Why do people

[MrBarbrey]

okay so i've been withthis chick for a month now and her and i have wanted to be together for a long time she keeps saying she has this emplyness inside form her ex blah blah her firstl voe all that shit i love her i'm in love withher i try soo hard to show her i love her and i'm etter then him but really why do people hold on to their exs that she just is sprung up on him i mean myself i'm a good boyfriend i do whatever it takes i'm loving not a total asshole i will give them my last penny whatever i'm the total fucking package and i still get this shit i'm done with opening up and loving i asked her well this is what was said

me-why are you still holding on to him what the fuck does he that fucking cunt have that i dont

she said because i was with him for 2 years, i was completely and totally in love with him, i was head over heels for him, he completed me, he was my other half, he was EVERYTHING to me .. and everything with me and him just ended .. so abruptly with no reason .. just goodbye and that was it .. and we have so many unresolved issues .. its hard tolet go of someone like that .


shes always holding on to something why cant she just let go of him and relize shes got better i mean fuck


sorry for the typos i'm really upset i gave this girl my heart and shes slowly crushing it

 

[looseliam]

Hiya,

I moved your thread into a no-flame, on-topic forum, as I think it'll be better there.

As for the topic at hand, I don't think you can really have a relationship with someone who his still pining for the X.

And you wouldn't want her to project her feelings for him onto you, only to realise years from now she never really loved you.

Keep your distance, and let her heal.

Stop now, before you're entirely squished.

 

[MrBarbrey]

they have been over since the summer and she still it's just messed up

 

[looseliam]

It can take a while for the wounds to heal.

When I broke up with my first love years back, it too me almost a year to get over her.

 

[MrBarbrey]

after me and mine broke up it took a few months then we made our peace and that was that maybe i should just go gay and give guys a try lol

 

[looseliam]

There's heart-ache no matter whom you love.

 

[kayman23]

On you going gay, hmmmmmmmmmmmmm..........

Anyways, back to topic at hand. You should just keep your distance and let her deal because if she is still pining over him in her eyes you will always be 2nd not 1st. You need somebody that will be thinking about you and only you. Whomever or whatever (female or male) they are.

FYI, you are not too bad looking, so I wouldn't turn you down if you did hit on me.

 

[hummer7979]

after me and mine broke up it took a few months then we made our peace and that was that maybe i should just go gay and give guys a try lol

lol -- you can't really "go gay" unless you decide you're not at all into women, which doesn't seem like the case. You can give guys a try and "go bi" though, if you're bi-curious.

 

[JayHew]

Sounds like she is not over him and likely not to get there for now. Though it might hurt, leave. Keep her out, you will always be second fiddle at least. Sorry but that is the way it looks and once there, usually stays there.

As for being gay, it is not something turned on or off. Besides guys can be just as fickle or worse. Really. Best thing to do is establish a relationship and from the get go open and complete communication no matter what.

 

[IrishBilly]

women who fucking needs them..been there done that dont care to deal with it again

 

[SilverRRCloud]

If she chooses to be the prisoner of her past, there is little you can do about it.

I would hate the idea of being the second best choice, once the first one left her in tears.

Maybe she needs the time to heal and recover. Actually, everybody does. You have been putting up with it for a while. Decide, when is it that you are done and tell her. If it is the time to move on, do so...

SC

 

[ejbonk]

1. either give her time to heal and seek closure with her ex.
or
2. Leave her and find a new Girlfriend.
or
3. Give being Bi a try. lol

That's it in a nutshell.

Appearently her Ex was a big part of her so called life.

Just tell her to share her problems about her Ex with her girlfriends,because hearing about him is upsetting you and placing a strain on your relationship with her. Be blunt,but kind and understanding when you tell her this.

 

[TygreBryte]

dude, I don't think she's going to warm to you the way you want her to any time soon (actually when people talk about having an "emptyness" inside, I think that's kind of a bad sign...). I'm afraid it sounds to me like a "if you love something, let it go" kind of situation -- from *your* end.

don't sell yourself short, or hook up with someone else who does, either.

 

[MrBarbrey]

Update on new years we spent the night together and after that night we have got alot closer i can see in her eyes that she is letting go of and and that she really does love me so everytihng is now on the right track i can feel it the way you hold each other and kiss and yea you get the idea but thank you guys for all your advice

 

[ejbonk]

Dude,Keep Us Posted. I do not beleive we have heard the end to this yet.

Update on new years we spent the night together and after that night we have got alot closer i can see in her eyes that she is letting go of and and that she really does love me so everytihng is now on the right track i can feel it the way you hold each other and kiss and yea you get the idea but thank you guys for all your advice

 

[TygreBryte]

Nice to hear, B. Hope that continues to work out for you. Thanks for the update.