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Why am I such an ass?

As long as you keep teling yourself that you have no idea where this behaviour comes from you will never find out. Own it and change it and I think you will be much better off.
Good luck, I know its hard admitting you have a problem and it comes from within not without, but you seem to be travelling in the right direction.
 
Hey buddy,

You know what mate... I suspect you do know why. I also suspect you dont like the answer that you're giving yourself when you ask the question...

And it has nothing to do with where you live or whether or not you want to help others...

It has everything to do with making peace with yourself. You are the only one who controls your emotions, the only one who decides whether situations are good or bad. You control your emotions they dont control you.

Most of us have been there...trust me. Its hard to be positive on the outside when your insides hate your guts. Learning to accept who you are....REALLY accepting who you are is where you start to make things right.

It doesn't make you weak or different or less of a man...it makes you human. It makes you one of us. None of us are perfect. None. But accepting that theres things about you that you can do nothing about, accepting that you're deserving and worthy, accepting that no matter what you;re ok... thats where you start to make things right.

IJBML - you are ok. You are good enough. You are you. You've got a good head on your shoulders and a great heart. Its ok to struggle and feel sad and weak from time to time. But you are loved and accepted...you;re never alone.

Be honest with yourself. Listen to yourself. You know what to do. Stop fighting the answers. Its time to find the strength to act on them.
 
I have no idea what happened to you. Perhaps, if you look deeper and sum the courage to face your "fear", you'll feel better.
 
I_Just_Blew_My_Load86 said:
God, you people are such great people.

I think a lot of gays are angry--it's like we can't gain acceptance from mainstream society and to be honest I am very self conscious of being gay...never wanting to say or do the wrong thing for fear of being exposed.

I'm just trying to work through this difficult time of my life.
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Looks like you've taken the first step to resolving this little problem. ;)

As your start to accept yourself a little more, you will find that life becomes less of a burden.

Good luck. Do try deep breathing whenever you feel upset, maybe that will help prevent you from lashing out at others for no reason.
 
Well, I can certainly relate to the anger. I am dealing with lots of my own and trying to work it through. I seem to be blessed with not taking it out on people around me and being pleasant with everyone, which I really do consider a blessing. The only thing I have learned is to not turn it inside and let it attack me. So I try to cope with it, even embrace it, indeed feel comfortable with it and try to understand it.
 
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