Who in your family knows you´re gay?

[GayBoyKellyCfan]

^ That's a lie, I know.

 

[SFMusic]

Everyone knows, and all of my family are very supportive. Since coming out of the closet, I have never once had them treat my bf's or spouse as anything less than they would if I were straight and brought home a gf or wife.

 

[luvthissite]

None of my family "knows".
My dad once asked if I was having a homosexual relationship with a high school friend (my mom caught us sleeping in the same single bed in our underwear, luckily she did not catch us doing what we normally did -bjs.)

I have a hunch my parents know I am, they never say why don't you have a girlfriend, or why don't you get married, etc. It never comes up.

I have a feeling one of my brothers knows, but it is never said. My other brother is totally clueless, and homophobic.

I don't think I would tell my folks, unless I got in a serious relationship and it couldn't be helped. Although my folks (especially my mom) are not predjudice, somehow I think they would be "crushed" to actually hear me say "I'm gay". Yeah, in the end they just want me to be happy (really), but deep down I think they would be upset that I could not live a straight life, marry, have kids, grandkids, etc. I wish I could be straight but I am not and that is life.

good thread, I find all of the responses so interesting.

 

[Oogleman]

everyone and they think its great!

 

[teh_nathan]

I'll insert "bi" where it applies.

My mother knows and doesn't care.
My father - let's just say "non applicable"
My stepfather - probably, he's made a lot of homophobic comments in the past and I've said something and all of a sudden he's stopped

 

[Swellegant]

I'm pretty sure my whole family (all three hundred or so of them) know about it, and nobody gives me grief about it. But we don't really talk about it, either. When I had a boyfriend, he was accepted at family gatherings without anybody having to call him my "boyfriend" or "good friend" or whatever, they just accepted him as one of ourselves without comment.

Outside of my immediate family, though, I never told any of them... I just allow them to surmise whatever they are most comfortable surmising. I live on the surface, but I don't find it necessary to shove it under their noses unless they say something uncouth. Some take it for granted that I'm gay and are fine with it, but I'm sure there are some who prefer to think I'm just "sensitive" and a "confirmed bachelor." Whatever blows their skirts up, I guess.

But like I said, outside of my closest and immediate family, my policy is: they don't give me grief, I don't give them grief; I don't flame out at family gatherings, but neither do I lie. It's a nicely balanced way to live in a large family.

 

[pohbear]

i found out that many suspect i'm gay; my niece and nephew's found out from my sister even though i have not came out and said anything

my priest (who is gay) has used my relationship with my b/f during his homilies

 

[ross_1986]

My mom, my dad, my two sisters, my aunt, and a few of my cousins (one of whom, is gay).

 

[ibox_2000]

My Dad and sister and one aunt know. Mom died before I came out to myself.

Next weekend is (Canadian) Thanksgiving. I'll be celebrating it with all of my Mom's side of the family. And my BF is going. Wish me/us luck. I don't think it'll be any surprise to my aunts, uncles and cousins. Nor do I think they'll care. However, my cousins all have pre-teen kids.

 

[Pegasus69]

Everyone in my family knows that I am gay. There are those Aunts and Uncles who do not speak of it, but they did not have much to do with us after my mother divorced our father. I could acutally not care if they are okay with it or not. Both of my sisters know and they have not had a harsh work for me in many years, actually in decades (one yesterday got onto my computer yesterday to check email and screemed out that I was so gay because my wall paper is a bunc of naked men with hotdogs in buns strategically placed.

My neices and nephews think it is the greatest thing to have a gay uncle. We get along great and have some very good conversations about politics, religions, sexual morals (they are all adults now), music and popular culture. They think I would be a cool parent because I can talk about all of these things. I tried to explain that as a parent your energies are diverted somewhat to more important matters.

I am also out at work. I do not put up with shit from anyone and word has gotten out and am pretty much left out of the off color jokes and the use of fags and queers has gone to non existant in my presence.

That goes to say that all of my friends know as well and since they are still my friend they are okay with it.

 

[andyspete]

No one and I intend to keep it that way.

 

[cozmik]

My mother and father know for sure. I think my brother knows too.

AS for extended family, I think two of my cousins know, and other than them, there is only like my aunt and 3 other cousins that are still alive, sooo...