Why am I so afraid of Gay sex (Even blow jobs!)

[Diligence]

I've made so many hook-ups on Grindr but every single time I cancel. EVERY TIME MAN.
It's sad though because I really want to do it.
I'm afraid of like losing interest as soon as I cum and feel horrible about myself blah blah the usual but it's really affecting having gay sex for the first time.

 

[Seasoned]

Not everyone is suited for casual sex. Some learn to like it. Some don't do it. Maybe you ought to concentrate on meeting people. It could even be a matter of being more horny or more frustrated, but there's no requirement to do it just because some others do it easily and seemingly joyfully. We are not all the same. As long as your inner qualms aren't making you neurotic following your inner voice is the safest and wisest way to go.

 

[njcollegekid]

loosing interest after you cum? interest in what, sex? thats normal. most people arent that into sex once theyve just had it - me, i can keep going and cum twice or three times (record so far), but thats not common. sometimes ill lose interest before i cum, depending on the guy. still have fun though.
99.9% of guys wont care if you loose interest, as long as they can still get off - and if you cant even stand making out while they JO and finish themselves, they will survive.
most people are actually relatively understanding, despite the occasional prick (had one guy bitch at me for ruining his night when he looked hardly at all like his pic). this one guy who was the first guy i hooked up with we did just oral, and i lost interest and didnt cum the first time. we kept texting back and forth and met up again. now we still text every now and then and plan to meet monday.

 

[Durango95]

If you have never had sex, then maybe you are not ready for it. Sex is not an easy or simple thing, when you think about it. I mean it involves the most personal private aspect of yourself. I agree with Seasoned, maybe you should concentrate on meeting people in general instead of arranging hook-ups. I think the "losing interest" thing is an attempt to fool yourself into believing that there is possibly some other reason for not wanting to go through with these hook-ups, other than you just really aren't ready to do it.

 

[Just_Believe18]

It sounds like you need to learn to accept yourself as a gay man as it seems you have a lot of internalized homophobia. You're also approaching this all wrong. Looking for a stranger online to have your first sexual experience with will not help your nerves or provide you a support to explore and experiment with your feelings. You need to build a circle of gay friends first. Get to know people, then find that person you've established a connection with that you know and trust.

 

[guyfromNY]

I can't imagine being able to relax and have a good time during an online hookup. Do yourself a favor and don't plan your encounters as you have been, but try to find an actual boyfriend.

 

[123kid]

LOOK, put that cock in your mouth and you will be cooing like a baby before you know it. You will love every minute of it and want to suck it all the time!

 

[dereperez]

Sounds like random internet hook-ups aren't your thing. Try a close friend for the first time. Meet people thru LGBT communities or clubs and approach the subject with someone you trust and are more comfortable with. That way, if you do back out the last minute or if you feel like you want to stop right in the middle of it, at least the other guy will be more understanding. A safer environment is key.