Why Can't I Cum?

[gayteentn]

Ok, I have a problem, Jus really hot guy blew me off today and I was totally boned and he was doing a damn good job, The Thing is I couldn't get off, I was horny, hard and my balls were full. but it was like i was so hard and aroused I couldn't cum. Is there anything wrong w/ me?

 

[thewiz]

Nothing wrong with you except that you were probably so overstimulated that the natural reaction could not take place. Sometimes you'll become so aroused and excited that you won't be able to get an erection; I've met several guys that just could not cum no matter what one did (I haven't had that problem yet). But sometimes you are just so turned on by the moment that the tension builds to the point that things can't finish the way you'd like.

Just relax; know nothing is wrong; enjoy it and I am sure as you go, things will work. Worrying will only make it worse!

 

[Corny]

plus there are many people who simply can't cum just by getting blown. don't ask me why

 

[Ohiospeedo]

I personally can't cum from a blowjob. It feels good but I need a little bit more pressure or simulation. You are not the only one.

 

[Jeimuzu]

Yeah, I get harder than ever, and totally overstimulated, but I need more pressure to climax, usually.

 

[gotdimples77]

yep...I can't come from a blowjob either...i love em but cant get off....turn into a twitching gasping moaning mess, stay hard forever...can't shoot though!! I dont let it bother me. If i jerk off though I can get off with no problem. ( I sometimes get affraid this freaks out the guys Im with, sometimes that thought makes me soft fast so I try not to think it. It really has no relation to what they are doing or look like though but that can be hard to convince people of)

 

[lostparker17]

don't forget that there are many ssri class anxiety drugs out there (lexapro, etc.) that will let you get to the top but will keep you from going over the top. that's why i quit taking lexapro and just learned to deal with stress naturally. took about 4 weeks, but the old "pop and fizz" returned!

 

[kurtwild]

maybe you liked the guy to much and didnt want the blowjob to finnish ever!-joke-
maybe you were stressed?

 

[gayteentn]

I take an anti depressent, but I dunno if it's that, b/c I can cum when I have intercourse and masturbate, but it takes a while. Most people like the fact that I don't cum instanly. But when I'm on a time schdeuled it's harder for me to bust a nut

 

[kevin7620]

I take an anti depressent, but I dunno if it's that, b/c I can cum when I have intercourse and masturbate, but it takes a while. Most people like the fact that I don't cum instanly. But when I'm on a time schdeuled it's harder for me to bust a nut

It sounds like you might be on an SSRI anti-depressant. These medicines are known to have sexual side effects, and in fact are sometimes used to control premature ejaculation.

Ask your doctor about switching to Wellbutrin (bupropion), which has minimal sexual side effects.

 

[RyanKilter]

In my human sexuality class @ college (think sex ed) we were discussing how girls tend to not have orgasm for a long time over the course of being sexually active.

I think the same applies to some gay guys (at least I hope). Of course we're built different but some of the reasons like technique and emotional connectedness are similar. (For moi at least).

I've been going at it here and there for the past year and have yet to cum while being stimulated by another guy. I either go home and finish things off or force him to enjoy watching me jerk off for twice as long as it usually takes.

As a side note, my sex life so far has consisted only of one night stands and one druken "mistake". So, go figure.

 

[Spiff]

Maybe you felt pressured to perform better than usual because this guy was exceptionally hot. Simple stage fright?

 

[nfgrls]

In my human sexuality class @ college (think sex ed) we were discussing how girls tend to not have orgasm for a long time over the course of being sexually active.

I think the same applies to some gay guys (at least I hope). Of course we're built different but some of the reasons like technique and emotional connectedness are similar. (For moi at least).

I've been going at it here and there for the past year and have yet to cum while being stimulated by another guy. I either go home and finish things off or force him to enjoy watching me jerk off for twice as long as it usually takes.

As a side note, my sex life so far has consisted only of one night stands and one druken "mistake". So, go figure.

I have the same problem I have been sleeping with this guy (4 times) and not once have I been able to cum, I can lay there and jerk all I want. Once I go home no problem. And I have only been able to get off with one guy and that was after jerking for a while.

 

[somerset fox]

Glad to read this thread. I can wank of easily, but can't get enough of a head of steam to cum, either with a guy or girl. Thought it was just me.

 

[sparky95]

The anti- depressants can slow your sexual response. Don't worry to much about it, see your doctor if the problem continues, and enjoy getting a reputation as a guy who never gets premature ejaculation!