Why do lovers break up?

[hunky]

Once you decide to be lovers, that means everything is in harmony, you love each other, sex is perfect, it is all working out great but suddenly you decide to break up, find someone better or just try to find someone who you would care more for.

isn´t love suppost to last for ever? What happens then?

 

[Lube]

^ Yeah, what Danno said.

It's never perfect. When you start on a relationship, you (a) feel that you have enough in common to feel close, (b) feel that you can grow closer over time, and (c) accept issues that you can't change.

When you feel that any of those are no longer true, that's when you're no longerin love.

 

[Danugh]

Once you decide to be lovers, that means everything is in harmony, you love each other, sex is perfect, it is all working out great but suddenly you decide to break up, find someone better or just try to find someone who you would care more for.

isn´t love suppost to last for ever? What happens then?

damn good question ill think about it somemore and reply later.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

I never thought anything was really perfect, least of all myself.

I have grown to believe that people fall in love for a multitude of reasons. Many of them are purely situational.

We all change over the time. Relationships tend to be pretty dynamic and only very few couples manage to live with the constant change.

Last but not least, there is life outside your bond. At times, geography, career and other events interfere and put an end to a relationship.

There is little point in trying to see it as an ideal. Relationships live and sadly, they die, too. Most people get badly hurt and some learn and grow to meet new challenges.

SC

 

[slobone]

I've known plenty of couples who broke up for no good reason. One partner just gets restless, or meets somebody else he thinks is hotter, or just isn't willing to make the effort to adjust his life to his partner's. And boom -- Hello, U-Haul?

Even straight couples are breaking up at a more rapid rate than they used to, so what chance do gay couples have?

 

[eric55]

couples get together because they feel a bond between them that makes them want to commit to spending time together and share their journey with each other. Different peopl come into relationships with different expectations of what they need or want, but fundamentally a relationship is about 2 individuals joining together to share each others lives and help and support each other.

All sorts of things can go wrong with a relationship to make it end. What will end one relationship won't shake another. What each individual is feeling and living has a big impact on that. Some relationships blow apart spectacularly.... others wither away with hardly a sigh.

Basically when a relationsip ends when one or both halves don't want to or can't go on. Sometimes it's a hurt you can't get past, sometimes it's outside forces. Ultimately though, what ever event it is that finally ends a couple, it's most often a symptom of a deeper dissatisfaction between the two partners. It's hard to keep up the love between 2 people when the world is crashing through your door making demands on you, your time and your money. A relationship is also a changing thing, just like the 2 partners in it.... you will change, he will change and sometimes in different directions. Sometimes in directions so far apart that it will finally mean the two can't continue.

I'm a bit scattered today, and I've written this in 3 different sittings. I hope I've gotten my point across though. A couple is not carved out of stone. A couple is 2 people not a new single minded organism. No one stands still, you have to grow and change. Sometimes relationships don't make it because the path you were supposed to travel together is done, and it's time to move on. Simple as that.

 

[frankfrank]

I've known people who are so close that they have more or less "merged" into one being, but that is very rare. (A pair of guys I know in New Jersey fit into this description well.) Usually a relationship, even the lifelong ones that only end at somebody's death, are CONTINUING works-in-progress. We are such complex beings that, even in relationships like the New Jersey one I mentioned, the two people never stop learning things about each other. Of course, because there are TWO people involved, that means there are TWO people who can change as time goes by, and the changes aren't always good for the relationship. Yes, "geography, career and other events" can impact or end relationships, and the "other events" is a catch-all, which can include almost anything.

 

[sissyboy]

It's not all hearts and flowers. It takes work and commitment.We've been together for 17 years and it hasn't been a honeymoon by any means. For all the good times, there have been some fairly bad times. We've both made concessions to the other's happiness.Some that might seem extreme to anyone outside the relationship.

I wouldn't trade him for anything or anybody in the world, but that doesn't mean he's perfect.I know that I'm not.We disagree, we argue but we always make up. He's accepted my many shortcomings as I have accepted his.We figured out long ago that as a couple, we are more than either of us could be without the other.For whatever reason, what we have works. Not only do we love each other, but we genuinely LIKE each other.

There's nothing more comforting than knowing that he's always there, no matter what.

 

[mac_twck]

Once you decide to be lovers, that means everything is in harmony, you love each other, sex is perfect, it is all working out great but suddenly you decide to break up, find someone better or just try to find someone who you would care more for.

isn´t love suppost to last for ever? What happens then?

If I knew the answer to this question I would be the richest woman in the world. Maybe I would have found love, too, but alas I have not.

 

[Christopherb36]

You break up because you begin to hate their guts. The sight of this person makes you want to kill them. The sound of their voice on your answering machine begins to haunt you in your sleep as you wake from dreams of impaling them with a can opener or splitting their head open with a dull, rusty steak knife. Lovers break up because one of you is fucking someone else and last time you checked you were not in an open relationship, because if you were you would have accepted that plane ticket from that hot doctor that you met on the cruise with your parents. You break up because you just cannot stand to look at their fat, fucking ass sitting on your sofa eating ice cream and telling you how fat they are...no shit, fat ass, goes through your head and then you realize you are using your outside voice to say it...hmmm...

This is at least what I have heard, anyway...