenuating circumstances.

So the kids cried because they couldn't go? Why couldn't they attend with their father? It sounds like a pretty bitter situation. The kids are suffering because of the parents behavior. That is indeed sad.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'll say invite them both. If they want to play "I won't be there if so-and-so is there", then that says they feel their petty problems are more important than the marrying couple's feelings, in which case they should stay home.

Lex

 

[Orlandude]

Going to the wedding SHOULD be out of respect for the sister and to wish her well on this happy and important ocassion. If they can't put their petty differences aside for just a few hours then they should all stay home. Their behavior is ignorant and ill-mannered. The sister should not be FORCED to make the decision out of respect for anyone. They should act like adults and show some respect for her on her wedding day.

 

[TX-Beau]

Yeah, invite both, then forget about them.

 

[trikky]

yep they are trying to make their problems her's. Invite them both and it's their problem to sort out who is/isn't going to go.

 

[Deandbn]

I agree. Invite them all and let them sort themselves out. It's really not your problem. Maybe you should just tell them that it's your wedding not theirs and that they should get over themselves and their pettyness.

 

[Telstra]

In most cases I would say a blood relative would trump an in-law unless there are extenuating circumstances.

So the kids cried because they couldn't go? Why couldn't they attend with their father? It sounds like a pretty bitter situation. The kids are suffering because of the parents behavior. That is indeed sad.

Kids cried because their mum couldn't go.

Its the brother who said if wife go, he won't go.
The wife want to go.

 

[G-Lexington]

Then tell brother to grow the fuck up.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

I'll say invite them both. If they want to play "I won't be there if so-and-so is there", then that says they feel their petty problems are more important than the marrying couple's feelings, in which case they should stay home.

^^^ Another vote for inviting them both- but with the understanding that they are to act civil and not bring their own unhappy marital strife with them to the ceremony or reception.

If your brother is choosing his battle with his wife over his love and support of a sibling, then he deserves to sit home alone. And that's probably how he will be spending his golden years if he continues to behave like a child.

 

[Lube]

Invite who you want. It's your wedding.

If they don't want to come, that's their problem, not yours.

 

[Telstra]

Anyway the wedding has passed. The wife didn't go.
Probably the main sister's consideration was her older brother walking down the aisle.

Sad for the kids. If it was up to me, i would invite both and who don't turn up is their problem.
No need for the guy to walking down the aisle.

 

[Telstra]

The bride & groom invited the wife and 2 kids to a nice restaurant and had dinner.

Some sort of happy out come i guess.