Why are some people so complicated?

[FameMonster]

Hey guys, I'm really lost right now, no idea what to do and I was hoping you guys could help me out.

So here's the deal, Me and my friends met five guys on vacation last summer. I liked the guys, but one of them was soooo hot! Anthony.
I didn't know if they were straight or gay but they seemed pretty gay to me, the night we met two of them pretended to fuck each other with the clothes on, they asked us multiple times if one of us was gay or not (I'm not out to my friends yet so they didn't know about me) but still my friends suggested more than once that me and Anthony might be into each other.
One of Anthony's friends, Marc even said 'time for some gay-action' a few times and then he would cuddle or hug one of his friends.
Anthony also fell asleep on one of his friend's lap and to me it felt like the five of them were a bit too intimate together, or at least waaaaaay more intimate then I'd ever expect straight guys to be.

So after the vacation I added them on Facebook, but Anthony didn't have an account so I didn't talk to him again. But one of my friends talked to Marc and she said that Marc thought I was 'another fag' it was kinda rude and I never really talked that much with Marc so I kinda felt angry, I mean who was he to judge when he obviously didn't know me? And I saw on his Facebook account that he is interested in males, although he told me during the vacation he had a sort-of girlfriend.

Anyway recently Anthony got an account as well and we got talking. But one time I feel like he's really into it, I told him I was probably coming to his state and he said that he wanted to meet up, although we barely talked during the vacation and the place I needed to go was like half an hour drive for him. So then I got the feeling he liked me (at least just as a friend) but other times when I talk to him he barely responds or says after like 5 minutes he has to go. And then I really get the feeling I'm just bothering him and he doesn't want to get to know me whatsoever.

Anthony has a girlfriend, and besides he lives like three to four hours away from me. So I guess things never would have worked anyway, but I can't help but wondering, what if? And yess he has a girlfriend, but nothing on his profile says he is straight. With Marc you see: Marital status; single, interested in; men. So there you have it. Anthony's profile just says: Marital status; has a relationship with ..... but it doesn't say if he's fully straight or not.

I don't know why I even post this, guess I just wanted to tell someone and clear my head.
Any thought from you guys? thanks

Xoxo
Fame

 

[skips]

Sorry to say it, but it sounds like Anthony's really not that into you. I would suggest moving on.

 

[rareboy]

Oh good lord.

Hopefully you aren't going to dwell on this through 2012.

Anthony is a waste of time.

Marc is a waste of time.

Delete them all from your facespagemybooktwitter account and get out there and meet up with some guys that aren't consumed by this ambiguous and immature 'kinda gay' nonsense.

 

[Spiff]

Actually it sounds like you are the one complicating things; not the straight guys that you easily fall for. Anthony was just at first trying to be nice by being a Facebook friend. But then you probably gave him a vibe that you were digging for more, so he backed off.

 

[FameMonster]

Yeah you guys are right, time to move on! Too bad he is so damn cute! Oh well, enough cute gay guys too, right? Thanks for your reply's!

 

[Seasoned]

Hang in there and put a positive spin on all of this. You know your orientation and have a healthy sex drive. These crushes can be bothersome. Don't take them seriously. But enjoy the rush once you have things in perspective. Good luck and happy new year.

 

[skips]

The moral of the story is that those are the types of guys that you want to avoid in the future.

 

[arpeggi]

They're complicated because being comfortable with your sexuality can be just that, complicated.
Either these boys are trying to sort some things out, or they're just playing around. Maybe they're just really really straight-acting?
If I didn't know them well enough or felt comfortable asking them about it, I would just avoid them.
If this Anthony fellow is curious enough, he'll make the effort to see you when you're around. Half an hour isn't much to travel to meet someone at all.

 

[FameMonster]

Well it actually was that I told him I was coming to his state (California) and he said well come to that place and ask your friends if they wanna come along. But three of my four friends from the vacation couldn't make it. And I was going to California with my brother, and he doesn't know Anthony or any of his friends so for him it wouldn't be fun for my bro. And I didn't hear anything from Anthony anymore so I went to California without seeing him, and after that I wanted to talk to him and kinda explain why I went without seeing him. But I only said happy new year, and he was like, yeah you too. But I gotta go, see you later. Byee!

So that was kinda random and I really don't know if he's just not into me or that he's mad at me.
And I already know that he's probably straight and even if he was gay, chances he would fall for me are really low. But I just wanna be his friend. He is nice, hot and it's always good to know people in other states right? But I feel like he doesn't make an effort to talk to me or get to know me.

 

[rareboy]

Pay Attention.

Stop dwelling on these guys and your going nowhere relationship with this guy Anthony.

Don't take it as a personal thing. You all just met on vacation. It was a casual fleeting thing.

He's not pursuing you and your friendship.

Focus on your real friends.

Uncomplicate things.

 

[texan_slant]

With all due respect, the time and energy that you just spent trying to figure out this whole situation with emphasis on someone who never gave you the time of day (on your vacation) was a minor waste of time.

I hate Facebook for various reasons - one of them being a FALSE assumption that "accepting" one as a friend "with a click" means that you're instant friends. Nobody is making this anymore complicated than yourself.

Here is my old fashioned way - with me, I always sense whether or not there might be some sort of connection that might have happened while interacting with someone in person, at a party, or whatever. THEN, I'd perhaps move forward with exchanging contact info.

On the other hand, you put yourself out there to make friends, and now, you can just move on and continue to do what you do.